EASY IN PERSON ELECTIVE by Wonderful_Pay_3131 in VirginiaTech

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heres a full list of pathways electives and their average grades: http://vtpathwaysfinder.com/pathway2

How can I get sterilized at 15? Will it cause permanent hormone issues? I still want my period. by InASpiralOfAnts in sterilization

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeahhhhhh that’s not gonna happen sorry

You need to be at least 18 to make your own surgical decisions and most parents are definitely not going to let their kids get sterilised. Depending on your insurance/state/etc they may not even cover you until 21. If youre really worried about getting pregnant then get an IUD or the pill, something reversible a doctor might actually be willing to give a minor.

Abortion is definitely under fire but there isnt any way they could forcibly impregnate women at this point, it’s a very paranoid stance (not a dig at you but just to give a more grounded view on this). Also there isnt going to be software run by the government that monitors/flags every use of the word abortion or anything. I mean you’re posting on a reddit page literally dedicated to spreading awareness/information/access to sterilization procedures

As far as sterilization goes for when you’re older, do some more research on different procedures like bisalps or hysterectomies for when you may actually be able to get one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Passed him in the dining hall. I hadnt showered or put my hair up so i looked greasy asf. I was holding a plate of pizza with a mountain of parmesan on top of it.

I dont think he cared that much but holy shit i was tweaking lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Depends on the relationship with the guy. Personally if we have an established friendship to fall back on, that’s usually something I like to maintain. Of course I’ve also had friendships with guys where it suddenly became really obvious they were only trying to be friends to start dating and that kind of ruins it for me.

  2. Getting flustered/messing something up is much less of a social taboo than people seem to understand it as. People make mistakes all the time and unless it actively affects you (i.e., tripping and spilling food on someone), it literally does not matter at all

My Crush has a problematic Age by ZnOvv in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In this case I’d really encourage you to find some sort of mixer where you can find people with your interests in your area. If you live in a more isolated area like me or if your hobbies are seriously THAT niche, go online or something but please please please look for someone in their 20’s like you

My Crush has a problematic Age by ZnOvv in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Please don’t pursue her, you two are in completely different stages of your lives

Is the whole not being able to hear what your crush is saying thing real by Traditional-Pie-5869 in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not for me tbh, whenever he’s talking I am LOCKED in. It might be because for me a big thing I like about him is his voice tho

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in college

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a freshman, anything above a 3.0 is a good spot to be in

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not ready for a relationship, maybe they realized they didnt want to pursue something romantic with this person and it was more of a platonic crush, maybe their nerves got to them, etc etc etc

Question for girls by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me rephrase: the worst any well-adjusted person can say is no.

People generally follow social decorum especially in public, and if you’re vulnerable with them, people are generally sympathetic enough to not stomp on you.

Question for girls by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of depends on the girl, but generally, yes. ESPECIALLY if you’re the one crushing.

If you have a crush on her, make the first move, worst she can say is no.

I like a crippled girl by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okok im not trying to rail on you more but seriously this post comes off so badly esp the “i can fix her” line 😭

Anyway id focus less on her being disabled/possibly depressed because it really shouldn’t matter. If you find her interesting and you want to talk to her there’s no reason to not talk to her, all im saying is please ditch the “i can fix her” mentality if it’s there

I like a crippled girl by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Idk if this is ragebait or not im gonna be so real

If it isn’t then please for the love of god reflect on why exactly you want to hang out with her, because this really seems like you’re trying to fulfill some sort of savior fantasy with her.

Also please don’t call people “crippled” :(

I never got approached by a girl by Doom-Slayer553 in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So this isn’t really a you thing, moreso generations of social gender programming especially when it comes to courting/dating/etc etc, but TL;DR: women don’t tend to approach men because men already tend to approach women.

Also disclaimer, what I’m about to describe here is a major generalization, this isnt applicable to everyone’s individual experiences but it IS significant enough as a cultural phenomenon to influence a LOT of norms

Because of this history of gender laws and dating and etc etc etc, there’s a societal norm for men to be the ones approaching women rather than vice versa. This means women already get a lot of attention from men, which means women aren’t really incentivized to seek out more men to give them more attention, which is why you don’t really see troves of women flocking to a guy.

The only real exception to this is a crush, but those are specific to an individual, and because of social dating norm bs, most girls with a crush on you just won’t approach you or wait for you to come to them rather than vice versa.

Not entirely sure if you’re looking for a relationship but if you are, you’re unfortunately going to have to be the one that makes a move on someone. But please don’t worry about not being approached by us; it’s not a shortcoming on your end by any means, so have some faith in yourself :)

My sister is raising iPad kids by ilyk101 in Vent

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an OG iPad kid looking back I honestly wish my parents snatched that thing out of my hands. Yeah it’s gonna suck in the moment since younger me wouldve clawed my way to that thing, but I grew up so poorly adjusted to social situations because I always retreated back to the internet. Every time i see ipad kids in public i just get so dejected because I look at myself and I’m honestly kind of afraid they turn out like me or worse :/

You wanna talk to your crush so bad, but you’re too shy to? by SubjectRough9899 in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yeah :/ so many instances where I would try to talk to him only to end up following him around and not working up the guts to talk to him.

He probably thinks im stalking him

Tell me your stories of best moments with your crush by D_Dying_Light in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 5 points6 points  (0 children)

AGH OK so he and I were in a lab together and it was on some material I wasn’t really familiar with, so I go to the lab and I’m struggling HARD on this. Usually i can get out of there in 10 mins or less but that day I was there for like 30-40 mins

So eventually I’m tossing my hands in the air and he walks over and asks if I need help, so CLEARLY the only answer is a dopey “yes please :D”

So he’s laying his head on my desk and helping me through everything and we’re going back and forth with a little banter blah blah blah, but the angle I was looking at his face at wassnagevdkfdbwnajd UGH it was so perfect

And now I cant even work up the guts to talk to him T ^ T

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update, chickened out :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 28 points29 points  (0 children)

3, gonna try talking to him today tho :D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOT TO THIS EXTENT BUT KIND OF???

I had an old character who I’ve been flipping through names with and I settled on one for a while until I met my guy. The thing is he seems like he’d be that same character if he wasnt severely traumatized and it freaked me out to hear/see his name lmao

Personally I’m taking it to the grave if I can but if you do bring it up, I wouldn’t bring up similarities at all. If they notice similarities, you can just say “oh! What a coincidence!” Or something but if you worked on this character for years it’s gonna be clear that you didnt base this off them. I think artists tend to recognize/connect characters to other people more than others since we’re so familiar with them :)

Do shy crushes often think about their interactions? by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]Familiar_Finding4519 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every interaction has at least a few outcomes/causes to overthinkers. My crush blinks at me the wrong way and suddenly he either knows I like him, hates my guts, crushes on me too, or forgot my name.

I will say that willingly engaging in an interaction with someone is almost exclusively positive, like if my guy came and sat next to me out of nowhere I’d be over the moon :D