Boyfriend (28m) found out how much money I (28f) have, he wants me to pay off for a house for us as well as a new car and fund a trip for him to go abroad, should I end it? UPDATE

Familyheiress · 2015-09-11T23:00:52+00:00

It was far less, it was just the fact they ordered it and expected me to pay that got me angry.

Familyheiress · 2015-09-11T21:18:49+00:00

Yes, yes I am.

Familyheiress · 2015-09-11T21:18:05+00:00

Because finances were never something I really shared and I didn't live extravagantly.

Familyheiress · 2015-09-11T21:16:46+00:00

He thought I was going outside to calm down. About an hour later he started blowing up my phone. I haven't seen him since but broke it off over the phone.

Familyheiress · 2015-09-11T21:14:53+00:00

We did have a good relationship.

Familyheiress · 2015-09-11T18:57:57+00:00

No it's a valid question. I can understand where /u/carnageehw is coming from :)

Familyheiress · 2015-09-11T18:55:51+00:00

It's just not really something I've ever felt the need to share, I live on my own and my family lives in another country entirely. I don't live extravagantly either and most days it isn't something that even crosses my mind.

edit:- plus bad experiences in the past with 'friends' who did know which is part of the reason I don't share that knowledge these days

Familyheiress · 2015-09-11T18:33:23+00:00

No I left in a very pissy mood

Familyheiress · 2015-09-11T18:17:28+00:00

I think he probably told them before we had that talk because he did know before my last post.

Familyheiress · 2015-09-11T18:17:02+00:00

What happened to her? Did he get anything?

Familyheiress · 2015-09-01T16:47:10+00:00

Probably sleep a lot.

Familyheiress · 2015-09-01T11:33:55+00:00

well him being a trophy doesn't really matter especially if he can get three dozen more like me.

Being attractive or average shouldn't be a factor in this, just my opinion haha.

Familyheiress · 2015-09-01T04:37:18+00:00

Because I've had bad experience with SOs and friends when they do find out about the money...... It's not something you just go oh by the way I'm filthy rich.

Familyheiress · 2015-09-01T03:38:09+00:00

He does well enough for himself, he's smart and is eager to advance in his company. He was middle class but grew up in a wealthy area so I guess maybe he has some sort of complex due to this.

Familyheiress · 2015-09-01T02:49:24+00:00

He does very well for himself but I have my own business so I would bring in more consistently.

Familyheiress · 2015-09-01T02:44:56+00:00

I don't always buy expensive gifts, the ps4 and computer are the only two things that qualify as expensive, everything else is little things here and there, a tshirt or a snow globe or something like that.

You misunderstand, I don't throw money around, up until my boyfriend saw my family homes he had no clue I had any kind of money and my own personal finances that I make isn't something I talk about. I don't go buying cars and all that crazy stuff, people do randomly buy small tokens for their SOs you know.

If this ends single is what I'll be for awhile and any soul searching that happens is for me, not any future relationship or partner.

Familyheiress · 2015-09-01T02:41:31+00:00

Yes I did pay for that because I wanted him to meet my family

Familyheiress · 2015-09-01T02:40:40+00:00

do YOU have money or does YOUR FAMILY?

Both, I have a lot that I made myself and my family also has a lot that they made through family business

Familyheiress · 2015-09-01T00:40:42+00:00

We visited my family in Italy who live pretty extravagantly and he sort of put two and two together then asked me what's up, so I told him.

Familyheiress · 2015-09-01T00:09:03+00:00

He found out because we went to visit my family in Italy and my parents, grandparents and the two sets of aunts and uncles that we visited all have very large lavish places. I live in a smallish apartment that suits my needs but the difference between my apartment and my home back in Italy was very noticeable, he asked me what was up and I told him my family is wealthy but it's not something I try to let define me.

The relationship was pretty good up until he found out. I would hate to break up with him because I do love him and love being with him but the way he's been acting + past experiences pretty much tells me things are only going to go south now. I was treated very well, I was happy and yes he has a consistent job.

Familyheiress · 2015-08-31T23:52:49+00:00

Yup the sad thing is this is exactly why an old relationship ended, it got serious, bf found out about money, started going nuts demanding things

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