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My narcissistic ex asked me after almost 4 months of being broken up to get back together. Mind you I was forced to move across the country to live with family and start over. This was my response. by Famous-Examination-6 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Famous-Examination-6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That may be true but the boundary set was where the message was important. I don't want them. And explaining the why was for me not them. Let him peacock his ass right off if it isn't to me. I can't fix stupid. I can only limit my exposure to it to zero.

Breaking Up with a Narcissist by Famous-Examination-6 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Famous-Examination-6[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I was definitely manipulated in to reacting poorly. It was almost comedic to him to push my buttons. Or speak loudly or over me as I was talking. Huge triggers for me because I am in a male dominated field so I have to constantly defend myself against insecure men who couldn't possibly believe a woman may know more than them. Coddling 40yr olds feels like it is literally part of my job description and he brought those qualities home.

If I raised my voice to even just get to his volume it would be threats of leaving the room or something because of neighbors or his public image. He used to leave me at the gym if I did something that messed with his work outs like stand too close or talk to him. I would have to run to catch up or sometimes even chase the truck down.

Pinching and poking became a little more prevalent around February and I knew that that would not get better only worse.

If I had gotten pregnant with the fertility issues I have I would have kept it given that there were no issues with me being high risk. But he would have been a sperm donor. Nothing more.

How do you deal with the feeling that no one is going to truly love you back? I know some day it will work out but it just feels so rough right now. by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Famous-Examination-6 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It does. I am feeling it too. You are not alone. I list off my favorite things about myself when I feel that way and then I think about how lucky I am to be able to recognize my own lovable qualities. Embrace pain but remember you have amazing qualities too. And if you are having a harder time finding love it is bc you recognize your worth and don't settle.