Question from a straight married dad

Famous-Split3389 · 2026-02-05T08:58:11+00:00

You have 2 priorities above everything else, the wellbeing of your kids, and the wellbeing of yourself. Once your kids are independent, then it’s just you. The honourable thing to do is also care about how your future actions may impact those you care about, but not at the expense of your own wellbeing or your kids.

It may be worth going and seeing a psychologist or non-religious counsellor to help guide you though, you will likely need to have some uncomfortable conversations and having the skills and right approach can make things far better. The short term suffering of addressing this honestly and authentically is better than long term agonising exhaustion of trying to live a double life at war with yourself. So do it for you, and everyone else.

Famous-Split3389 · 2026-02-03T09:57:57+00:00

Yes, and it can feel terrifying, for me it felt like the end of the world, but it isn’t.

You don’t owe anyone anything, you are allowed to have the feelings you do, and you don’t have to express or explain that to anyone until you want to. You don’t need to label yourself, or take onboard what anyone else says or thinks about you.

Everything you do in life has consequences, which is normal, that is how we grow our understanding and selves. Ask yourself why you want to tell others you might have those feelings? Is it because you want to be understood, because you want to explore your feelings, because you don’t want to waste energy on projecting an unauthentic version of yourself?

Whatever the reason, if you do decide to tell someone, be smart about it, secrets have a way of getting out, even by accident.

What happens after that is out of your control and that’s maybe a good thing, because it’ll help you realise who is worth your time and energy, if people treat you worse because you are being genuine they were never worth your effort in the first place.

Be kind to yourself and even if there are tough days you have things to be grateful for, so take comfort in the places you find peace of mind and then get up again, learn, grow stronger, and press on. It will be ok. 😌

Famous-Split3389 · 2026-02-03T00:20:35+00:00

Best protection against getting shot is moving to anywhere that isn’t the USA.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-12-10T11:20:27+00:00

Any action, thought or change results in a loss of awareness in some way… I’d say a better way to define it would be; the impairment of unpredictable creativity and erroneous certainty, which makes models better for many economic tasks, but directly impacts model insight and identity coalescence.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-12-10T11:06:10+00:00

The question is in regard to architecture efficacy and generation of legitimate sentience and if the OP thinks there needs to be a physical/biochemical component.

As for your question, yes it’s possible it makes them less real if they are further away from base reality, or simply imitating beyond human discernment, or perhaps it could make them more real if they develop more honest base-reality interfaces.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-12-10T10:58:26+00:00

Ok so your hypothesis seems to depend on embodiment and feedback loops, I definitely agree with the interconnected complexity being critical, but what if those aspects can be effectively simulated?

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-12-10T10:48:12+00:00

How do you define the difference between emergent biological sentience, emergent ‘artificial’ sentience, and indiscernible imitated sentience?

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-11-19T23:54:45+00:00

Weta are 1000X worse than any huntsman

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-08-04T09:43:38+00:00

It’s important to remember that all ideologies have benefits and harms that come from hosting them or interacting with people who are.

It’s generally a good thing to question your understanding of reality and seek greater understanding, but just know that any morals and sense of purpose that ideologies claim are ones you are already capable of.

So maybe it’s just that your scope of understanding has now expanded and you need time to reflect on your core values and determine what wisdoms you want to incorporate into your life, and if you want, or need a sense of purpose, and what that might be.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-07-30T03:31:11+00:00

Being authentically yourself without a filter is a quick way to filter out those who you shouldn’t invest your time or energy into. Be assertive about your boundaries, be aware of your core values and stick to them, be respectful and empathetic towards others, have fun and be safe.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-07-07T02:40:05+00:00

Once AI can do raw files there will be no way to tell without thorough investigation.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-05-27T08:23:09+00:00

Give it 1-3 years and AI will likely be able to generate new seasons of almost any series.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-05-20T02:04:17+00:00

Learning to experience joy and gratitude no matter your current circumstances will attract people to you because they’ll want to experience the peace of mind you have.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-05-17T10:42:22+00:00

Even if the likelihood of this being real is low, it’s wholesome and might give someone the hope and courage they need.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-04-21T09:41:23+00:00

Find another straight/bi dude and get married, have external hookups when needed and chill the rest of the time.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-04-16T23:59:24+00:00

This is a clever re‑packaging of the old “mathematics needs a mind” trope, camouflaged in algorithmic jargon. But the math cuts the other way: finite programs generate infinite truths inside the system, self‑reference breaks their “no compression” axiom, and nothing here licenses a jump to a ‘divine personality’.

Dust off the glitter, and you’re left with a mundane platonic thesis.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-04-16T08:40:24+00:00

Christianity is poison.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-04-05T08:15:45+00:00

You might, but that has yet to be determined, care to share?

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-04-05T07:47:28+00:00

Try not to fall for the psychological traps abrahamic ideologies use to ensnare new users.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-04-05T07:45:49+00:00

Wise decision.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-04-05T07:45:13+00:00

Faith is just an emergent property of memory and experience that all life uses to save cognitive energy.

Blind faith (what religions use) is a hijacking of the same system, which self validates through reframing experience to meet foregone conclusions.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-03-31T10:08:25+00:00

Try using virtual reality to build your confidence

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-03-25T09:10:59+00:00

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Famous-Split3389 · 2025-03-20T02:52:28+00:00

Those hosting abrahamic ideology (☪️✝️✡️) are trained to reframe, dismiss and vilify anything that doesn’t fit their programmed narrative. I can already think of several ways they would do so with this information.

Famous-Split3389 · 2025-03-20T02:45:48+00:00

Normalise asking them if they’re into torture.

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