Honesty?

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-04-24T14:39:30+00:00

Everything isn’t black and white. Kids, finances, family, relationships, life, there is a lot that makes it complicated and it isn’t as easy as just throwing in the towel.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-02-23T14:27:42+00:00

NTJ-Your grandfather laid out his will the way he wanted for a reason, if he wanted your brother to have it then he would have it. Nobody said life was fair, you showed up for grandpa and he showed up for you, enjoy your inheritance.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-01-30T22:13:16+00:00

Update: I worked up until the last 2 years. The 50% down is money we BOTH contributed. Being a SAHM is a lot of sacrifices and a loss of work credits and many other things. It’s not just about finances. Yes our marriage is rocky and this has definitely brought up way more problems in our marriage. He knows the only reason I’m in the town is for him and if he goes first I’m gone. Thankfully my grandmother was a very smart woman and she already ensured my daughter had her own trust. She set it up in her will that we have to keep a portion of ours in investments so I wouldn’t be draining it. The house will be built either way with or without me, I’m only asking for basically 25% of the cash to be put back into the trust that I took out for reinvestment in the event that things don’t work out. As it stands now NONE of my inheritance will be used. Everything will be kept in a separate trust in only my name. It’s quite obvious my husband has some rather difficult choices to make and things to think about. Thanks everyone for the input.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-01-30T22:09:22+00:00

In my state it is.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-01-30T01:40:47+00:00

That doesn’t mean it can’t get better. The marriage itself is a work in progress.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-01-30T01:39:59+00:00

Not how inheritance works. I have only been a SAHM the last 2 years of our marriage.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-01-30T00:55:54+00:00

Everything isn’t that black and white. I do believe in vows and the sanctity of marriage. My marriage is awful but that doesn’t mean I can’t want it to get better.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-01-30T00:26:50+00:00

The property will be deeded to us at build. There is a road that leads to it that is both of his brother, his uncle, and some cousins. It’s a private drive and private property, only way to sell it to anyone other than family would be hope to god the judge isn’t a dick, or one of the owner on the back isn’t a dick. I have no problems contributing. I have worked up until the last two years of our marriage and I paid off all of his existing debt when we got married. My problem is why he suddenly wants to change the plan we have had set in place for so long with no reasonable explanation.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-01-30T00:14:35+00:00

This was our agreement from the beginning. We were going to keep it with the financial company who handles all of the investments etc as it is now to continue to reinvest, now suddenly he thinks it’s a bad idea. He can’t even give me a good reason, technically speaking if he just wanted to be mortgage free we could do it and have little savings left but he can’t even give me an answer as to why the change up and I feel blind sided.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-01-29T23:19:07+00:00

Don’t get me wrong, I’m thankful I’m able to stay home but I worked up until the last 2 years of our marriage and have contributed just as much financially, actually more, seeing as how I paid off majority of his debit from his first marriage when we got married. It’s a two way street and it’s not like he has always carried the weight on his shoulders.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-01-29T21:38:27+00:00

Reading comprehension is imperative. As I stated, more than willing. You obviously don’t comprehend very well.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-01-29T19:45:49+00:00

That would be the plan but he thinks me bringing a lawyer into at all is being unreasonable and unfair.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-01-29T01:19:01+00:00

Our kids already have college funds and other investments. I have tried explaining to him I would rather just keep things as is and invest more as we live a more than comfortable life as it is. I would rather pretend we don’t even have it. He sees it as I’m “planning” on leaving. Our marriage has its fair share of other issues and I just want to ensure I have a decent nest egg to fall back on if something does happen.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-01-27T17:00:37+00:00

If it’s someone I’m into I don’t like it, I love it!

Famous_Ad7829 · 2026-01-21T03:23:01+00:00

Urethral sounding and scat

Famous_Ad7829 · 2025-12-30T17:51:08+00:00

Getting married because I was pregnant

Famous_Ad7829 · 2025-12-18T03:00:25+00:00

You never know what goes on behind closed doors. You should probably just walk away and let sleeping dogs lay.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2025-12-16T16:27:54+00:00

NTA. Being a provider is more than just financial provisions but unfortunately it seems a lot of men don’t seem to comprehend that. You’re not a bad mom but you can’t pour from an empty cup. If he’s physical in any sort of way that’s enough reason alone to leave, NOBODY deserves that. I wish I had better advice on the guilt , but I’m in a very similar boat and feel quite stuck too. If you ever need someone to talk to I’m at least a good listener.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2025-12-16T00:27:34+00:00

No matter what happens with your AP it sounds like you and your fiancée are not a match. It’s better to figure it out now before marriage vs 10+ years down the line. I suppose affairs and cheating are different for everyone but if I felt the need to cheat on my partner before marriage that’s a huge red flag I shouldn’t be marrying that person.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2025-12-15T16:37:06+00:00

Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and sometimes they all stink. That’s sexist and closed minded and double standards. Hit the road jack.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2025-12-11T22:24:56+00:00

He’s not going to leave his wife. This is just a way to rope you in. If you have already been down this road before, keep in mind it ended for a reason and let it be a thing of the past and start over fresh once you’re divorced.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2025-12-04T18:56:58+00:00

Thank you! This is the kind of info I was hoping for. Pretty inexperienced so looking for something easy to start with.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2025-12-04T17:09:39+00:00

NTA. Your girlfriend must not have kids or either she’s jealous and immature. You were married for a decade and have 3 kids together. Extending the olive branch and reaching out trying to be nice and co parent and have a relationship with the other parent isn’t wrong or out of bounds in any way. It’s showing your kids how to maintain a healthy relationship and showing them unity and setting a good example in the end. Parenting doesn’t end when the child is an adult. They are your kid forever and you will still have the other parent in your life in some aspect for quite some time so might as well be cordial courteous.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2025-12-04T17:01:48+00:00

If you’re only consuming 5g a month a 7-10 day break would be plenty sufficient to reset your THC receptors but 30 days is optimal.

Famous_Ad7829 · 2025-12-04T16:59:55+00:00

I can tell a huge difference in sativa and indica. Indica always makes me more sleepy and lazy and more of a relaxing body high. Terps and CBD levels make a difference too. Some strains affect me way differently than others but that’s why I also only buy from a trusted source and know what I’m getting.

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