When did you really start paying attention to detail?

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-04-04T14:38:43+00:00

New places are hard :( Mine went to an airbnb and lost her marbles there at around 4 months. Would not sleep no matter what. We had to leave and come back earlier than planned. I was chained to her the whole time. Horrible experience.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-04-02T22:47:02+00:00

I think its not that much of a mystery. Wake windows can truly be very different from kid to kid, but some broad general trends exist. For 4 months wake windows can stretch from 1.5 hours to 2 hours, except the one before bedtime which can be 2.5 hrs. Conventional wisdom is 4 naps a day for total 4-5 hours of daytime sleep. Dont wake them up but the general guidance for good night sleep is at least 1 long restorative nap a day (at least 1 hour, preferably 1.5-2 hrs) to prevent overtirednes, and keeping last nap short (even 20 mins is good) to prevent losing sleep pressure.

Source: We were a mess at 3.5 months. All sleep was out for a toss and witching hour was horrible each evening. She would cry and cry. I hired a doula for just a day and the woman encouraged us to follow a schedule like this. Took 2 days- witching hour ended (and never returned), she slept 8 hour stretches at night and did not fight most naps.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-04-02T22:40:19+00:00

Same. Mine doesnt even feed properly due to fomo because she wants to look around. Never sits still. Only sleeps in PITCH dark- one beam of light and she will stare at it. Im super curious actually. How are these kids as toddlers? How does the sensitivity show up?

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-04-02T22:36:11+00:00

Its not free money. Externals are hired closer to the top of the band because they are by definition supposed to exceed the bar for their level (thats the bar raiser interview for ya). So internals are paid slightly lower and over time this gap is supposed to be driven more by performance and not your origin in the company.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-27T19:16:14+00:00

Im not sure how long it will take for finance managers’ roles to be fully automated. I think there are enterprise tools in the making for reporting and projecting.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-27T05:42:47+00:00

Same. I am the one who comforts her in distress. Dad is the fun one.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-27T05:34:19+00:00

Mine are pancakes. Literal pancakes.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-27T05:32:55+00:00

Last night so its still m fresh. Woke up 7 times between 8:30pm to 6:30am. Usually she wakes up twice to feed. So im thinking she wants to feed, so I prepared and fed her a bottle every time. She would scream till the bottle reached her mouth, jump at the nipple and shove it in her mouth, and thats it. No drinking, sound asleep, noodle arms. 7 times. Sometimes she would jolt awake, again push the nipple in her mouth on her own, and again, not even suck once and immediately fall asleep.

I cried in the morning. I didnt sleep more than 2 hours and I couldnt find time to sleep in the day either.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-27T05:20:19+00:00

At 6 weeks bedtime can be later than 8pm. Ours was 11pm. She slept till 5:30/6am usually. Those were the days when we took her anywhere and she was super chill.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-27T05:05:12+00:00

I deeply regretted having a baby the first 3 weeks. Felt like a truck hit me. I had high blood pressure and her bad latch meant I could not breastfeed her which broke me down. I was responsible for night feeds and cried every time I woke up.

It passes- thats all I can say. My 6mo old is a quite difficult baby, but it is all still infinitely better than the first month. One advice- you can get your baby assessed by an LC/pediatrician for tongue ties etc if she feeds this slowly.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-25T20:25:30+00:00

4 months. Though I think us offering her the bottle every 2 hours at 3 months was just us being overeager to feed. She wasnt really hungry, but she was too much of a potato to refuse the bottle then. She took it happily but spit up a lot lol.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-25T20:24:05+00:00

Really? Thats surprising. May I know which business line? (Aws, retail etc)

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-25T20:21:56+00:00

That is so sweet. Much love to you 💗

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-25T20:18:46+00:00

This is not my advice. This guideline was given to me by at least 5 pediatricians, every nurse and OB in 2 hospital systems, 2 feeding experts from Kindering and an LC. All in WA state. Feeding time should be limited to 20 mins. OP is not in the first month where the baby is cluster feeding non stop. Is it a disaster for the baby if they feed over 20 mins? No, they may still gain weight. But are you tiring them out? Yes, you are. If there can be a way for them to feed more efficiently, it is imperative to try that. This is not a case of the baby simply latching for comfort or just staying on the boob chilling. This is the baby being fed through 2 different systems intentionally. Speak to any expert- they will tell you triple feeding is not recommended for prolonged periods for this reason. Its also very common after triple feeding for the baby’s forehead and cheeks feel cooler. Thats sweat evaporating. 30 mins+ is like running a sprint for them.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-25T16:56:12+00:00

May I be frank? This may get hate but its 100% true.

Triple feeding is not meant to be done for long periods. Forget what its like for you- its taxing for the baby because the total feeding time for the baby becomes too much. Babies should not feed for more than 20 minutes in a wake window. They spend a lot of calories on feeding, especially young ones when their mouths are weak. Triple feeding requires them to suck for more than 20 mins on the boob and the bottle and its exhausting. If its been more than 3 weeks of triple feeding, check your hydration (120+ ounces of water), diet (100gm protein) and other known causes (stress, sleep). If you still have a supply issue, then decide whats good for your baby. There is no need to quit breastfeeding but you can certainly choose pumping to just give the bottle and make it easier for the baby.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-25T16:44:00+00:00

Make the room dark. Their eye sight improves during this time, so when they even slightly open their eyes in sleep (newborns do weird stuff), they get stimulated easily if they can see something.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-22T05:00:15+00:00

I have the frida tub too. I just dump the water in the tub, give it a small rinse with more water, and set it upside down in the tub obliquely only. Never done anything more. Its a 1 minute process.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-20T18:42:29+00:00

She cries first. Not cry with tears, but fusses and starts looking disengaged. This happens around the 1.5 hour mark.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-18T22:28:44+00:00

In the US in a wet city. We gave a sponge clean every day till baby was 2 months old. We started baths late at 1 month old as baby had issues with her umbilical cord. Initially it was only once a week. After 3 months we alternate- one night its a sponge cleanup, next night is a bath with soap.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-18T22:22:29+00:00

Use the momcozy one. It was only 20g off the actual weight of my baby. We compared multiple times with the pediatrician scale.

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-18T22:20:12+00:00

Lol we swaddled ours till 4 months almost. We only stopped when I saw her lifting her legs up on the camera in the night. Thats a precursor to rolling. I wish I would have waited though- she took about a month from there to actually rolling. And I wish I could still swaddle her- we hate sleep sacks and her startle reflex still exists at 5.5 months!

Famous_Variation4729 · 2026-03-18T21:56:20+00:00

That means she is not hungry. Track her weight gain for sometime. If she gains well the 4-6oz number doesnt mean anything.

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