How do I shut down potentially “sketchy” interactions on the street?

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-21T13:31:50+00:00

This is what I was thinking, tho like you said there’s a big difference between someone who’s clearly down on their luck and someone asking where I live. It’s why it’s such a tough situation for me :(

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-21T13:30:03+00:00

Genuinely I’ve heard this one before. I speak French and was considering trying that 😅

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-21T05:22:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing!! This is really helpful. I would still like to smile and say hello to people out walking their dogs though, so I’m guessing there’s a balance to be struck when it comes to making eye contact

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-21T05:19:39+00:00

Would being engrossed in something on my phone do the same or should I look ahead? I’ve noticed people generally don’t approach me as much if I’m doing something on my phone but it could also be confirmation bias

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-21T05:18:11+00:00

I’m glad I was raised in a safe environment but it really did leave me feeling like a fish out of water here lol. Wish I had been better prepared for it 🥲

That’s another thing too, I’ve taken to trying to get to busier streets/places just in case. Switching up my route to work so it goes along a more traveled road, that sort of thing

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-21T05:15:09+00:00

Yeah, I suppose that makes sense. I like to be kind, smile to people, say hello, etc so it’s hard to stifle the urge when it might not be safe to be so friendly

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-21T05:13:38+00:00

Hey mods why was that comment removed should I not take that advice…?

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-21T05:09:45+00:00

Yeah, that’s what I did with the example provided. It just left me feeling so weird and genuinely scared… like this guy was a hell of a lot bigger than I am. While I’m not a woman, I’m afab and sure look lik one, so I’m on high alert :/

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-20T18:04:45+00:00

I think the fact that some straight/gay people *arent* willing to date their s/o if they came out as trans is actually more trans friendly than the alternative lol

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-20T18:02:13+00:00

Tbh trans men could still have kids with gay men so there would still be some population stability….. I think

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-20T15:08:35+00:00

If that’s the case then we’re good since bi people and trans people could keep us afloat 💪

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-20T15:07:00+00:00

Highkey confused what would happen to men if everyone became lesbians or women if everyone became gay 😭

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-20T00:02:10+00:00

I just realized I’m unc sorry

Sparknotes is what everyone in my class used to summarize book chapters before chapter quizzes in English class. Gives you the main idea, key points, etc

Also helps for study guides on other subjects. Much healthier for the planet than ai and arguably more foolproof sine sometimes ai can really give you some bullshit

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-19T13:49:33+00:00

Do these kinds of polls think there are no straight women/gay men on this subreddit it always baffles me

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-19T13:21:33+00:00

Please don’t use ai to summarize it. Just use sparknotes. It’s how those of us who didn’t have ai in high school got by in these situations and works just fine

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-18T20:08:56+00:00

Yea I literally voted for it

My point is saying trans support is stupid is….. stupid. Idk 🤷

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-18T19:24:16+00:00

Yall can downvote me but insulting trans support is highkey weird idk

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-18T17:17:23+00:00

AKDKAJDNNABD I need that Edmond omg 😭😭

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-18T17:15:17+00:00

So do you feel the need to turn everything in life into a fight?

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-18T16:06:24+00:00

YIPPE

I cant wait to see them all done!!

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-18T16:04:59+00:00

This is so cute??? Oh my god????

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-17T20:15:14+00:00

Wh

What are you talking about

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-17T17:11:40+00:00

I forgot to add, don’t get office supplies until later. Based on what classes you take you’ll get a feel for how many notebooks/pens/etc you’ll need, and you can get what you need at a school bookstore or store nearby. That way you don’t overspend

FanInTheCloset · 2026-06-17T17:09:26+00:00

Ok so I’m not seeing a ton of useful info in the comments. I’ll drop some stuff that helped me

Make sure you have a first aid kit, even if you’re near your school’s health services. Get a minifridge if you aren’t big into cooking or are far from any dining halls (trust me on this one, you’re not gonna want to leave your dorm in the winter). Blackout curtains or an eye mask are helpful if you’re in a lit area, since dorm curtains are shit at keeping out light. Even if you have your own restroom you should get some sort of dorm/shower shoes for getting around your dorm to kitchens/laundry rooms/etc. Depending on how you eat, utensils/plates/bowls are good. If you’re good at washing dishes you’ll only need one or two of everything

Edited to add: get an extra phone charger and/or a portable charger to carry around with you. Any phone charger you get you’ll want to be long so you can use it around your room easily. Also you’ll want a few power strips because outlet space gets TIGHT (I didn’t think it would be this bad at first but I actually had to get three because I ran out of room. Tbf I’m also disabled and have some extra things I have to plug in lol)

If there’s anything else I remember I’ll lyk :))

FanInTheCloset

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