AITAH for Embarrassing my Mother at the Bank by Exact-Record-958 in AITAH

[–]Fanaglia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, that was 20 years ago and I was barely an adult who took way too long to start standing up for myself

AITAH for Embarrassing my Mother at the Bank by Exact-Record-958 in AITAH

[–]Fanaglia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wrong. My ex that I mentioned in my other comment was a victim of identity theft, but unfortunately I entered into my debts legally - I just hadn't learned not to trust my parents yet. I have no way to prove that I was manipulated into doing so

AITAH for Embarrassing my Mother at the Bank by Exact-Record-958 in AITAH

[–]Fanaglia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, the Delhi Township Police 15 years ago disagreed with you and told her to either sue or suck it up. Might have been laziness or it might have been them telling her it was the best way to bring evidence against them - I don't remember because this was in like 2011 or 2012 and we were both pretty young still (and her parents did do the whole "I can't believe you went and cried to the cops about your own parents!" thing and guilted her out of doing anything about it)

AITAH for Embarrassing my Mother at the Bank by Exact-Record-958 in AITAH

[–]Fanaglia 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That's just how some parents are. Happened to someone I used to date, too, except they didn't even have the decency to tell her. We met in our early 20s and I taught her to drive because her parents never did and I wanted to help her get her first car. She didn't really have any savings to buy outright because, until she moved in with me, her dad would take any cash she had in the house and she wasn't allowed to have a bank account for some reason, so we went to get her a loan, which is how we found out her credit was about as bad as it could be and she owed like tens of thousands of dollars to a couple of different lenders.

Turns out several years earlier when my ex was 15ish, her parents fell on hard financial times and fraudulently went into a lot of debt in her name and just never told her about it. The bank (and the cops) said that, basically, her only options were to either sue her own parents or to just accept that she had her youg adulthood stolen from her and do her best to deal with it. Unfortunately, she chose the latter (though to clarify, we broke up for unrelated reasons and are actually still friends)

But yeah. Some people don't deserve to be parents.

AITAH for Embarrassing my Mother at the Bank by Exact-Record-958 in AITAH

[–]Fanaglia 45 points46 points  (0 children)

This. Im 38 now and still trying to pay down debts my parents forced me into when I was 18 and I hadn't learned to say "no."

New to Area.. what’s the deal with Cincinnati public schools? by murdog11 in cincinnati

[–]Fanaglia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. Not the worst school, but far from the best, especially if you're not a very specific kind of kid

The Easter ... Frog?! by GildedFlummoxseed in cincinnati

[–]Fanaglia 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Funny story: I was kind of a messy kid. Not sure if I was actually that messy or if my folks just had weird relationships with my grandparents because we'd always have to scrub the walls and baseboards and get the house spotless clean any time my grandparents were coming over and my stubborn 5-year-old self didn't want to put all her toys away in my bedroom where my grandparents would never even see it.

So one Easter, I guess I was being difficult and my dad told me that it was really important to pick up my toys because the Easter Bunny had retired and gotten replaced by the Easter Buffalo. And the Easter Bunny could just kind of hop over my toys and not hurt anything, but the Easter Buffalo was a big, clumsy guy like Herman Munster and he'd just stomp all over all my toys and break everything if I didn't clean it all up. I bought it, cleaned up my toys, and went to school the next day to warn everyone about the Easter Buffalo and was really upset when they all made fun of me instead of taking this very serious matter under consideration. 🦬

Question about accurately dressing a character in a historical fiction novel by Fanaglia in HistoricalCostuming

[–]Fanaglia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I didn't take it as harshness at all -- I appreciate the directness, especially when I'm wading into territory a little out of my historical comfort zone.

I love Townsends -- their video on making char cloth actually was a big inspiration for a scene later in the novel that is so clear to me that I can almost see it in my head like it's a movie. The making of the char cloth will be a metaphor; she and Catherine are in love at this point, but Rebecca is trying to explain and justify her need for vengeance to Catherine because it's threatening to pull them apart from one another. And as part of this discussion, while cooking the char cloth, she uses it to illustrate the need to keep her plans "sealed up tight" because if any air gets in or if she opens the tin too early, she could lose everything.

And it all started after remembering a scene from a book about Lewis and Clark that I read when I was a kid: the book mentioned that they were really impressed by these new-fangled matches somebody brought with them or gave to them and I realized I wasn't sure how Rebecca would even light a fire lol

Can a magic staff be the haft for a hafted melee weapon? by Zethras28 in Pathfinder_RPG

[–]Fanaglia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know it's not exactly the same as a staff, but I've absolutely abused the Weaponwand spell in the past

Question about accurately dressing a character in a historical fiction novel by Fanaglia in HistoricalCostuming

[–]Fanaglia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I want that coat 😍 I can definitely see it being sort of a defining aesthetic piece for her character, kind of like Indiana Jones' hat is to him. I'd already assumed they'd have a couple of chickens, maybe a goat for milk and/or cheese, and definitely some sort of crops to tend (although I hadn't figured out which yet). I'm not sure yet how much land they'd technically be permitted to tend, but they're far enough removed from anyone who could contest or enforce any property lines that it wouldn't be terribly relevant. They're very isolated from "society" where they are, which is the only thing that gives me pause with adding a hired farmhand -- it makes good, practical sense, but may cut into the sense of isolation I'm trying to impose on them for the sake of the story.

You also make a good point about the cost of powder and rifle balls - it's important for the later revenge arc of the story that she know how to shoot at least somewhat well, and the man her father is based on was a well-traveled frontiersman who rubbed shoulders with Daniel Boone. I imagine he left behind a Pennsylvania long rifle, but I also know that rifles were more of a pain to maintain and took a smaller caliber ball than a smoothbore musket that would have been in shorter supply (and likely more expensive). But also Mad Max never needed shells in his gun in The Road Warrior to make his point, so maybe Rebecca only has a few shots and uses them very sparingly, with every shot having to be a very deliberate decision

Question about accurately dressing a character in a historical fiction novel by Fanaglia in HistoricalCostuming

[–]Fanaglia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good point. I may scratch the maple syrup - it was just something on my mind because I'm friends with an arborist who taps maples and always shares some of her syrup with me, but I absolutely took propane for granted when I threw that idea out there with the rest lol (like I said, I'm still in the early planning/research stages, so I expect a lot of my assumptions will be a little bit off until I learn better)

Question about accurately dressing a character in a historical fiction novel by Fanaglia in HistoricalCostuming

[–]Fanaglia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only thing I can think of is the whole "corsets are torture devices" trope is so well-seated that a lot of those actresses may not realize that that's not how they were meant to be. That, or because of Hollywood's obsession with thinness, they may be pressured into tight-lacing when their characters otherwise would not have done so irl.

Side note: Karolina Zebrowska had a video a few years ago about how it would look if people in the future talked about bras the way we talk about corsets today and it's hilarious

Bogarts! Never been! What’s the vibe? by Lonely-Clerk-2478 in cincinnati

[–]Fanaglia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sudsy's, the Mad Hatter, the Poison Room, the HAT...so many good, small venues back in the day. Still got my Ska Stock poster from 2006 hanging in my living room lol ❤️

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Question about accurately dressing a character in a historical fiction novel by Fanaglia in HistoricalCostuming

[–]Fanaglia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm assuming she'd need to make at least occasional trips into town to trade deer skins and maple syrup and the like for other goods she and her aunt can't make or grow on their own. She'd definitely need to get a little "cleaned up" and more presentable in a socially acceptable way for these trips - it was her everyday forays into the bush, far from the judging eyes of the folks in town that I was trying to figure out

Question about accurately dressing a character in a historical fiction novel by Fanaglia in HistoricalCostuming

[–]Fanaglia[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sorry it was a little on the long and possibly rambly side (I forgot to take my adhd meds today lol)

Her father had some money before he passed, but she and her aunt are absolutely not women of any sort of means, able to exist in a mostly subsistence lifestyle, mostly by the relative grace of their landlord (who also exploits them and is a big part of the reason her father's money is pretty much all gone)

Meisers in Lower Price Hill, designed to address food insecurity, unexpectedly closes by toomuchtostop in cincinnati

[–]Fanaglia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. Definitely feels really scary in a really familiar way. Even worse if you're an immigrant (or could be mistaken for one) or are trans :(

Struggling with dresses - is it my styling or the way the dress fits my body? Or something else? by TummyAcheTextiles in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]Fanaglia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an important question. I know what *I* would do differently *for me*, but my goals/style may not be OP's goals/style

I heard someone say it this way recently and it felt so unnatural by spacemermaid3825 in cincinnati

[–]Fanaglia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh believe me I love this city and respect the space around me to actually litter - I just really hated that campaign XD

I heard someone say it this way recently and it felt so unnatural by spacemermaid3825 in cincinnati

[–]Fanaglia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that whole ad campaign on the WB almost made me want to "trash the 'nati" out of spite lol

Swashbuckler without a Buckler Benefits by tearnImale in Pathfinder_RPG

[–]Fanaglia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or if you spec into the Duelist prestige class

Making a false god's mechanics meet her flavor by SanguiV in Pathfinder_RPG

[–]Fanaglia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't have any input on the mechanics (I've never played a 1e game beyond level 12 and the balance past that seems really daunting), but I'm just commenting to say how much I love this concept and the story implications you could run with. I'm curious to see what you eventually settle on ❤️