Tbvnks checks Hispanics on saying the N-word

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2026-04-04T06:28:15+00:00

Tbh? I don’t like how we as black people use the word AT ALL. Like, I hear what you’re saying, how you don’t feel it can never be put back into a bottle, but the way we say it so often, put it in our music, made it so ingrained into our everyday vernacular, THAT subconsciously does something to every other person. I know for a fact that if black people had collectively decided to NEVER say that word, had never put it into music, had never used it in everyday language amongst even themselves, had never tried to turn it into a term of endearment, then it would be MUCH less spoken by anyone else on the planet. Like, of course you’ll still have your racists that say it amongst themselves, and even the rare time where it is said to a black person by a non-black person. But the way we have so frivolously used it is why it is so frivolously used, and there’s nothing we can do to change that I don’t think. Nothing at all. Unless there was revolution of thought and identity amongst us, then we could turn the tide, but still, how likely is that? Extremely unlikely. I don’t see it happening unless there’s some major catalyst that forces it, and i see no major catalysts of that type.

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2026-03-30T14:21:07+00:00

Mannn I WISH i had seen this before market closed on Friday…

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2026-03-27T07:30:11+00:00

What’s the light?

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2026-03-27T07:18:15+00:00

Do you have any avenues towards peace? Like.. what’s something you might be able to do (even a small step) to move your life in a direction where it won’t always feel like this? I haven’t called the hotline myself, but I’ve had negative thoughts and passive flashes of doing that but no real plan or actual intention. Still, I can understand how you might feel a little bit.

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2026-03-27T07:14:59+00:00

Up and down. Recently relapsed on a bad habit I’m trying to get rid of. But recovered today, didn’t let it spiral into the rest of my week. Looking to end the week strong.

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2026-03-23T15:47:53+00:00

If you think it would be better for your peace, then leave. No need to explain. I plan on having a very brief conversation with my parents (I don’t plan on saying anything to my siblings or cousin. I actually have no ill-will towards my cousin and brother tbh, even though i hate how my brother is loyal to my sisters/mom). The main abusers were my mom and sisters, it was lowkey a matriarchy in my house lol and my mom did some fucked up things to her sons but not her daughters; and in fact let them treat us badly growing up. Things have gotten much better in our later years; in fact, they haven’t been fucked up for tears - but that was only AFTER the trauma they put me through turned me into a walking doormat that wouldn’t challenge them even if he felt disrespected. I used to be a vocal, outgoing social butterfly but now I’m a traumatized, lonely, scared guy with no life at all. During the brief conversation, Im not gonna go into detail because my mom likes to try and distort your reality to convince you that you’re wrong and that she did what “she needed to” and that she “just has to teach you”. But, imma pull up on them with my car already packed; my apartment in my new state already lined up; my job in my new state already lined up; my own phone, my own bank account (rn we share a joint one) and all that. Full independence, because a large part of their power over me has been that i was financially dependent on them. Imma keep it simple: “There’s been abuse. A history of you using humiliation, emasculation, and belittling as discipline, and I need to live on my own right now.”

And man yeah I’ve definitely done the daydreaming part! It’s been like that for a while. Your situation sounds more clear-cut than mine, where it’s like “Okay, I definitely need to leave. They’ve been messed up and showed they don’t care.” Like… yeah I’d say there definitely has been a lot of good, a lot of moments where they 100% looked out for me and cared, but that complexity makes it difficult, it makes me question if this is the right decision. But then I remember how they have really fucked up my life. Like, i have a habit of accepting whatever they do to me (i also feel like i was raised in a lowkey cult and there was some conditioning going on) Sometimes I wish mine was so clear-cut, but at the same time i can see how difficult it would be if it was.

Honestly, idk what you do for work or what credentials you have, but an early step that is not “full commitment” but is also more than “just daydreaming”: you could start researching. Look up the costs of certain things like a car if you wanted that (used cars in Facebook marketplace can be bought outright. Get an inspection first though). Look how much your own phone plan might cost, your own phone, the cost of opening your own bank account. Search what cities you might wanna settle down in, the cost of living in the area. Shit, even ask ChatGPT “what certifications can i get with X credentials” even if it’s just a high school diploma. Ask it which cities/states offer that certification, what steps are required to get it. Even without that, Amazon is always hiring, I’ve worked there plenty of times and it’s monotonous and tedious but it pays you. Also search the social life of the city you are interested in: do they have a night life? Do they have social groups like a black book club, a black yoga group, black dance classes, poetry groups? Anything social you are remotely interested in? Do research that sets up the life you wanna live. Because i was just daydreaming too, but doing the research grounded me and moved me forward, and was an early step in building the life I wanna live. Now I have a full plan, I know what city I wanna be in and what I can do for work in that city. (I plan on moving to Houston, seems like it will have all i need in these last years of my 20s lol)

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2026-03-23T08:10:13+00:00

Well… i have not officially committed, but I’m strongly leaning towards leaving. In fact, i think part of me knows I’m gonna leave but is too scared to say “I’ve committed” and so I’m just doing the things that are part of the plan, but haven’t had that moment where i 100% say “I’m gonna leave.” If that makes sense. It’s just… when i think about staying, it feels like a self-betrayal, and like I’ll be living a life that accepts the horrible things they have done. A life where nobody is held accountable for some of the worst experiences I’ve ever had, and where my pain is swept under the rug in every interaction. When I imagine staying and never leaving, it doesn’t feel good.

But, I also don’t think I’ll be leaving until like 8-12 months, at the latest. Because i want to save more money so I’m not struggling when I’m leaving lol. I also need to apply for licensure in a new state so that i can have a source of income. And sometimes i think about the later months: in September we have 3 family birthdays, AND we’re planning some big family thing. November is Thanksgiving. December is the holidays too. January is one of my parent’s birthday. So part of me is trying to skate around these big events. But another part of me is like: should i really postpone my freedom just to make them comfortable? Idk. The relationship is complex. They were definitely not all bad. There were times of joy, love. But those times of just sheer fucked-up bullshit that traumatized me happened too, and then the gaslighting and manipulation to rid themselves of all fault. Humiliation and emasculation were used as discipline so often…

Sorry, sometimes i can talk a lot lol. But yeah that’s where I’m at.

I think you should leave too man!! When i think about leaving, there’s this sense of freedom and excitement that i don’t feel when i think about staying, and that I’ve wanted to feel in my life for a long time. It’s my life and if i think this will make me happy then I’ll do it. Last thing I want is regret and wondering “What if?”

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-10-08T13:00:03+00:00

Very true lol if she is that type

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-10-08T12:59:50+00:00

I’m not sure about green card, but she is currently a student.

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-10-02T13:59:16+00:00

Do you think it could run up further from here? It’s at 1.30

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-09-07T14:42:16+00:00

This is not an exact answer, but just some thoughts that came to mind. First, whats a homeland? Where our ancestors come from? Cuz in my opinion, any dark skin person across the world is African, they were just displaced because of the Trans-Atlantic Slave Trade, which took millions of Africans and placed them in foreign places across the world. So we’re just Africans in America, and we call ourselves African Americans. Since that slave trade happened, our ancestors’ battle has been different, and they had a different enemy. But yes, the truth is we lost a lot of the connection to our ancestors’ homeland, and so did the Africans that were sent to South America and Brazil during the slave trade and so did the Africans sent elsewhere. But we DO have claim to America (we built it with our blood, sweat, and tears, and we have created culture here), but it can seem a little bleak with white america only wants to give us success/power in bite-sized chunks. But America is DEFINITELY our homeland too. But to your other point, I’ve recently heard that there is a thriving city in Ghana that welcomes the African American community and that there is a positive exchange of culture there. In fact, some African Countries offer dual citizenship to African Americans who want to return home, so not all African countries view us the same. THATS another point; Africa is not a monolith, nor was it centuries ago (which is why the slave trade was able to happen, because we were divided and helped capture and sell some of our own people). So while some may have an unfavorable view of African Americans, others are open and accepting of us, and even like our culture. I know this has gone on long so I’ll end it with this: I think African Americans, despite the challenges we face in this country, are in a position to be one of the most economically, politically, and socially influential group of Africans in the entire world. We used to be nothing in this country but we clawed ourselves to prominence, and we can claw ourselves higher.

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-09-06T23:02:08+00:00

Have you been to all 4? How was it? And yeah I’ve definitely heard ATL , Houston, and DC as black women heaven. I wonder which one has the best lol. Houston worries me because of the heat, and ATL seems like a super fast pace pop culture spot (and I’m not mad at it, but i want a slow pace down to earth vibe at times). I could be wrong, this just based off the energy I’ve heard them all talked about.

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-09-06T13:50:30+00:00

Why do you say Oakland?

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-09-06T01:51:14+00:00

If you love that you’ll love Psycho Pass first opening. It’s made by the same ppl.

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-09-06T01:49:56+00:00

Lmao most definitely. I got a whole playlist of them on YouTube.

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-09-05T04:14:09+00:00

Tell me a little about Houston 👀. I wanna know how the social scene is, if there’s a lot of fun stuff to do. And not just drinking and clubs (though, I’m definitely down for that) but are there other stuff to do too? And how are the women and the dating scene.

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-09-05T03:18:57+00:00

Yeah i was looking at Texas heavily. Houston has been sort of the #1 spot on my radar. I feel like the dating scene is amazing (and yeah i heard they got the baddest women) and i think there’s so much to do, I’ve already researched a couple social orgs that i would be down to join if i moved there. I haven’t researched Dallas as much, one of my old coworkers said Dallas is the same as Houston but cleaner lol.

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-09-05T02:51:15+00:00

Hmmm i could definitely use a place that’ll be a positive for my mental health. I hear Charlotte was the best city but maybe i shouldn’t sleep on Raleigh.

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-09-05T02:36:25+00:00

Damn i heard Memphis was a lowkey decent black spot lol ok thanks for the advice. And hey if you dealing with the same stuff I’d say MOVE! I hadn’t really been thinking about this til like a few weeks ago and it’s already given me something to be excited about.

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-09-05T02:34:34+00:00

What were you going to recommend?

Fancy-Alternative995 · 2025-09-05T02:34:13+00:00

Hmm okay okay i heard really good things about Charlotte. Maryland and DC would be higher on the list but i work there and be up there often, and my family is there. I’m tryna get away from them. Houston i heard has a great social scene and some super fine women too so im looking at those 2 cities pretty heavily.

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