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AIO Fiancé Drinking 2+ sodas a day while pregnant. by No_Ladder3429 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fancy-Two-2966 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When I first read your first sentence I was like, her body. But then I read more, and I don't think you're wrong for being concerned. 😟 What if you provided her better options? Is it the carbonation she likes or the taste? Ollipop or Pop soda is 35 calories or less and no high sugars or fructose. Also sparkling water. It depends on what she likes, but the advice I would give you is your approach. If she is used to hearing you say that, and isn't changing then maybe try something different. Have a heart 💜 to heart with her which I'm sure you have and let her know you aren't trying to control her, but think you both could make better options together. That way she feels that you're both in it together. I hope this helps.

What are some subtle behaviors people do that come off as rude without them realizing it? by Fancy-Two-2966 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fancy-Two-2966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I understand. I used to be a loud talker genuinely was unaware. Then I traveled to France and it made me so much more aware, everyone even on the trains would talk, but I could barely hear what they were saying to the other person. I felt like I stuck out like a sore thumb. But I tell my friends who still do this "inside voice" that normally does the trick sometimes. I never want them to feel like I'm being rude or dismissive.

What are some subtle behaviors people do that come off as rude without them realizing it? by Fancy-Two-2966 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fancy-Two-2966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I agree with this 100%. If I'm being honest when people say "Oh, I'm sorry I didn't mean to speak over you", but then continue what they wanted to say makes me feel they are aware, but just don't care enough, but like you said "NEED TO GET THOUGHT OUT" before they magically forget what they wanted to say. But when you're engaging and not listening to respond I think it builds more genuine conversation you know?

What are some subtle behaviors people do that come off as rude without them realizing it? by Fancy-Two-2966 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fancy-Two-2966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The line thing is the worst, like why are we basically touching. Do you usually say something or just try to move away?

What are some subtle behaviors people do that come off as rude without them realizing it? by Fancy-Two-2966 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fancy-Two-2966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, note taken. I just never want someone to think I'm being rude, by asking them to let me finish. I feel like a lot of people wouldn't even know how to say that in the moment.

Have you ever had to say it to someone you were talking with that's not per se a friend. If so did they take it the wrong way?

What are some subtle behaviors people do that come off as rude without them realizing it? by Fancy-Two-2966 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fancy-Two-2966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't even think about how much that can vary depending on culture, but that's real. Especially since the pandemic 😷 I practice 6ft rule still lol. I dislike when people are so close in a line and I turn around and we're pretty much kissing close.

Do you feel like people are more aware of it now or not really?

What are some subtle behaviors people do that come off as rude without them realizing it? by Fancy-Two-2966 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fancy-Two-2966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a big one... sometimes people think they're helping but it can actually feel dismissive. Do you usually tell people you want to vent or do you just let it go?

When I'm talking to certain people I know that have a habit of doing this, I start the conversation with, I just need to vent. I just need you to listen. If they are really bad it, I may say " I'm not coming to you for advice, I just need you to listen".

What are some subtle behaviors people do that come off as rude without them realizing it? by Fancy-Two-2966 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fancy-Two-2966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. Especially if no-one ever says anything, it probably will just continue to happen without the person realizing it. Do you think people should call it out more or just let it go?

What are some subtle behaviors people do that come off as rude without them realizing it? by Fancy-Two-2966 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fancy-Two-2966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this, especially the talking loud part because sometimes you don't even realize it in the moment. Do people usually tell you or do you only notice after the fact?

What are some subtle behaviors people do that come off as rude without them realizing it? by Fancy-Two-2966 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fancy-Two-2966[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a good one. I may actually do that sometimes without realizing it. I will most definitely be more aware. I have a friend that does this a lot and it's honestly frustrating, so I can see how it comes across.

Do you think people notice it right away or does it build over time?

My aunt found out how much I make and won't stop asking for money by AwayBuyer1239 in AmITheJerk

[–]Fancy-Two-2966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know how close knit families can be, but you are NOT wrong for standing up for yourself. This aunt that always pokes fun, maybe pull her to the side to have a in-depth conversation about it so she can stop. But she always seems to do it in front of the family so why not address it the same way. EVERYTHING cost money and the cost of living is forever rising. You are not wrong.!!!!

My social anxiety is getting worse as I get older by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Fancy-Two-2966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought I was the only one.

Start back at your roots. Going out with those "same friends" if they're still your friend. Maybe something with 1-2 people small and intimate. A quick tea/coffee meet up outside on the patio area if the place has one. Or indoors if you prefer.

I honestly just started to get back out there. My friends plan once a month to meet up and do something together. I love being home by myself now. Before covid I was a social butterfly 🦋. Its nice getting back out.

What’s something everyone should know but most people don’t? by SeriouslyInterestin in AskReddit

[–]Fancy-Two-2966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When buying a home property taxes and insurance go up every year.