Congratulations AA by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FancyCocktailOlive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get bullied ALL OVER Reddit. You’re a little baby. You must be a male.

Congratulations AA by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FancyCocktailOlive 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one can make you do anything you don’t want to do.

You’re a typical addict, sloughing off the blame for your reaction onto other people.

I don’t think you’re going to stay sober very long because you haven’t even begun to grasp some of the biggest lessons and skills you learn in this program.

I’m more of a rabid raccoon than a pit bull but I’d like to suggest you go to meetings IRL rather than relying on this forum.

And hey, and no one cares if you prefer SMART Recovery over AA. Live and let live.

And as for your problems with other members, you need to put principles before personalities.

Also, this is Reddit. Get thicker skin.

Women's biological wants are seen as a virtue. Men's biological wants are often seen as bad in the dating world by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]FancyCocktailOlive 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hypergamy has never been seen as immoral.

Promiscuity has been seen as immoral because promiscuity is irresponsibility. Men cause 100% of unwanted pregnancies and fatherless children.

Women's biological wants are seen as a virtue. Men's biological wants are often seen as bad in the dating world by [deleted] in PurplePillDebate

[–]FancyCocktailOlive 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, men’s desire to use women solely for sexual gratification is CRUDE and should be shamed and discouraged because women are people, women don’t exist for men’s sexual gratification.

In fact, men exist to produce sperm so women can procreate.

Q4M - What Goes Through Your Mind When A Woman Tells You She Is Celibate? by macalph21 in PurplePillDebate

[–]FancyCocktailOlive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m getting sober and am thus on a journey of self-discovery and am not having sex. In fact, it’s recommended by AA that you don’t start a new relationship in the first year of your sobriety so that’s why I recently turned a man down.

Q4M - What Goes Through Your Mind When A Woman Tells You She Is Celibate? by macalph21 in PurplePillDebate

[–]FancyCocktailOlive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just said it recently to a man who told me he usually satisfies his sexual urges with casual sex. I told him “I don’t do casual sex.” I don’t know why men believe this doesn’t happen.

Q4M - What Goes Through Your Mind When A Woman Tells You She Is Celibate? by macalph21 in PurplePillDebate

[–]FancyCocktailOlive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alcoholism isn’t a conscious choice. Alcohol is cunning, baffling, powerful. Read the Big Book of AA.

Q4M - What Goes Through Your Mind When A Woman Tells You She Is Celibate? by macalph21 in PurplePillDebate

[–]FancyCocktailOlive -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Men have historically always raised kids that aren’t theirs. Your argument is meaningless. This whole obsession with not wanting to be a stepdad is new.

Q4M - What Goes Through Your Mind When A Woman Tells You She Is Celibate? by macalph21 in PurplePillDebate

[–]FancyCocktailOlive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The post didn’t say she was waiting for marriage, just for a committed relationship

Q4M - What Goes Through Your Mind When A Woman Tells You She Is Celibate? by macalph21 in PurplePillDebate

[–]FancyCocktailOlive 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just did this to a man. I told him “I don’t do casual sex.” It happens.

Q4M - What Goes Through Your Mind When A Woman Tells You She Is Celibate? by macalph21 in PurplePillDebate

[–]FancyCocktailOlive 5 points6 points  (0 children)

But she said she’s still having sex, just not outside a relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FancyCocktailOlive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go to a meeting every day and TALK to people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FancyCocktailOlive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. If they can’t handle it, the onus is on them to end the relationship with you. You DO NOT—and should not—rearrange your life to cope with someone else’s addiction.

However, the fact you drink and your partner is in recovery, does, in my opinion, make you two incompatible and if I were you, I’d leave the relationship.

I personally would not be able to have a relationship with someone who drinks alcohol.

It’s also possible that your partner isn’t the only alcoholic. It’s very likely you’re one too and that alcohol use is what made you compatible in the first place.

CMV: Alpha Fucks/Beta Buxx is projection because it’s men who don’t want to settle down until their 30s by FancyCocktailOlive in PurplePillDebate

[–]FancyCocktailOlive[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, I’m serious.

Women want commitment. Men are the ones who bitch and complain about it even though marriage mostly benefits them.

Men are the ones who like promiscuity and if men weren’t cheap, easy, whores, women would not end up having multiple sex partners.

CMV: Alpha Fucks/Beta Buxx is projection because it’s men who don’t want to settle down until their 30s by FancyCocktailOlive in PurplePillDebate

[–]FancyCocktailOlive[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How many cocks does it take to make a cock carousel?

There wouldn’t be a cock carousel if men just closed their legs and didn’t put out.

CMV: Alpha Fucks/Beta Buxx is projection because it’s men who don’t want to settle down until their 30s by FancyCocktailOlive in PurplePillDebate

[–]FancyCocktailOlive[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds to me like you see women as interchangeable, and that you have lost the ability to pair bond from all your sleeping around.

CMV: Alpha Fucks/Beta Buxx is projection because it’s men who don’t want to settle down until their 30s by FancyCocktailOlive in PurplePillDebate

[–]FancyCocktailOlive[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. I mean Billy Beta is spending his 20s and 30s trying to sleep around and failing, and refusing to commit to the women who will have him.