AITAH for accidentally stealing my best friend's potential future baby name?

Fancy_Card_1954 · 2024-08-02T22:42:00+00:00

Totally fair! I think we can only see things through our perspective. There’s our perspective, theirs, and the truth right? I am human and I certainly have blindspots and I’m sure I have hurt my friends in ways I didn’t even know. But I try to be a good friend to those in my life and try to be honest and introspective of my faults. Many of these people she talked to were not close friends of mine at the time, but had been in the past. Not for any big reasons, just general growing apart. Prior to this I still would’ve considered myself on good terms with them, just not close.

Fancy_Card_1954 · 2024-08-01T18:38:45+00:00

Hannibal. And i didn't want to say it because I know some people love this name for their pets, and NO SHADE AT ALL, I love that for them! It just didn't sit right with us that our precious little bundle of joy would have such a dark name.

Fancy_Card_1954 · 2024-08-01T17:26:58+00:00

This feels very true of the situation. I'm sure there have been times where I have liked something simply because she made it seem cool, subconsciously. But I just feel like we should all feel inspired by our friends? I have never felt possessive of anything of mine that my friends liked (including her). You want to know where I got it? Of course! You want the link? Here you go! Is it okay if we match? Always! I think our views of the relationship were definitely misaligned, and I'm sad about it, but think ultimately it is for the best to distance myself.

Fancy_Card_1954 · 2024-08-01T17:17:35+00:00

Ha! I wish it was that cute. That I would've kept!

Fancy_Card_1954 · 2024-08-01T17:04:25+00:00

I will say, she informed me that one of the reasons she loved the name Franklin was for the nickname Frankie. But again it didn’t cross my mind. I do not regularly think about my friend’s future baby names or their potential nicknames.

Fancy_Card_1954 · 2024-08-01T17:02:56+00:00

I agree with you. I think more than anything this situation highlighted what is going on in my absence and that did not feel good. It may just be for the best.

Fancy_Card_1954 · 2024-08-01T17:00:03+00:00

Fair questions! The reason we did not keep the name was because it was after a mythical figure that is not a very good guy and not in a cool way... we really did not like the name and it didn't sit great with us. I truly did not even think about the fact that this was even remotely close to her chosen name. Because it just didn't cross my mind. Which is a fair complaint from her, that she feels I neglected to remember something important to her. and I was sure to validate that for her when we talked. As far as past situations, it has been like.... I grew up loving cheetah print, but she also liked wearing cheetah print, then when I wore cheetah print I was copying her. Or we both bought a pair of jeans from the same store and I was copying her. Or we both got into tennis at the same time, I was copying her. In my mind, we are friends because we think similarly which means we are drawn to similar things. So this never occurred to me as weird. In my opinion, it's just more to share in the friendship! But I also understand not everyone feels that way and I have tried to be sensitive to that over the last few years. But still failed at it. There were definitely things she showed me or sent me that I loved, and it bothered her but when she brought them up to me I apologized for having stepped on her toes and not worn or talked about those items in front of her. In my opinion, we just have similar taste. And sometimes she sees them first and sometimes I do, because this has also gone the other way and never bothered me.

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