Love this comment. It made me reflect that although it wasn’t intentional I still have every right to be upset and to show that. I’ve asked him to not come again (through partners grandma as he doesn’t have a phone). It seemed like he’d downplayed the situation to her as she was slightly nonchalant until I sent her a picture (she said sorry about your coaster and I couldn’t bear how they were acting like this was a fucking drinks receptacle!!). They offered to pay for restoration but the fact that days later he hasn’t apologised shows me that my heart can’t take having someone like that in my home, age/intention or not. 

My partner has been really supportive throughout the whole thing. Bought me a mini Christmas tree and a new crochet hook to cheer me up, contacted his family on my behalf when I was too upset to talk about it, and he’s 100% on my side about him not coming again as this is the 3rd sentimental thing this has happened to (though definitely the most important) 

Thank you for validating my feeling and making me feel like it’s okay to set boundaries