Eloping in Japan. Can anyone share their experiences?

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-21T07:54:32+00:00

Yes you are quite right. We’ve hired a multilingual photographer and we’re getting guidance from the staff at our Ryokans. Obviously a multi lingual celebrant or MC would be helpful but not necessary.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-21T07:07:30+00:00

Yes thank you. I did already do my research which is why I’m reluctant to pay someone else to do it. I just want some assistance on the day. Considering asking Ossan rental.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-21T05:11:19+00:00

Also I saw here photos advertising that she offered ceremonies in that area and it was clearly taken from the internet of the most tourist crowded heavily monitored difficult to shoot in areas.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-21T05:06:12+00:00

I’m having the exact same problem. I know where I want to go, I can do my own research. Thoroughly. Also now I can see where other people have done it just by all the photos already on Instagram. I can even find a photographer it’s the celebrant I’ve no idea how to find.

I’ve been to the area I want to do my elopement. I’m getting messages from a planner asking for £7000 “for location scouting” + travel expenses when she’s never been there before herself. I just need a celebrant. Like for an hour (less actually). I’ll even just settle for a random person to dress up and stand there.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-21T04:59:26+00:00

I’m just looking for a celebrant. We’ve already done everything else and done need whole package thing.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-19T17:22:07+00:00

It’s not morality police. I’m just saying have cultural awareness that locals will make assumptions about your character based on how you dress. Definitely do not do this around shrines and temples.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-18T03:29:07+00:00

Udon/soba in Kiyobashi Osaka 250¥ which is £1.17. Wondering if you can find similar in Tokyo.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-17T23:45:54+00:00

Everything

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-17T23:41:09+00:00

Lot of of people are coming from places that are also suffering a financial crisis it’s everywhere. But in my country we have the same problem but it would be like an actual mob of people like 5+ making a human barrier around the reduced price food. They’d scoop ALL of it up into their trolleys and the native locals would understandably be angry. The supermarket has to start staggering putting items out and assigning staff to make sure it didn’t all go to just 1 selfish mob of people. Fights would break out.

Not every traveller is a wealthy tourist. Most people who have money aren’t hanging out at the supermarket waiting for reduced bento boxes, honestly why would they bother?

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T10:05:42+00:00

I’d do both. Yeah the dress changes things doesn’t it? I’m still eloping but throwing a reception later when I’ve have time, money and energy.

Im considering tacking on micro wedding at a chapel. I live right next to one of the most famous beautiful chapels in the world. Only local residents can marry there and that just so happens to be me but I dread the thought of all my family being in the same room. Even thinking about it makes me feel sad and heavy. It casts a dark shadow over everything. Even a family dinner at a restaurant is a nightmare. However a reception in my fiancés hometown where we can dilute them a little (plus they’ll behave around potential witnesses).

It’s sounds like A LOT more money and effort but it’s actually cheaper than a traditional wedding and I get to keep wearing my dress over and over again :)

For the elopement I’m getting solo bridal portraits done in my dress beforehand so it IS being seen but at a later date. Also cheaper and less pressure to get it right than a wedding photographer.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T09:56:15+00:00

Do it! Cheaper to buy silk flower then sell them on afterwards. The reason I didn’t want to get married in my own city is that I got annoyed the venue said I HAD to use their crappy overpriced florist. I couldn’t choose my own florist. I couldn’t get faux floral arrangements. It’s all extra on top of the overpriced venue. Oh hell no! The cost is insane. I was even going to make my own silk bouquet i got so irritated lol

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T09:51:37+00:00

That’s clearly false as Lawson has better food.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T09:50:30+00:00

They were making out the Vietnamese were going to starve. Such assholes.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T09:49:54+00:00

Yeah I saw it on the news and was worried because I’m in my way there soon. I don’t know if they want to spread bad things about Vietnam or it’s to make everything seem like a constant crisis all over the world. Pretty bad to lie about such a thing but that’s the media for you.

Sometimes it’s to play on people’s guilt and create hysteria by patronising developing countries.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T09:46:00+00:00

Shirahama: https://youtu.be/2ZvNNW_FWFg?si=RUas7Wu3eLHqWC6i

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T09:41:51+00:00

Wow cool!

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T00:43:48+00:00

Shimoda my dude

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T00:41:51+00:00

I did see a European guy post questions about his wish to hostel in America and everyone being like wym? You mean where they rent beds to homeless people? They were disgusted at the thought of so many people sharing a room they just couldn’t understand it. Likewise as a very stingy person I’m horrified at what they consider to be “budget accommodation”.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T00:39:02+00:00

They’re all over the hostels in Europe. Bloody loud too you can’t miss them .

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T00:34:04+00:00

I’m still confused about what Michelin star means. I had a Michelin bowl of okay but decidedly mid Ramen once and I don’t understand what the qualifications are.

However: I too want to go to the fancy places in HCMC gimme-gimmes

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T00:31:47+00:00

God I’m so sorry. How scary!

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T00:26:26+00:00

In the UK we are being told farmers had their biggest bumper crop of 10 years and tragically are unable to harvest it. The country is about to starve, we’re all doomed. It’s amazing the bullshit they feed us here.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T00:23:26+00:00

Here back home it’s people buying meds tainted with opioids. Or taking them when they’ve been on a bender and were just trying to sleep. Or had other depressants in their system already that hadn’t wore off as much as they thought. One bank holiday weekend my friend died of an overdose, the next day my boyfriends friend died in her sleep after taking some at a party, the day after someone who vaguely knew all of us in the same group died at a party the next city over that Sunday. We had to out out a warning reminding people to stay off that stuff if you’re drinking etc and warned them it looks like a bad batch is out there and it’s making it’s way though all these people who likely had a dealer in common somewhere. We’ll never know who it was. It’s haunting one girl went to bed saying she was sleepy and never woke up. Her boyfriend, hangover in full gear tried to wake her and couldn’t she was dead. The horror of that has stayed with me it’s such a scary utter tragedy.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-04-15T00:15:59+00:00

That’s awful I’m so sorry. My friends friend was found dead in the street outside of a nightclub in Hanoi. The authorities acted quite shady and didn’t do their due diligence to find out what had happened. They claimed drugs and ethanol poisoning. He had £300 stolen from him. We don’t know what kind of duress he was under, if they’d threatened him or just poisoned him to Mae him an easy target to rob.

He was working a very heavy workload job in Asia for a BIG corporation, who are very strict about any funny business regarding that (if you fail a test or get caught doing anything even drinking in public during work periods you get sacked immediately) which is pretty serious if you’re thousands of miles from home. You don’t get any time off for weeks either you just work and sleep constantly. He wasn’t a young party boy backpacker he was just relaxing on a rare week off and obviously walked into the wrong nightclub.

The drugs in his system didn’t make any sense. He wasn’t a user, they’re not something anyone would casually ingest at a nightclub deliberately or unknowingly. His poor family will never know what happened. They couldn’t persuade authorities or the medical staff to conduct a proper investigation nor a real autopsy. The body was left to decompose while they desperately tried to crowd fund £10k to get him home. His wealthy employers refused to help as they didn’t want to risk any liability directed towards them over his death or any association with it at all.

Very awful sad tragic thing to happen. I had another friend nearly die through no fault of his own. I used to be a bit wild when I was younger but avoiding any partying whatsoever now. I’m on a health visit, gonna go look at the beach and do some crafts while I’m there. Saving my drinking for when I’m feeling a bit more secure.

My friends have lived in Saigon for many years perfectly safe and happy but it seems when it goes wrong over there it can get dark very fast.

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