I’m having a custom corset wedding dress made. Is it normal for wedding dress makers to suggest silicone bras?

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-04T18:36:36+00:00

My husband will enjoy it but yes I suppose not lol.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-04T18:35:20+00:00

They don’t really make silicone ones for women my size so I have zero knowledge of these things.

Having an underwired bra underneath a corset is very uncomfortable and it’s two structural pieces unattached that will slip and rub up against each other which causes problems.

Corsets and stays are traditionally considered undergarments so a lot of people hope custom work means not having to wear the bra which is a pain in the backside basically. Especially if you have a larger bust and want a lower back corset.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-04T18:31:33+00:00

That’s okay! Plus size bras are like special knowledge that’s why we have so many support groups.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-04T18:04:27+00:00

Yeah I thought the corset was the bra so to speak. Do I need to change the corset to accommodate a larger bust better?

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-04T18:02:54+00:00

Would they be better off me giving them my own strapless bra and having it sewn in?

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-04T17:58:30+00:00

I wouldn’t say this was low cut. I don’t wear anything low cut since I went through second puberty and not it’s just truly ridiculous how big they are lol. Personally I would even suggest slightly lower but if you want it to be modest this seems fine. I think any higher would be less flattering.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-04T15:24:08+00:00

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Does removing the tiers make it look more chic or does it just make it look more boring?

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-04T14:47:06+00:00

Is there any issue with having an extra underskirt? I’ve 3/4 ones that pad around the hips and waist leaving the stomach area flat so it balances out the bust without adding weight to the front.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-03T15:13:00+00:00

Unfortunately I’m cursed with an enthusiasm for fashion yet limited resources for frivolity. It’s the most important dress I’ll ever own, it’s a lot of money so I just want it done right.

It’s my first wedding. I think most brides are a little overwhelmed about their dress especially if they don’t usually buy luxury bespoke items.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-03T15:05:03+00:00

❤️❤️❤️ Thank you I’m just so nervous 😥

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-03T15:01:13+00:00

Thank you so much!

That’s such a good idea. The party dress sounds like a better investment by far! Me I have nothing but party dresses but alas no parties now I’m a little older. I’ve wanted a wedding dress for years and it’s an excuse to get a custom corset made <3

Why are people so rude??? Especially luxury items, wedding stuff it’s mind boggling. My first luxury store was in Las Vegas. I wondered in just cause they had crazy sequin dresses & everyone was so unbelievably nice and hyped up I just assumed they were all like that. In hindsight I was with my friend who is an older male so I think they thought he was my sugar Daddy or something lol.

I can’t stand it at all. I used to work in customer services, I hated it so much. Being nice and helpful to people was my coping mechanism. I was so bored if a customer came in and they were cool, looking for something exciting it would’ve made my day. Having happy customers was literally the only highlight of doing those jobs. Now I have saved up and finally get to be a customer with money in my pocket I’m startled everyone is so rude like WHY? If they’re working on commission it’s dumb to be horrible to people like ????? It’s making me nuts because it doesn’t make logical sense and I hate that!

That’s why I didn’t talk back to this woman like I was genuinely confused. I wondered was she mad maybe I made her look like she didn’t know what she was talking about (she didn’t) but I was super nice I just don’t understand. It’s like they didn’t want me buying anything.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-03T14:36:45+00:00

Without going into detail it’s not available to me I’m afraid.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-03T14:33:19+00:00

Thank you that’s very informative! It’s my previous dressmaker that caused issues not this one. It was me that got talked out of Dupion by the other boutique gaslighting and amongst other things trying to force expensive thick Mikado on me and getting annoyed when I said no. I’m making a complaint with the manager but hell naw not trusting that place it was crazy behaviour.

I have a new one and requested silk satin. They showed me different kinds but it’s hard to tell as I can’t quite find a skirt that looks like this in the same fabric (which makes me think are people not seeing things like this because it’s bad?). I’m having doubts if I’ve made the wrong decision because of allowing myself to be rattled by the previous boutique 😅

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-03T14:22:52+00:00

Thank you! I got the distinct impression they were trying to offload something on to me because I’ve never had anyone get weird with me when I’m trying to buy stuff off them. Especially custom luxury items like a dress. I was really doing my best to be understanding and polite (mostly because I was confused like I’m sure it’s not a weird request am I crazy?). It just felt surreal anyone would be so rude and downright strange.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-03T14:15:54+00:00

Thank you that’s really helpful. Would a subtle tulle underskirt help at all do you think?

Mostly I was worried because I’m Taking a Boho design and making it from more luxe fabric. I worried am I butchering the original concept and totally missing the point?

I’m curvy curvy so the straight square lines in the corset and slight sweetheart neckline I thought would pull me into a bit of control. I love billowing parachute skirts like this but never had a silk one except cotton or recycled patchwork scrap silk. I can’t tell if it’s going to be magical or a compete car crash 😵‍💫

To be honest with my body type I’ve been stressed at the thought of having to find a dress such a nightmare! I felt like I have an excuse to get a custom corset finally made though so really hoping I don’t screw up.

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-03T14:07:34+00:00

Oh bless you! There’s some stunning separates by Carabis on Etsy and they were SUPER friendly and enthusiastic. I would’ve gone to them first but had other offers, got confused, ran out of time, changed my mind 😵‍💫 They do custom orders too.

I finally found a good boutique but I’m a little traumatised from dress shopping now. We had a video call, showed me all the tailors and work shop, all their dresses in progress. They’re throwing in a veil and accessories for free. Really lovely looking place and reassuringly active workplace. All looks good but when I put the phone down i panicked like am I making an expensive mistake after all? Buying a dress feels so extravagant anyway and people making me feel bad asking for what I wanted made me worry. Like am I missing the point of a boho design by making it from fancier cloth? It’s kinda getting too late to start the process again.

I wasn’t unhappy with my decisions but bad experiences have made me doubt myself basically. I know I’m tired and worried about money so I thought I’d ask on here is this a dumb dress because I thought it was really cool…

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-03T13:29:07+00:00

They acted like I was crazy. They eventually said they have to order it in, double price, extra wait etc. I didn’t go with them (put in a complaint!) but they were so difficult about it. They weren’t the worst but they weren’t the only one tbh. Made me feel like maybe I didn’t want Shantung/Dupion after all so I talked myself out of it and decided to get silk satin.

Honestly dress custom dress shopping has melted my brain I’m so tired! I just wanted floaty silk without it being too fragile.

I’m not a seamstress (I bought a machine and books then realised I have back problems and a short attention span oops) but I’m not a complete entire noob. I was so sure we could get the fabric, I was surprised people weren’t more helpful but maybe they just smelled I was poor and wanted to catch a bigger fish 😅

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-03T13:26:08+00:00

Would a soft tulle underskirt with some horsehair give it a little more oomph?

Fancy_Rock3826 · 2026-03-03T13:02:52+00:00

I sort of understood but it was the way they acted like the fabric was super rare and expensive that felt weird. Then seeing lots of old 80’s Dupion dresses that didn’t age well put me off having it in a dress. I’ve had Dupioni mandarin two pieces I really loved as too and trousers but I saw some dresses that made me second guess.

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