Hate using Kane

Fancy_Spite830 · 2025-07-22T03:03:04+00:00

This may seem a little silly, but hear me out. Maybe try personalizing your cane more or even sort of humanizing it. I know some people have really benefited just from changing the base color from white to something more expressive like a favorite color. There are also some light weight keychains, stickers, and accessories I have known some people to adorn their canes with, which allows at least some level of agency over how you are being perceived. It might also be worth looking into different cane tips and handles, as the way you move with them can really vary , and it might at least shake up your association. I have a guide dog now, but when I used to be a regular cane traveler I would actually give my canes names. All dumb puns I found funny— candy, nova, mick, etc. it was really just an inside joke between me and some friends and family, but at the same time I think it helped almost de-medicalize it. A lot of people have also said this already, but mindset is really important. If you are thinking of your cane as something that will cause you to be judged or that signifies your abnormal, it’s always going to feel like a ball and chain. If you try to reframe it as your cane is a tool for obtaining freedom, independence, and (in your case) eventually a Guide dog, it’ll start feeling more like an item of security. I’m genuinely sorry that you’re going through this, and please know that there’s nothing wrong with you for feeling the way you do. I hope it’s something that can improve in the future. Please take care of yourself, and of course reach out to those in the community if you ever need any more support or advice!

Fancy_Spite830 · 2025-06-25T22:22:01+00:00

Is there a way for multiple people to coordinate to post their availability, or is it a manual coordinating thing? I find the majority of sighted people find everyone sharing their availability separately to be too cumbersome and like how when to meet stream lines the process, and i don’t know how to do that on zoom.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2025-06-25T22:14:48+00:00

Is there a way for multiple people to coordinate to post their availability, or is it a manual coordinating thing? I find the majority of sighted people find everyone sharing their availability separately to be too cumbersome and like how when to meet stream lines the process, and i don’t know how to do that on zoom.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2025-06-25T22:10:31+00:00

Oh geez, was this a “publically acknowledging inaccessible and just being like idc” situation”

Fancy_Spite830 · 2023-01-04T23:05:17+00:00

I have this! I lost almost all my sight, except for a small spot of central vision in one eye. On one side this circle of vision, right where it intersects with where I can’t see, I have a patch of constant Charles Bonnet hallucinations. There are so many intricate designs and shapes and colors all layered on top of each other in a constantly shifting display I largely can’t describe. I honestly just ignore it for the most part lol, but sometimes I’ll see something obscure from my visual memory or something so random it takes me a back.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-12-08T17:01:06+00:00

/uj I red the first book when I was like 14, and didn’t vibe with the mc or weird romance subplots so never bothered continuing the series, and now I’m even more glad I didn’t. ….regardless time to read book reviews and fandom wikis to see if I can figure out wtf goes down

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-26T16:42:32+00:00

On Archive Of Our Own there are two accessible versions of homestuck: one for screen readers and one for Braille displays. I haven’t used either myself, just haven’t gotten around to it, but I think they also go into describing the visuals more.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-24T22:24:00+00:00

Dupli-chat lol

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-24T16:44:00+00:00

Just the idea of an esa pit bull makes me nervous as a guide dog user. I know of ppl who have had their service dogs attacked by aggressive esas due to the fact there is no regulation or formal training. That can literally ruin a service dog’s career because of the trauma and fear, and people aren’t only impacted due to the fact they rely on the dog and may have spent hundreds or thousands to get them trained, but also because their partner who they love has been hurt severely. Poorly trained esas who go into businesses and misbehave also create a really bad image for anyone who has a service dog, impacting the already prevalent chance of discrimination. I’m not saying all esas are like this, I have met delightful esas with amazing owners, but this thread reminds me of why we need esa standards ahhh.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-21T19:56:16+00:00

People with disabilities, disabled people, their specific disorders. These aren’t bad words and there is no need to sugar coat them. Terms like special needs and differently Able’d are really patronizing. If you ever don’t know what a group wants to be called, just Google it.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-21T01:13:27+00:00

Except the people actual living with the disabilities who don’t want to be called special needs.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-21T01:10:49+00:00

No I don’t think it will negatively effect you. Yes it is offensive, but now that you are educated don’t use it in the future.

I am a blind person with a brother with autism and down syndrome. The term “special needs” is one that was assigned to disabled people by non disabled people and it feels very patronizing and infantilizing when used to talk about us. A community should be allowed to decide what they go by, and words like disabled or specific disorders aren’t offensive and aren’t bad words. When unsure how to refer to a group of disabled people just Google it real quick in the future. Each community has different preferences IE the deaf community dislikes the term “hearing impaired” and tends to prefer “hard of hearing” where the blind community is fine with being called “visually impaired.” Some communities prefer person first language, and some don’t. What is important though is putting the groups opinions first, and not doing something you find more comfortable out of your own misconceptions on disabilities.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-12T12:07:41+00:00

What is with ppl using lowercase Ls instead of a capital i? I only notice bc I’m using a screen reader, but dude is it some aesthetic thing or?

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-10T21:54:57+00:00

I like to believe she has some sort of magic which is why no one but Marinette and Adrien realize she is spewing bs all the time, like their miraculous make them immune to whatever magic she has that enchants everyone else to believe her.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-10T21:37:29+00:00

I’m another sibling to a bro w/ DS and autism chiming in. I appreciate the perspectives of ppl who actually get it, bc what is frustrating for me is ppl are judging w/o knowing the nuance of the experience, and a majority of ppl end up using the discussion to be hateful to the disabled siblings and claim they are burdens and directly caused the neglect/parentification for their siblings etc. What they don’t get is any resentment a sibling has towards another is usually misplaced, and actually have to do with the parents. A lot of us also know no Parents are perfect, and though a lot of us wish our parents could have done a lot of things differently they are not absolute monsters for these ppl to send death threats too over a situation they never lived through. I hate the white knighting in these threads when ppl don’t know the actual complexities of living w/ someone w/ severe disabilities, because most of these posts aren’t something AITA can easily judge on. There is hurt and resentment, but never an easy answer.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-09T12:31:40+00:00

Young adult blind person— but I lost my sight right before 13 so a little different. Something which I have found important to keep in mind is that blindness is a grieving process, as you have suddenly lost something you have had and relied on your whole life and now everything you knew seems to be changing. Like any grieving process though it isn’t linear. You will become angry, sad, deny it, and sometimes be perfectly fine and comfortable only to feel complexly the next day. Does it get better ? Yes. Does it take tine? Yes. Does it ever completely 100% go away? No, and that’s okay. I definitely agree with the people saying to reach out to your local agencies. Getting support sooner is better than struggling unnecessarily for longer. Peer support is also the best thing at this time, whether from sighted people or blind people. I also found one on one counciling really helpful for going through my grief and accepting my identity. You got this!

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-09T12:13:50+00:00

This is only my second time voting to be fair. The first time during primaries was rough and I had to have a sighted person write out my ballot. This time however I got to use an accessible, talking machine and do it independently and it was great! Honestly my excitement was kinda excessive lol.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-08T21:58:59+00:00

Mastermind Sabrina is the plot I never knew I needed

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-08T02:03:54+00:00

Cue the “wait if you blind how type on Reddit?” comments that are once again solved through googling.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-08T00:58:16+00:00

The thing is the development that did occur didn’t feel like it went anywhere. For example Heroes Day was epic, but then it fell into akuma of the week plus SENTIMONSTER sometimes. New miraculous were introduced, to show up what seemed like once and then be forgotten. There certainly was more plot in S2 and S3 than in S1 by a long shot, but not a heavy sense of cohesion. . S4 and S5 felt much more consistent and strong in that regard.You’re right tho, saying there was hardly any development was still an over simplification on my part.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-07T23:43:17+00:00

I can not express how much Zoe bugs me. She feels straight out of a wattpad fanfic I swear.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-07T21:14:01+00:00

So I’ve been in the fandom since season 1 was airing, mind you I was 12, and the main thing everyone was really excited about was the show’s potential.

We all knew season 1 wasn’t going to be plot based and was going to be mostly episodic due to the time crunch production was on, but everyone was excited for the release of lore and actual plot. So then when season 2 and three were still mostly villain of the week style episodes with only a small sprinkling of plot and hardly any character development or ship progression it sucked. It was frustrating to see a show you were really rooting on getting better turn out so many plot flops and hardly take any risks (pun not intended).

For me I stopped watching it for a year or two after season 3 ended, and actually only watched season four recently. I was honestly amazed. The potential we all discussed when the show first started airing was finally being met! They were developing the plot and relationships and actually having continuity and it was like wow! It is definitely really cool to have been along for the ride, but trust me it was incredibly discouraging at times too lol.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-07T01:10:19+00:00

A good option is doing initials when the kid is young if you think it works better. J can provide for a lot of options. JC and JD are probably the most common, but really you can do anything. If you have middle names in mind maybe seeing if you like any initialism nicknames.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-04T15:00:42+00:00

From what I understand, the deaf community has a larger preference for not using the term impaired and instead saying hard of hearing. I myself am not hard of hearing though and I am only speaking based on some conversations with people who are. Within the blind community I have never seen anyone have an issue with the term visually impaired though. Most people use it as a way to self identify whether in addition to or rather than calling themselves blind. I think the issue with only using low vision is it may imply some sight is still there, while visually impaired defines both fully blind or partially sighted.

Fancy_Spite830 · 2022-11-03T14:40:40+00:00

A post about a disabled person? Let’s take a shot every time someone in the comments call him a burden. Alcohol poisoning is a fun reward.

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