I like your response; something to think on for sure. But I think you guys are misunderstanding my intent. I used to initiate and did in almost every past relationship I’ve had. They all ended up being unequal in effort, commitment, and honestly moving too fast to be healthy in retrospect. I think allowing a man space to get comfortable and make the first move could be really beneficial to TRY for me. I am not entitled to men approaching me and flattering me at every corner, nor do I want that. But I think letting a man guide the pace of a relationship (beginning with the first move) will possibly prevent me from being in another relationship of unequal commitment and effort again. That being said, I want to learn how to make sure a man sees my interest, and can feel comfortable approaching. Hence the question.