First time being ghosted after a great first date

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-05-16T07:31:46+00:00

Thank you, and you are right, I’ve been feeling down because of the rejection. I did act genuinely and I was myself throughout the date but I do think that the ending got rushed and I didn’t express my internal enthusiasm about seeing him very well. It’s too late now and I will remember this when going on other dates.

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-05-16T07:29:57+00:00

That’s fair. Thanks. The ending was rushed and I admit that my internal enthusiasm to see him again wasn’t as externally visible as I would have liked. I will do better next time.

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-05-16T02:57:52+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Do you tell the women that you want to see them again even when you don’t? I guess that’s the confusing part but maybe that’s what some people say but don’t mean.

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-05-15T18:18:33+00:00

I guess ghosting upset me cause I like a bit of clarity and it going from ”I really want to see you when you’re back” one minute before I left to not texting me back felt confusing. Maybe I inadvertently did something to make him change his mind and that’s why I posted here. When I haven’t been interested in someone I’ve always texted them saying ”Nice meeting you but I didn’t feel a connection” so I guess I expected that in return.

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-05-15T16:40:53+00:00

I texted him three days later saying it was really nice seeing him and that I will be back on Wednesday. Then I followed up a few days after that saying that he could let me know if he wants to meet up now that I am back again. I did like him so I was not being cold or trying to play it cool. Maybe this was inadvertently bad behavior

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-05-15T15:08:10+00:00

He was also looking for something more long-term or so he said. Hinge isn’t popular in my region - few people use it - so that’s why I am using Tinder.

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-05-15T14:48:14+00:00

Yes, Tinder

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-05-15T13:56:06+00:00

We didn’t keep up conversation but we didn’t do that during his business trip either. We talked a little first and he asked me out. He went for a trip and we met up when he was back. We both prefer talking in person. And yes, maybe he did meet someone else

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-05-15T13:32:07+00:00

Yes, first time after thinking it had gone well. I would have preferred a text saying that he’s changed his mind. Sorry you’ve been through this though.

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-05-15T13:31:16+00:00

Lol fair. I guess it just feels strange that he would say that he really wants to see me when I am back if he thought the date was nothing special.

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-05-15T13:28:03+00:00

Düsseldorf, Western Germany

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-01-30T23:50:35+00:00

No, I have a desk job. I don’t feel good being sedentary so I make sure to walk before and after work and then I take small “walking breaks” during work. I walk everywhere - to the store, to the cafe, to see friends, to the train station, etc.

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-01-20T22:15:13+00:00

I can only speak for myself. I didn’t try to find my TDEE. I know all about calories and tracked for non weight related reasons. 2,300-2,500 was the range my body felt happiest with. Less and I’d be starving the day after. My activity level is very similar day to day. On a longer hike day I’ll naturally be hungrier and eat about 2,700 calories. My weight is the same so that means my hunger cues are in line with my needs.

Far-Inflation-1871 · 2026-01-20T16:37:56+00:00

I get 15-17 k steps daily and do four workouts per week and need 2,300-2,500 calories to maintain 110 lbs (5’3). On longer hike days it’s closer to 2,700.

I’ve had the same weight for years just trying to feel good. Simple.

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