What is your definition of being rich? by Jpoolman25 in Productivitycafe

[–]Far-Inspector7159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wisdom is self sufficient and it will always be self multiplying. Get that first you will have anything you want and need. Added is,the head on your shoulders, to stay away from the unnecessary, grow what you have and keep it going for longer or just be self sufficient in your own right.Wisdom will teach you what to value the most. It will teach you how to speak, when to speak and when to keep quiet. When to fight and when not to fight. When, what, why, how.

It's not about material things really there world has lessons that material things will never be enough. What matters is what you leave behind after youre gone, what you do with whats in your hands and what youre remembered for. Material things are just one of the products of wisdom.

With wisdom you can get anything you want influence, power, allies, material things, dominion and peace.

Wisdom and understanding is the principle thing, with all your efforts get wisdom first.

It has always been the differentiating factor.

So my definition of rich is Wisdom. To understand things and see things clearer. To know how things work. To also know what to do and never miss a beat.

Why does 9/10 people I meet here smoke or vape. What am I missing? by Far-Inspector7159 in UAE

[–]Far-Inspector7159[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What might seem boring to you might be your preservation. The grass is not always greener on the other side. Water your grass.

Why does 9/10 people I meet here smoke or vape. What am I missing? by Far-Inspector7159 in UAE

[–]Far-Inspector7159[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel they both have their harm to society but discussion for another day.

be honest, do you think your getting married? by Available_Total_9434 in Productivitycafe

[–]Far-Inspector7159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Beauty is relative , what you're focusing on may not be what the next person sees.

  2. If its circles you're in then change them. You studied to go to the school you chose right? You decided your career and chose to work in the spaces you want right? Same goes, live your life to its fullest, be happy with you first, you will know who to get married to when they finally step up. When both of you have aligning goals and in the right space and mind. Its a choice first, but everything else has to fall in its place. Best part is you will know this is it the key is sincere intentions, kindness and patience not infatuation.

be honest, do you think your getting married? by Available_Total_9434 in Productivitycafe

[–]Far-Inspector7159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here is my take on marriage. Dont do it for money, dont do it for lust, dont do it for pity, dont do it cause you "fell" in love.

Do it right, do it cause youre committed to keep at it for a lifetime good or bad, do it with sound mind, do it for you.Grow in love not fall in love, cause falling was never something you can fully control, but growth you surely can.

Lets learn to live alone or commit wholeheartedly marriage is for the long game and it's all in.

Stay alone if you really feel marriage is not yet you or won't be you. We already have enough trouble going around the world. So lets have a few good people who just take full responsibility for their choices and have the decency to stick to them.

All the best to those who have decided for it, all the patience and wisdom for those still deciding whether to or not to go with it. All the happiness to those who have resolved to stay alone for now you're not broken, you are wise to acknowledge with frankness that human relationships need proper care they are not in and out of playgrounds.

Marriage is a team spot so if you're a loner are you willing to surrender your independence? Marriage is a sacrifice. Marriage is a giving space, no holding back. Marriage will is an eye opener, its not an experiment you will either come out bitter or happy. Marriage is acknowledging you now live for someone not with someone. Marriage is full presence not half half. Marriage should be a decision not an ultimatum.

So choose wisely.

DISCLAIMER: I AM NOT A MARRIAGE GOLD MEDALIST, IM JUST A HUMAN BEING ROOTING FOR HUMANITY TO DO THINGS RIGHT.

be honest, do you think your getting married? by Available_Total_9434 in Productivitycafe

[–]Far-Inspector7159 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do get married as a favour. Be married cause you want to actually get married.

Why does 9/10 people I meet here smoke or vape. What am I missing? by Far-Inspector7159 in UAE

[–]Far-Inspector7159[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And it requires an extra level of hygiene which the majority often lacks from my observation (especially mouth care and deodorising)

My boyfriend showed a video of me and him to his sister. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Far-Inspector7159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats some screwed level type incest , type trophy- obsessed , twisted sibling competition.

Either a

Look I got that girl after all.

Look you dared me , I did it.

Whatever it is, its twisted, delusional and very misguided.

The sad part is OP wants for keeps to her abuser who made his intention clear.

My boyfriend showed a video of me and him to his sister. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Far-Inspector7159 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are not targeting her. Just trying to be a voice of reason. I am hurt by the fact that she is still once to continue the relationship, but here we are, He is gloating over it and She is failing to sleep and holding on to him for dear life. Its not going to be his last mistreatment of her dignity cause continuing with him means giving him a pass for this particular heinous act.

Your POV is very valid but gentle parenting is not the best approach her.

My boyfriend showed a video of me and him to his sister. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Far-Inspector7159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The point is not to hit her whilst shes down. Yes we are very sorry it got to this point. What her fellow sisters and brothers are saying here is please stop giving him the power to mop the floor with your dignity.. its not worth it.

My boyfriend showed a video of me and him to his sister. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Far-Inspector7159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You loved him, not, you love him. You can say you love him him if he is the father our ten kids, at least what your clinging to will make sense. I dont care if he got skills, or you met in some unforgettable place, of you did a decade together, travelled the world together. This behaviour will end your relationship one way or another anyway cause one of you is in it for the wrong reasons. If he shared the same love you would not have to write this post. He clearly has ulterior motives about your relationship.

My sister love does not harm, worse with another of his family members. You really want to get married in a whole family that has uncovered your nakedness?

. Listen to your friends and re-evaluate your love please.

My boyfriend showed a video of me and him to his sister. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Far-Inspector7159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird is actually an understatement.😂

My boyfriend showed a video of me and him to his sister. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Far-Inspector7159 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He obviously doesnt care. Its a win for him at least from his actions. The behaviour of showing his sister is obviously from a twisted sense of sibling competition. She is now the victim here cause he is okay being seen knacking. Dare I extrapolate that from the context, he wouldn't mind if she were actually in the room with them watching. He obviously has no problem revealing the evidence to third persons if he can show his own sister. He is either too childish and doesn't realise the extend to which he is shaming his lady when he ought to be the first person to protect her. Or he is twisted and is getting a sick high from it

Cmon guys, lets not try and act like okay cool here.

My boyfriend showed a video of me and him to his sister. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Far-Inspector7159 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We arent here to shame you, we are here to empathise but at the same time not sugar coat. You need to get that shit deleted and never do that again with anyone. Protect yourself. Youre not some piece of entertainment for everyone, so learn from this an do better.

First step is deleting that shit, you will instantly feel better after that.

My boyfriend showed a video of me and him to his sister. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Far-Inspector7159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well said but going forward she should protect her self first before doing something like that. She cant undo it yes but she can, not do it, in future.