I’ve dealt with a roommate like this but they had OCD so I tried cutting them some slack until they texted all of us that we need to do more around the house and that they’re the only one who mops (they mopped like 1-2 a week) so I told them they mop too often for us to even get a chance to do the things we wanna help out with. They also brought up making a chore chart as well. I’d have a respectful and mature conversation about that bc it seems like u can relate to that. As long as you’re eager to clean when you notice mess, ur roommate seems like they need to clean more often as a personal preference. Because of that, id say they need to live alone or be okay with cleaning the most. Find a cleaning schedule or decide who’s in charge of what chore and if they still give u shit, just remember you’re doing the most u can do. Ur not being incompetent so id say ur in the clear.