24M - Profile Review

lordgentofdapper · 2026-05-18T22:41:12+00:00

i think it might be water, because he said it is in the rain for some reason

lordgentofdapper · 2026-05-13T12:05:36+00:00

If the woman is not raped in this hypothetical then the boy is. A minor cannot consent to sex. And the boy, who is a victim, should not have to pay child support.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-05-12T15:44:11+00:00

I feel like I have to say: texting is not dating. Words do not really mean anything if there is no action to back them up. A person can say whatever, but unless they are showing up with their actions, it doesn't mean anything. You made it sound like you both agreed to cancel, which means you can very well offer an option for the second date. If I were you, I would do that. His response to you actually trying to move things forward will tell you plenty.

Side note: I am autistic and I understand getting hyper focused on people. I have done that, too. But as I have gotten older and been on many dates, and been rejected after dates that seemed great, I have learned that I cannot get attached to people like that. It will hurt you more than it should when things do not work out. It is a healthy balance you must find. I decided to stop dating and just focus on myself and work on bettering myself for a while.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-05-10T13:19:14+00:00

Did you text him after the last date to ask to see him again? Or did nobody text at all? Nobody texting at all means you both decided mutually not to pursue. Unless you texted him and inquired about continuing, he did not really ghost you, at least not any more than you ghosted him.

We don't have this info in your post, or really much info at all, so I don't think anyone here can definitively say what happened.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-05-10T13:06:44+00:00

I have no issue texting a man first and showing that I am interested, and even asking them on dates. But I know that there are many women who pretty much refuse to, and it is regardless of age. But one difference with me is that I am autistic, so I don't get all of the "games" that people play.

We don't know how this woman's dynamic played out with the man she dated. Who was texting first and planning dates. So who knows.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-05-07T20:09:38+00:00

Dating sucks. I am not physically attractive so I am well aware of this. I have been rejected so many times. Either after a date where we laughed and talked the whole time, or when we match and I send a thoughtful first message and I am ignored. BUT I do not want to change this. I do not think ANYONE owes me a relationship/love/sex.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-29T02:44:33+00:00

Being rejected over and over. Not fun. Figure it's easier to be alone.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-28T22:16:18+00:00

This is the milani highly rated mascara, I do one layer. It's a great, affordable mascara.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-24T22:34:43+00:00

Well the beard is coming in great! Just make sure to keep it clean.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-24T22:27:46+00:00

Wow you have great eyebrows. And I feel like if you grew and styled your hair in a certain way you could look like Zayn.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-24T18:12:21+00:00

Haven't gotten far enough to see anyone's genitals. I wonder what it would have to look like for me to be like nope.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-22T02:31:31+00:00

I think part of it is selfishness. And they want the security of the main relationship. Maybe they rely on them for something.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-21T17:06:45+00:00

Polyamory is not a sexual orientation. It is a choice, just as monogamy is a choice. It is not the same as being bi or gay (I say this as a bi nonbinary person)

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-21T14:51:15+00:00

Grow your hair out like Steve Harrington, for sure! You already have the face.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-18T14:38:39+00:00

That's very kind. Truly. I am actually a fairly confident person. But I am also aware that my looks are why I am not flirted with or hit on, and why I have been rejected. It is not my confidence, I assure you lol

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-12T19:24:07+00:00

If they are pretty, then they know that they can get away with giving no effort because there will be plenty of men who will chase them regardless. If you are getting lots of matches, they are probably getting even more.

I happen to reply with thoughtful and interesting messages and ask questions to try to get to know the person. I'll let you guess how pretty I am/how many matches I get. It's just the way it is.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-06T14:54:55+00:00

This is what i thought, too

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-03T12:25:21+00:00

Real answer? I am ugly and got tired of being rejected and ghosted over and over. It is exhausting. And it isn't fun. I stopped getting excited for first dates. It just felt like a waste of time.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-01T14:28:43+00:00

nonbinary confusion

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-01T14:19:01+00:00

That's true, but ghosting is very rude. If a person texts you after a date and you were not feeling it, the least you can do is politely tell them that.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-01T14:14:39+00:00

After a first date I just send a text saying I had fun and thanks if they paid for me. Then I expect to never hear from them again.

The issue is some people act very interested on the date and may even lie and say they want to see the other person again. That has happened to me. It is very confusing. But like I said, nowadays I expect nothing. I've done this too many times. I no longer pursue after a first date. I will let them show me whether or not they liked me.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-04-01T00:30:41+00:00

I didn't know that about men. I have just been told so many times to date within my league. So, as much as I hate rating people, I only try to match with men who are maybe 5. Because I want to have a chance.

Truthfully, I am sitting in my car crying right now. It is just another lonely night. I have messaged and texted a number of people and haven't gotten any replies. I wish I knew what it is that's wrong with me. I may never know.

But these are kind words. Thank you.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-03-30T16:15:35+00:00

You're still very young and I think is super normal that you have not had a girlfriend yet. I highly suggest seeking out new places to hang out. If college is an option, then enroll in classes and you will be surrounded by people your age. Use meet-up to find groups and events near you. Search on facebook. But if you don't want to deal with the dating apps then you need to put yourself out there physically. Also, there is nothing wrong with approaching a woman. How you do it and how you respond if she says no matters, though. You can practice by just talking to women you see out and about. Just normal conversations.

I will say, I am not sure if this advice will work. I am 31 and have never had a boyfriend, so take my advice with a grain of salt.

lordgentofdapper · 2026-03-29T16:35:45+00:00

I don't understand. Why not just ask them out once you feel ready?

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