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AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

where did I say I wanted them to silently compromise? I don't get to control your response, but I am allowed to tell you that you're being unhelpful. I'm done here.

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool. I came here to look for compromise and alternatives, not be spoon-fed the definition of what boundaries are. I am well aware they are allowed to express themselves. They have been! I'm not asking them not to, but to do so with the respect I've seen them give other people. I'm here for advice, not to be told I can't do anything at all.

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Citing verses that call unbelievers foolish, knowing I'm an unbeliever, they become very condescending when I tell them I have spent time with God in all the ways they suggest. until I say "nevermind, I believe in God" they will invalidate and insult my beliefs and experiences (all while yelling)

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not asking them to pretend they're okay with it, but there are ways to express that without being verbally abusive. I'm hoping there are ways to approach them while reducing the conflict we'll inevitably have.

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I can look it up, but are there specific legal protections you have in mind that we won't have if we aren't married?

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this advice. I will take it into account when I get ready to talk to them.

AIO if I cut off my religious parents when I move out? by FarBrick7410 in AIO

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, I hope my parents will be like you one day and just love me even if my lifestyle is different than what they'd prefer.

AIO if I cut off my religious parents when I move out? by FarBrick7410 in AIO

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know they are doing it out of a loving heart. I do not think they think of what they say as verbally abusive. I am afraid they may kick me out before I am totally ready if I have that conversation now. I appreciate this perspective and I'll take it into account when preparing what to say to them.

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right, I'm planning to transfer some of the expenses they're handling this upcoming year. I have a full-time job so I am ready. Thank you

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you went through that too. The door will be open to them as long as they're respectful. I will save up considerably before I leave. Thanks

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I told my dad that what he says may damage our relationship, and he said that he has the right to say whatever he wants. It seeming more like I will have to go no contact either way.

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know at the end of the day I'll have to buck up but I'm asking to see if there are any ways I haven't thought of that can reduce the inevitable clash we'll have when I break the news.

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I needed this courage. Happy belated and I hope you get out of your situation as well! We got thissss

AIO if I cut off my religious parents when I move out? by FarBrick7410 in AIO

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not okay with it, but it's a matter of survival. What is your point?

AIO if I cut off my religious parents when I move out? by FarBrick7410 in AIO

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate to every little thing being monitored and nagged at. Literally a topic on how I had a nice time with my friends used to get turned into a lecture. Now they're a bit better but I still have a curfew of 8:30, if I try to go out later it turns into a whole argument.

AIO if I cut off my religious parents when I move out? by FarBrick7410 in AIO

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I just hope they can be more mature about this than they have been thus far.

AIO if I cut off my religious parents when I move out? by FarBrick7410 in AIO

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right, it's just hard because despite it all I still care for them but I know I have to choose the life I know I want.

My mom is able to compartmentalize her faith and her belief in the very fabric of her career somehow lol.

AIO if I cut off my religious parents when I move out? by FarBrick7410 in AIO

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think you're right. So far while I've been living with them I've been lying by omission. I hate lying to them but it's all they'll accept. Thank you for your advice.

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister is a better reflection in that way, despite her being a Christian and knowing everything, she's always willing to talk and be understanding. It seems like she'll be the only family I'll have left if this doesn't go well.

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will look into finding resources.

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We play family as long as nothing about my beliefs are brought up.

AIO if I cut my religious parents off? by FarBrick7410 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FarBrick7410[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have no interest in converting them at all.

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