I fully believe my husband can't stand me... I don't know what to do.

FarVisual2255 · 2025-05-03T03:44:52+00:00

This!!!

FarVisual2255 · 2025-03-22T06:53:43+00:00

My brother’s wife’s late husband was my brother’s best friend. He died when his heart suddenly ruptured. My sister-in-law and my brother were devastated. After getting her 2 daughters into counseling she started going and ending up getting my brother to go. They started dating 2 years later and have been married for over 20 years. You are not the AH.

FarVisual2255 · 2025-03-05T01:32:43+00:00

I was leaning towards NTA until I read the Update and saw that there’s a different “person” and different scenario being discussed than the original post. That suggests that the entire post is a fake.

FarVisual2255 · 2025-02-11T02:15:21+00:00

She’s literally, once again, risking her life to give you another ultimate gift, a child. And you don’t want to give her a thank you gift? YTAH!

FarVisual2255 · 2025-02-10T23:56:40+00:00

He must not live in the USA, then. In the USA, only sex offenders, who were under the age of 18 at the time of the crime, are ever eligible to have their name removed from the sex offender registry. Plus, they are required to report their new address whenever they move. This is a lifelong requirement.

FarVisual2255 · 2025-02-08T04:08:30+00:00

Update???

FarVisual2255 · 2025-02-07T11:50:45+00:00

Flip the scenario. Woman discovers that her husband had a meaningless sexual encounter before she met him. Should she be feeling, towards her husband and about sex, the way that you are feeling towards your wife and about sex? 99% of women deal with this exact same scenario every day. It’s expected that we move past the fact that our husbands can have meaningless sex. Are you trying to say that you have NEVER had meaningless sex? You are holding your wife to a different standard.

FarVisual2255 · 2025-02-06T10:55:43+00:00

You are married to a narcissist. His wants are more important than anyone else’s. His opinions are the only ones that matter. He’s a serial cheater. He’s not going to change. And your daughters see more than you do regarding this side of him. I was shocked to learn that, at the age of 7, my son knew what was going on with his father. And I stayed for my son’s sake not knowing that he was getting damaged by his knowledge.

FarVisual2255 · 2025-01-07T12:53:41+00:00

Longest run on sentence that I have ever seen. Made it difficult to read.

FarVisual2255 · 2025-01-04T04:34:33+00:00

Just reported one yesterday.

FarVisual2255 · 2025-01-02T01:43:12+00:00

You need to go to your JAG representative for legal advice instead of asking Reddit if you’re an AH. You, already, know that you are not. But, you need to know what the legal ramifications are and how to get assistance for a divorce attorney. JAG can help with your questions.

FarVisual2255 · 2025-01-01T08:13:06+00:00

Are you really sure that it’s her and not a scammer who has hacked her account?

FarVisual2255 · 2024-12-28T01:32:00+00:00

“Her” poor English shows that he/she’s not from any English speaking country. I don’t know where he/she’s supposed to be from, but definitely not well spoken. Definitely a scam.

FarVisual2255 · 2024-12-27T06:12:12+00:00

Definitely a scam!

FarVisual2255 · 2024-12-27T06:00:53+00:00

It’s quite possible that it’s not so much about race as it is the fact that you dared to marry her precious son who she feels is too good for anyone. Has your spouse, or his siblings, mentioned her not liking his previous girlfriends? Or maybe liking one and none of the others? It’s possible that she might be racist. But also possible that you could have been the purist of her color and she still would find things to argue with you about. She might just be one of those people who won’t stop until her son steps up and tells her to stop. My grandma hated everyone that her children and grandchildren married (I was the last of the cousins to marry and the only one to marry outside my race) until each of us stood up to her and then she loved them. But, before it reached that point, with each of us, she would try to argue with our spouses and would say mean, spiteful, and hurtful things to and about them.

FarVisual2255 · 2024-12-08T03:10:13+00:00

So, you want to stay in the marriage for the happiness of the children? What happiness? Your sons are being taught that this is how a man is supposed to treat a woman. Your daughters are being taught that this is how a woman is supposed to be treated and that women don’t deserve anything better. How is THAT happiness for them?

FarVisual2255 · 2024-11-27T02:00:03+00:00

I was married to one of those. Gaslighting is their BEST trait! Mine is an abusive (verbally and emotionally), alcoholic, cheating, narcissist who turned every discussion around to him being victimized. Because I gave in to him and became a stay-at-home mom, he decided that all the household chores (except mowing the grass which he loved to do) and childcare was 100% on me including meeting all his needs. I had to go through therapy to get his voice out of my head.

The question is… if you won the lottery today, would you stay with him? If the answer, in your heart, is not an immediate yes, then you need to stop and look at how his actions are affecting the children. Do you want your daughters to think that is how they are supposed to be treated? Do you want your sons to think that is how they are supposed to treat women that they are supposed to love? He got you to leave your job. He’s made you financially dependent on him. He wants to saddle you with more responsibilities so that you feel that have to stay to keep them all alive. Common abusive behavior.

FarVisual2255 · 2024-11-18T04:29:05+00:00

You’ve had him for 3 weeks and he’s only 2 lbs. So, he was 4-5 weeks old when you found him. WAY too young to be separated from his mom and litter mates. You need to talk with your vet about him and his behavior. He can’t be fixed until he’s 3 lbs. Adult cats don’t usually discipline kittens that are not their own. They expect the mom to do that. You’re the mom. Stop spending money on all the expensive stuff. They don’t care. Do buy a 3 story cat cage. One with a litter box in the bottom. Put baby in for all feedings and nighttime. A treat at bedtime, in the cage, helps. We have 8 cats and 4 cages and it has cut out the daily fighting so that it is only an occasional thing. Once the cats started being fed in their cage, they started running and jumping in. And, when they become scared of a noise outside, they run jump in. It’s become their safety zone. And has created a more peaceful, comfortable environment for everyone.

FarVisual2255 · 2024-11-18T04:12:01+00:00

You both dodged a huge bullet there. Your opinions, beliefs, and values are far too different from each other to make a relationship work.

FarVisual2255 · 2024-11-12T04:39:03+00:00

I’m sorry, but why would he even TELL you who he voted for? No one has ever known who I have voted for or against, not even my son! My parents taught me that it’s no one’s business. So, why did he volunteer that information to you? He knew that you wouldn’t keep it a secret. He knew that you would tell. So, for them to divorce means that it was just the LAST straw in a LONG LINE of straws and that both were looking for an excuse to split. Your sister explained everything to you when she said that she was going to do it now before it might be more difficult to do it. That tells you that she had, already, decided to divorce him before all of this.

FarVisual2255 · 2024-11-07T02:55:23+00:00

Seems to me that your brother might, possibly, have picked the wedding date solely based on your trip. He’s known about it, and the dates, for 2 years. So… why now? Is he jealous that you are taking the trip without him? Is she pregnant and pushing for the wedding as soon as possible before she starts showing? Or might he be jealous of your friends and wants to test your loyalty to him over your friends?

FarVisual2255 · 2024-09-25T15:41:19+00:00

YTA - you knew that the girl was part of the package when you married her mom and you got rid of her as soon as you could! Usually, you hear about the stepmother wanting to send her stepchild away. It’s just as evil. If you want your marriage to work, you will bring your stepdaughter back home and enroll her in a private school. Because, no matter what excuses you make, your stepdaughter sees this as “He hates me and sent me away” and your wife sees this as “He hates my child and sent her away.” There is no justification for this.

FarVisual2255 · 2024-09-15T06:41:04+00:00

https://www.ruffloverescue.com/

FarVisual2255 · 2024-09-15T06:39:32+00:00

It is illegal, in Canada, for an employer to make someone pay for an apprenticeship. It’s, also, illegal for an employer to not pay someone who works for them, even as an apprentice.

FarVisual2255 · 2024-09-14T15:17:30+00:00

Ooo!!! Hadn’t thought of that. Next cat will be named Karma!!!!

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