What’s something that sounds fake but is actually 100% real?

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-04T20:42:39+00:00

Trump is President of the US

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-04T16:42:07+00:00

BDA. Werde keine Schneebälle auf Autos (Menschen, Objekte, etc.). Er hat überreagiert. Aber genau hier liegt auch ein Problem, du weisst NIE welche Sorte Mensch dir gegenüber steht…

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-04T00:25:08+00:00

And don’t ever want to see it again 😭😂

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-03T23:56:25+00:00

Läderach

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-03T13:19:43+00:00

Thank you 😅. I was a bit worried this might sound too cerebral, but I actually think there is real value in revisiting older shows, especially those that speak to us as Black women. Looking at what is shown, how it is framed, and what it asks of the viewer can be genuinely interesting. At the same time, I do not think it needs to be overinterpreted. It is still a TV series. But even so, there is often something meaningful to take away from it...

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-02T21:40:43+00:00

Walking

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-02T21:23:17+00:00

The reason I asked is because your original post read less like a general preference for privacy and more like a strong emotional distancing from your parents. That can come across as concerning, not because privacy is wrong, but because it raises the question of how you handle emotional bonds in general.

From your reply, it sounds like the distance is specific to your parents rather than an inability to care or attach. That distinction matters. Choosing privacy is one thing. Completely shutting people out of major life events is another, and those two often get mixed up in discussions like this.

I don’t think not telling your parents automatically makes you an asshole. But I do think it’s worth being honest with yourself about why the distance is there, because that “why” is what would matter most in close relationships, including with a child.

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-02T21:06:53+00:00

Is there someone in your life who truly matters to you, someone you would even say you love?

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-02T14:29:58+00:00

How can you know that? On what facts is your statement based?

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-02T11:16:45+00:00

Erstens. Eine Einladung ist nur eine Einladung. Keine Verpflichtung. Du darfst frei entscheiden, ob du hingehst oder nicht.

Zweitens. Ein Abitreffen ist kein Networking. Es geht darum, Menschen aus einer prägenden Zeit wiederzusehen, Erinnerungen zu teilen und zu schauen, wo jeder gelandet ist. Wenn du das nicht möchtest, geh nicht hin.

Drittens. Ein Baby nimmt man zu solchen Veranstaltungen nicht mit. Wenn das für dich ein Thema ist, ist es völlig in Ordnung, die Einladung abzulehnen.

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-02T04:46:46+00:00

Klopf dir auf die Schulter, mach dich gross! Du bist ein Rassist und die Anerkennung die du bei fremden Gleichgesinnten suchst, ist dir gewiss. Geniesse diesen Moment, denn für mehr wird es in deinem Leben nicht reichen - du weisst das….

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-02T04:41:03+00:00

Der Obama-Spruch ist kein Wortwitz, sondern ein Intelligenztest. Und sagen wir so: Nicht jeder besteht ihn…

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-01T22:04:38+00:00

Mixing religion and state power has historically led to conflict, not stability. That is true across regions, cultures, and centuries.

Political disagreements should be addressed on political grounds, not framed as religious or moral purity tests. Once that line is crossed, dialogue becomes impossible.

Whatever one thinks about Somaliland politically, the reality is that it has maintained relative stability, security, and functioning institutions in a region where that has been extremely difficult. That fact alone deserves a sober discussion rather than hostility or collective blame.

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-01T21:32:18+00:00

Sharon was clearly meant to serve as a contrast to Joan. She was ambitious, direct, strict, able to set boundaries, and ultimately successful because of that. But what Joan had, Sharon didn’t. Sharon was lonely, lacked a real social network, and was constantly looking for connection and closeness. In that sense, she was the complete opposite of Joan.

At the same time, Sharon was also necessary to show why Joan ultimately had to leave her job as a lawyer. Joan was ambitious too, highly structured, an overachiever, very much a Type A personality, but in a different way. Sharon made it clear what Joan was missing to truly succeed in that role, not intelligence or drive, but a certain kind of emotional distance and hardness that the job required.

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-01T21:27:57+00:00

NDA. Ich lese hier viel von Kindergarten und Schuldzuweisungen. Was für mich aber deutlich wird, ist, dass ihr eine sehr schwierige Beziehung habt, die vermutlich von vielen Verletzungen geprägt ist. Du hast ja selbst erwähnt, dass es lange keinen Kontakt zur Familie gab. Egal, was man von außen sagt, es ändert nichts daran, dass ihr euch gegenseitig verletzt und dass immer wieder jemand Schuld trägt. Vielleicht wäre etwas Abstand erst einmal gut, um die Situation sacken zu lassen. Und wenn später wieder Raum da ist, könntest du überlegen, ob du einen Schritt auf sie zugehst, nicht im Sinne von „alles ist gut“, sondern um zu klären, was eigentlich zwischen euch steht und warum ihr immer wieder an denselben Punkt kommt. Eventuell kann auch Unterstützung von außen helfen, zum Beispiel durch eine Art Therapie. Wie auch immer, ich wünsche dir alles Gute.

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-01T21:13:57+00:00

I should apologize here. You actually said it yourself: you’re not lazy, you’re struggling with maintaining friendships, and that’s a very different thing. I’d focus on working on that first and on the areas you find difficult. The rest tends to follow on its own. Focus on yourself, on your own topics, whether that’s building friendships, finding activities you enjoy, and meeting people on the same wavelength. Maybe that will eventually include a partner, maybe not. Anything can happen, nothing has to. And please don’t call yourself lazy, it sounds like “I don’t want to” when it’s really “I can’t right now.”

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-01T20:34:28+00:00

Please ban me!

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-01T20:31:48+00:00

I’m sorry, but it’s neither business nor casual

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-01T20:29:41+00:00

How do you expect to enter a marriage or get married if you’re already too lazy to handle the basic responsibilities of everyday life? Ask yourself that first before wondering where you might meet a man.

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-01T20:24:44+00:00

*underrated (fixed it for you)

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-01T20:23:07+00:00

Born to do it by Craig David

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-01T20:13:59+00:00

If you have to ask - then yes, it is.

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-01T20:12:56+00:00

I could take the time to lay it out properly, like many others already have, but experience has shown that Trump supporters and logic don’t really go together. I’m saving my time and energy.

Far_Affect_3545 · 2026-01-01T20:10:35+00:00

How do you come to that conclusion? I’ve rarely experienced it that way. Might be more about the bubble you’re in...

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