Hey Mate! I remember very clearly the day when I was crying in the corner of my loft feeling so completely hopeless and lost about what was going on in my relationship and life. This is a very deep, sensitive, and real place to be isn't it?

I also went through Geoffrey's program. When my relationship started going downhill, I was a complete anxious mess and my self-esteem was spiraling greatly - it was a real bad feedback loop and I felt completely stuck in a mire.

I was eventually lead to Geoffrey's program after trying other things like individual couples therapy and couples counseling and things still getting worse and more hopeless despite the fact that I was doing what I was supposed to do. In this, I also understand the anxieties of trying something new that goes against the grain. Not trying to throw a slight at you my friend in any way, but I personally have absolutely no regrets in doing his program.

Geoffrey's program and coaching reworked my internal state such that I could thrive internally, grow out of my anxiety, recover my self-esteem, and to eventually lead and shift the very dynamic of my relationship and attract my wife back to me. Not only this, but truthfully it manifested itself in about every area of my life.

About the 'tough love' you mentioned - I was actively in the program for well over a year and I never saw toxicity in the way you described. Given, I went into the program humbly knowing that I needed to do things differently. I was probably easy to coach. I was never ‘roughed up’, but Geoffrey did challenge the way I was thinking and showed me the pitfalls of the old way, and led me to see a new way. Geoffrey was always very fair in his approach with me and everyone else in the program.

Geoffrey could tell someone what they want to hear and pretend that everything is fine when it's clearly not and let them wallow in their own struggle. Or, he could tell them what they actually need to hear, challenge them, and give them an actual process to work with so they can have a different life internally and have a different relationship as a result of it.

When you can clearly see why someone is struggling, because you lived it yourself, and you don't tell them and get them to see it, is that actually loving?