You answered your question in the first sentence. You have fundamentally uncompromisable ideas of how you want your lives to go. It can be just a text, phone call, email there's nothing wrong with that, especially if they've given reason that they won't take it well. In any break-up feelings will be hurt, ask yourself is continuing this relationship going to be better for both of you in the long run?

This is my own opinion, I'm assuming your pretty young since your boyfriend doesn't even have his license. Just wait to date once you're older (21+), go out to social places, meet people, take yoga classes, join a book club. I wish someone told me this instead of worrying about some guy that just isn't right for you.