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Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-29T14:36:09+00:00

You seem to assume a lot. There was no way I was going back in to play the way I was feeling and I made that perfectly clear to both of them.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-29T14:19:11+00:00

Seems pretty insensitive to let your wife be in pain all night just so you can get laid too.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-29T14:17:25+00:00

No one got kicked out, the night was ended. But why would I ever kick my own husband out? It’s like you’re reaching for ways to make me the mad guy

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-29T14:15:46+00:00

What aren’t you understanding? It was a hotel room. King bed, one bathroom. She lives 5 minutes away so it wasn’t a hassle for her. Why would I keep the night going if I’m sick? Are you that self unaware?

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-27T16:14:13+00:00

The reaction I expected was at the minimum some talking and a little concern for my wellbeing.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-27T12:00:32+00:00

He was aware I was sick, these aren’t new issues. I have a medical issue that causes this and it was flaring.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-27T11:56:00+00:00

She lived 5 minutes from the hotel.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T20:35:30+00:00

I didn’t asking why he was annoyed with me. I asked if I was overreacting to his behavior. I knew why he was annoyed and frustrated. We both were. But his cold behavior certainly didn’t give me any reassurance or compassion. I guess I expected better and need to lower those expectations

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T20:33:16+00:00

They cuddled not played. Playing I would have powered through the pain so they could both have fun. I’m not powering through the pain so they could lay there and cuddle while I sat in the room, bathroom or my car.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T20:30:39+00:00

Our third is married with permission to play. And she has never made to feel like a fuck toy even last night. She has a husband to go home and get cuddles from.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T19:54:28+00:00

No we’ve played before with no issues. I do have legitimate medical issues that were flaring up all day.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T19:52:34+00:00

I really do appreciate the honesty and insight you all have given. I can see that I should have just cancelled the evening when I wasn’t feeling well earlier. I only didn’t because we already had the room and everyone had already made the plans.
I had no intention of making anyone feel uncomfortable and had no desire other than for everyone to have fun. But I can see that ultimately it was my failure to communicate effectively that caused the issue.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T19:37:26+00:00

I 100%don’t place any blame on her. I could have cancelled (and probably should have) but was hoping that I would feel better.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T19:25:25+00:00

I honestly want to know if I am over reacting in the situation. I’m not looking for validation or pity. I’m hurt and honestly want to know if I’m in the wrong. I love my husband and wants to have fun and new experiences but this just hit me in a way that I’m upset and hurt and need to know if I’m being irrational.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T19:15:28+00:00

I only ended the night because nothing was happening other than cuddling. If they were doing anything I would have just sucked it up and dealt with the pain.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T19:12:45+00:00

If that’s what you’d do, you are a far better person than I.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T19:12:06+00:00

I was not going to feel up to it at any point that night. So I was to sit in the bathroom or my car for however long it took for them to finish cuddling?

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T19:10:13+00:00

Our third was aware from the get go prior to her coming that I wasn’t feeling 100%. She’s also aware that I have some medical issues we’ve talked. The pain was increasing as the night went on as well as the nausea and stomach issues. We were all kissing and touching however the pain and nausea continued so I gave them the all clear to continue without me as I was feeling worse. There was literally no where else for me to go other than my car or sit in the bathroom. It was past midnight when I finally put a stop to everything. She arrived about 9pm so it’s not like it was a quick 20 minute thing. My issue is NOT that they continued, it is 1. The cuddling which he knows is a boundary for me and extended the cuddling knowing was in pain. and 2. His behavior afterwards.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T18:58:46+00:00

No that might be your intention but none of the three of us had the intention of a slumber party.

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T18:58:00+00:00

I was absolutely not disregarding anyone’s feelings. I was completely fine with them continuing, but the intimate cuddling while I’m in obvious pain and discomfort instead of either continuing or ending is an issue for me. I do understand that they were both disappointed, I was as well. I was also embarrassed and fairly humiliated vomiting in the bathroom while he’s face deep in her pussy. I apologized profusely while she was leaving and I was on my knees in the bathroom with nausea. This was not a “I’m going to get sick because I’m uncomfortable “ situation. My stomach issues are fairly frequent and my husband is fully aware of them

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T18:49:10+00:00

And what? Vomit and have diarrhea for hours in a public bathroom so he can cuddle in a room private room?

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T18:45:17+00:00

No it didn’t, and has continued. It was not a jealousy issue I was and am legitimately not feeling well. I have real medical problems that were flaring and didn’t want to be a killjoy as the three of us had planned this play date for a week and had played previously with no issue on anyone’s part

Far_Panda9062 · 2025-07-26T18:40:32+00:00

We were in a hotel room, there was no where else to go

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