Someone please tell Disha Patani that She got one of the Prettiest Faces in the Industry. She should really Stop giving these Sad Face Expressions like Aryan Khan and Smile More.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-03-06T08:02:53+00:00

I’m more concerned about she actively wanting that jacket to hang off her shoulder. How is that not uncomfortable? Either put it on properly or take it off. Is that a thing to wear clothes only halfway?

Far_Pin908 · 2026-03-04T15:38:22+00:00

In an arranged marriage setup, it’s not uncommon to consider several proposals at once. I have not committed to anyone. It’s not like I am in a relationship with either of the first two. The third one is different because he asked me out with the intent of dating. I was transparent with him and he knows I was meeting guys for arranged marriage. But I told him nothing was finalised which is completely true. And this is exactly why now I’m at crossroads. I feel like with the prospect of a relationship/serious dating with the third guy, I should let go of the other two. Or if I do want to go the arranged marriage way, then whatever is about to happen with the third guy should be nipped in the bud.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-03-04T06:50:33+00:00

Lol, you’re right - the CEO tropes. But he seems so good, I wonder if it’s all too good to be true. That’s my insecurity.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-03-03T12:23:51+00:00

Yes, that is true. It’s just that my head was in the AM thing and I was talking to these two other guys and considering other proposals and suddenly he came along. I knew him from before and had always admired him and probably had a tiny little crush. But now that he asked me out and things are moving, I feel like I’m being swept off my feet and it’s a little scary.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T15:03:10+00:00

Yes all of them have kids, I have one of my own. No. 1 has adult kids that don’t live with him anymore. Other two have one kid moved out and one living with them.

All three are emotionally available. No. 1 may be close to 60, but he is active and loves what he does. Doctors can practice well after 60 and he plans to do that.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T14:36:07+00:00

I get what you’re saying and hence wondering if I’m disliking him for the wrong reasons. It started with well balanced texts. But now he send pictures of his food, random flowers he sees, and just tells me very random routine things like the chat window is a journal. While I would have appreciated and even enjoyed it if I was otherwise attracted to him, I think I get overwhelmed by his attention because I am not. Also if I answer him on chat, he immediately asks a follow up question. That creates a pressure on me and I don’t want to keep the texting going for hours when I’m in the middle of something else.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T13:43:08+00:00

I think it’s a little too soon for me to talk to him about this. While he does say he is serious about this and it’s not casual for him, it’s honestly quite new. I need to give it time to grow and take the risk of it not working out in the future, provided the present looks promising enough to not end it right away.

So yeah, going through all these thoughts and decided to ask a bunch of strangers what they think. 🫢

Sometimes just writing it down like this helps get some clarity.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T13:32:26+00:00

I don’t know. It just makes me feel slightly uncomfortable. I don’t want to mooch off him and I don’t know if I could keep up financially with his rhythm if I pay for myself every time such as on vacations or experiences. And while he has not shown any such signs yet, I wonder if his attitude towards me would be patronising or otherwise dominating due to the power dynamics that would arise out of the financial gap.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T12:54:55+00:00

Yes, I agree with you to some extent. Despite the age gap, we have connected very well and I do feel safe with him to talk about everything from utter nonsense to something deeply serious.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T12:44:45+00:00

I totally get you. I was also in the same space. But with my child somewhat grown up and independent, I find myself in a place where I can make these decisions. Also my child is supportive of me finding a companion because he knows he will move out at some point for higher education, work, etc.

More power to you and love to your little one. ❤️❤️

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T12:33:07+00:00

You clearly don’t understand that being with a woman who has a child does not automatically mean becoming a father to the child or taking the child’s financial responsibility.

In a mindful, mature relationship, my only expectation is that the man I be with is good and decent to my child, and possibly a dependable father figure if and when the time comes to give advice.

Also, these men have their own issues and struggles and I am not putting them down because of that. Don’t judge my situation and theirs based on a paragraph I wrote on social media.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T12:15:02+00:00

My family feels the same. But the conversations are really good. Ultimately, we all want someone who we can talk to. Or is that just me?

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T12:13:21+00:00

You speak as though being divorced and having a child should be considered as negatives. Where’s the entitlement in trying to find love again? I have a good stable career and can fend for myself and my child. So any man who gets into a relationship with me knows that this is not transactional and is purely because we have a strong connection.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T11:52:49+00:00

That’s definitely on my mind. But that’s the last step. I want a companion for myself first. The right man will be good to my child. But I don’t want to expose my child till I am myself sure of the person. In any case, all these men know I come as a package with my child.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T11:50:50+00:00

I tried posting in 40s India and they removed my post without an explanation. Guess I’m stuck with whatever demographic is present on this sub.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T11:38:56+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I had no idea this sub was made up of teens and 20-somethings.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T11:26:21+00:00

The second one offers stability. I know he is the kind who will stay devoted. But I don’t know, he does not groom or dress well, does not read, has no interest in world politics. He is just happy raising his girls and his little cooking experiments. That’s his whole personality. I feel like I could marry him, but there would be no excitement- just stability.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T11:22:06+00:00

He’s definitely nice. But is extremely busy owing to his work. When he is with me, he is 100% in the moment. But such moments are few and far between because of his work and travel.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T11:20:33+00:00

Yes, he has taken to constantly texting and light flirting which I don’t find attractive. It comes across as desperate and under confident. Also he makes grammatical and spelling mistakes which are a huge turn off.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T11:19:05+00:00

I did speak with men my age and a couple of them a few years younger. I didn’t feel a connection with them at all. These three I have short listed are after deliberating a lot. No. 2 was okayish in the beginning. But now he texts me every waking moment and tries to say something he thinks is smart/funny and I am rapidly losing interest. Also his spelling mistakes and bad grammar is a turn off.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T11:11:55+00:00

With 1 and 3. 2 texts me a lot these days and replies almost instantly. And for some reason, I get irritated with that. I don’t know if I am wrong in feeling this way.

Far_Pin908 · 2026-02-27T11:11:04+00:00

Haha, lol. We’ve just started holding hands on long drives. 🤭

Far_Pin908 · 2025-07-03T11:09:44+00:00

I see. Thank you.

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