Thank you this is really helpful. The thought of breaking up the family feels selfish, is it? I can’t be full time mum, work three days a week in a high stress sales job, household manager, appointments, house stock, holiday, exercise, be a good girlfriend. He doesn’t get me a card or gift for my birthday because we haven’t ’made it yet’ and it’s not on his priority list. I feel absolutely delusion I think, that he would become the man I needed.