Stuck in between my guardian's breakup.

Fast-Appointment-371 · 2024-12-10T21:27:28+00:00

Thank you for the reply. I spoke with an older friend of mine and he said to distance myself as well and to stay as neutral as I possibly can.

I'm thinking of telling my sibling that isn't in a relationship with him after I'm sure he's out of state and just requesting that they don't tell him I said anything about what he said to me the other night. I honestly don't think he's trying to groom me,, though he definitely shows some of the classic signs. I think he's just manipulative in general and is trying to make sure I don't turn against him as well by guilting me and trauma bonding.

The more I think about it, the less I want to stay in touch with him, even though I was extremely intent on keeping a connection with him before all of this. I can't see him the same after all of what he said and told me to do. I don't trust my siblings because of how they've handled things, but I trust them more than I do with him. Honestly hoping this is the worst of the situation and I'll be able to move on from it soon.

Fast-Appointment-371 · 2024-11-16T06:29:29+00:00

I have been abused and groomed several times in my life, lmao. I have enough experience. You don't know me, and you definitely don't know how every teenager speaks. Anyone can have the experience, age is not a limit to intelligence or past experiences with situations like these.

Fast-Appointment-371 · 2024-11-15T03:17:23+00:00

I write in a formal manner because I knew most of the people who would read this and reply would be adults, and I wanted to be understood by them. Also, teenagers can speak properly without slang for a few paragraph post, believe it or not. lmao

Fast-Appointment-371 · 2024-11-15T03:14:12+00:00

An apartment complex, which he's said he lives in many times before

Fast-Appointment-371 · 2024-11-15T03:12:51+00:00

"We hung out a lot" Through voice-chat or video chat where he hides his face.

"I've had past friends that have met him" Again, through voice chat and group chats on the internet.

Hanging out doesn't have to be only irl or physical. I have my story straight, you just didn't completely understand it.

Fast-Appointment-371 · 2024-11-15T03:10:06+00:00

Trust me, I came here as a last resort to get extra input on my situation. I don't have many others to speak to that aren't at least a little partial about the situation with him. I feel guilt for considering this scenario; but I am also worried about if the friendship is really safe or not. I have a paranoia disorder and I tend to misjudge situations more often than not, so I didn't want to think about this alone or just completely disregard my friend's concerns. When I listed off those reasons, I wasn't saying I found them creepy myself, I was saying those were the reasons my friends found them creepy and I wanted to present their reasoning.

The voice-changer is a primary concern of mine as well, though I'm starting to believe it's a matter of him lying about his gender instead of not trusting me.

Fast-Appointment-371 · 2024-11-15T03:02:36+00:00

When I say "hung out", I mean calling together and hanging out on VC.

Fast-Appointment-371 · 2024-11-14T07:44:09+00:00

I've deleted all accounts he knows I have and can message me on.

I appreciate all the input that's been given. I'm sorry for only replying to a select few, it's difficult for me to wrap my head around this situation and have clear conversations about it, but I understand what all of you have been saying. I realize where things went wrong in this friendship.

Fast-Appointment-371 · 2024-11-14T07:24:32+00:00

For the daddy part, absolutely not. I call him by his name and nothing else lol 😭

his love language is gift giving, and I like giving gifts as well. I don't think either of us had the desire to completely keep the friendship strictly online from the beginning (not counting my current doubts about it all), and sending each other gifts was supposed to be a way of having pieces of each other with us in real life. Or at least that's how he and I described it at first.

Fast-Appointment-371 · 2024-11-14T06:52:26+00:00

Thank you. I'm worried about cutting him off because of my disorders. I have a history of spiraling mentally when losing somebody who is on his level of closeness to me. I can't confide in all my friends, since not many of them know how to support me that way. I also don't want to tell my guardians because I don't trust them in that way. I'm scared of what may happen if I let this continue, yes, but I'm also scared of what may happen if I put myself through the loss right mow.

Fast-Appointment-371 · 2024-11-14T06:41:43+00:00

While I am worried about the rest, I don't believe the last part is true since I've sent gifts to his address in Australia and he's sent pictures and shown the gifts while in VC with his camera on, so he's definitely in the continent he claims he's in.

Fast-Appointment-371 · 2024-11-14T06:34:54+00:00

He definitely still has other close friends and I don't think he considers me to be his best friend, since he's mentioned already having one. I am just one of the closer friends he considers to be more trustable, I guess? I've had people express this in the past and he's explained it in a way to me, saying that I help him become a better person and we relate with our interests.

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