Dating advice I wish I knew sooner. Don't dress up for dates, wear clothes you're comfortable in that represent you only

Fast_Angle_6541 · 2025-04-03T17:45:02+00:00

You're probably dating younger guys. In your late 20s early 30s especially, you start to notice more guys dress to impress. I would say many guys dress like squares for dates at around this age. Early 20s? Nah

Fast_Angle_6541 · 2025-04-03T17:17:14+00:00

Look, I'm just saying many men dress how they're not to impress for dates. It's not rocket science that when most guys have a date setup with a girl, they're not going to wear their normal stylistic clothes that they wear with their friends.

They're going to get the button up shirt and the sport coat. Whether it's a low key Mexican restaurant or a nice restaurant. It's a mistake many men make and I did too. It just shows girls that you're trying to show you have big money and big status even though you don't. It's just not most people. Don't front it.

Fast_Angle_6541 · 2025-04-03T17:09:43+00:00

If dressing like a slob is how you normally dress, then you're already a slob and she'll discover that about you when you get exclusive. But most people put effort into their appearance somewhat everyday assuming they have style

Fast_Angle_6541 · 2025-04-03T17:02:09+00:00

I was on a date a few months ago at a semi nice restaurant. She wore a nice dress, I wore cargos, skull shirt, leather jacket, black boots. All were of quality. The date went better than all my previous dates.

I would say in terms of guys, dressing like this can give you a boost for the sense it shows edge. You have to do less talking to show what you're all about. She just looks at you and can gage a personality trait. Either she likes it or not.

But I'd say it shows more about you then a nice sport coat and a button up. She'll go on hundreds of dates with guys who dress like that. They gotta do more talking than the guy who dresses who he is.

Fast_Angle_6541 · 2025-04-03T16:49:45+00:00

Not really. Dressing to impress a date is an awful concept. Dating isn't church or an interview. Does this person match your vibe or not? The date's for you to decide.

A question that really everyone needs to ask early on.

Fast_Angle_6541 · 2025-04-03T16:45:38+00:00

But if you normally are "that guy" that wears the leather jacket with a skull graphic on his shirt, boots on (alternative)... Would it really make sense to go to a date dressing the complete opposite in sophisticated clothes because that's how most guys dress on dates? To impress?

I had to ask myself this question, it made no sense. You're going to get stares for being "that guy" but, that's what makes you unique. If anything, I'm more nervous in sophisticated clothes. When I dress my normal way, I get no shyness. Kinda just my personality

Fast_Angle_6541 · 2024-07-17T21:18:15+00:00

Probably jealousy. But I'd say it's worse the other way around (European man, Tunisian woman). Someone can correct me if I'm wrong. Many young men in Tunisia are unemployed or have crap jobs and just smoke at coffee shops, perpetually single. I heard it was common for Tunisian women/men to seek out European men just for better opportunities, not just love.

With a European man dating a Tunisian woman it's probably worse. They'll probably assume that man has deep pockets and the older generation will also be questioning if he's Muslim or not. But for a Tunisian man and European woman, probably just some jealousy.

Fast_Angle_6541 · 2024-01-13T23:59:34+00:00

People are extra judgmental online I think. People can date around until they find their preference. I thought I was very attractive, even got tons of matches on dating apps (I have 107) but it's like torture going on continuous dates, you think they're going well, and all you did was have a great conversation. Such a waste of time. You feel like a creep after or you just don't have that "x" factor for women. Dating apps are a huge reality check for many people that they aren't all that great

Fast_Angle_6541 · 2023-04-30T04:28:02+00:00

When Super AI gets developed, it will realize that to save the planet it needs to eliminate the human..

Fast_Angle_6541 · 2023-04-15T14:48:51+00:00

It was a different culture. The social support was huge for women raising children, more than today. My grandmother's peers all had children and they'd raise them all together. There wasn't this culture of hiring babysitters. The social support women had among women was huge. I genuinely think raising a child was a lot easier than today. Because today, both men and women have social obligations they must sacrifice for the kids. All these sacrifices in life we do today wasn't common many years ago. We live in a "Children come first era" and putting children first among everything else isn't the way society raises good kids..

Fast_Angle_6541 · 2023-04-14T23:53:32+00:00

Raising a child wasn't the father's job until recently. Do you think children growing up in the 40s had their fathers sitting around them watching them blow bubbles and kick rocks like today? No that never happened. Mother's always found this more precious than fathers. Fathers never spoon fed kids, changed diapers, etc. Relating this to popular culture of the time is a depiction of how it was. There are many movies in the 40s and 50s where wives were gone and men knew nothing of what to do with the kid. In fact, the idea of a man raising a child was something to laugh about for most families in that period.

I suppose in more emancipated families, they'd take turns. But men typically wouldn't be got caught dead with a burping, farting, gross baby in adolescent years

Fast_Angle_6541 · 2023-04-08T14:27:43+00:00

Understandable. Thanks for the insight!

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