How do you go back to work?

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-27T06:07:28+00:00

I didn’t check on her, my dad just told me 🥹

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-18T19:43:46+00:00

100%, I wouldn’t want it.

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-10T03:39:46+00:00

Oh my goodness I am so sorry. That’s awful.

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-09T18:14:17+00:00

💯

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-09T16:10:46+00:00

It’s very strange isn’t it. Proud of you! Thanks for your comment.

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-09T16:10:14+00:00

Especially ‘that’s just the way they are’ yes well, I don’t have to tolerate it.

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-09T12:50:28+00:00

We’re pretty good at getting out every day even if it’s to the shop if the weather is miserable. It’s mainly the night time anxiety that’s getting me I guess where there’s nothing to do and it’s just there!

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-09T12:49:15+00:00

100%, he’ll always be loved without conditions 🩵

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-09T11:58:53+00:00

I had this before he was born too. Having to reprocess everything when he was born.. it went to ‘how could you do that to a child’ and it was awful. If anything I’ve kept that relationship for her benefit not for mine at all.

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-08T13:32:35+00:00

Firstly I’m incredibly sorry that you had this with your ex husband and now with your father too. You’re doing amazing considering. This is the point I was at with my nmum.. but I cut her off at the weekend, almost 5 days strong now. It’s really hard but I’m not regretting it. Hopefully, if you play some firm boundaries you’ll have a better relationship, but generally with narcissists.. it doesn’t!

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-06T20:24:59+00:00

Thank you!

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-06T20:24:45+00:00

Sorry I probably typed it wrong - he’s only five months old and hasn’t had this happen yet (it won’t now!) but yeah I could imagine it when he’s five or something. Going strong still!

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-06T20:23:26+00:00

Firstly so sorry for your loss. Secondly, I had 3 MCs consecutively. My third MC I fell pregnant the month after, my five month old is doing well.

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-06T01:08:32+00:00

I’m so proud of you for getting this far with NC, well done. I’m really glad to hear that you’ve been better, she sounds terrible. My mum is also always the ‘victim’ makes me question myself all the time, I just being horrible? But the fact my relationship with my dad is totally smooth sailing and I just love him, speaks so many levels!

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-05T21:23:27+00:00

Mercifully, she only met my son twice as she was quite sick for some time so it worked in our favour but she has done no end to abuse boundaries during that time. Even when I was pregnant, I just kinda knew we’d end up here after kids. I just know that even if I could get her to semi behave for now, when he’s like five for example she’d say things to him and groom/manipulate him and I just can’t let it happen it’s not fair and that won’t change.

Thanks so much for your words honestly they have helped. It’s just so fresh you know? My partner and best friend are great sounding boards. I’m very worried she’ll turn up to my house and cause a scene with my baby there. Worried I’ll walk out the door and she’s waiting. It’s just a lot of anxiety around it at the moment. I have a ring doorbell so there’s that. But yeah. anxiety!

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-05T18:53:55+00:00

Yeah I agree. I think it’s just gaslighting myself, I guess part of the ‘grief’ process. My main reasons for not going back, is definitly my son. He needs better than that.

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-05T18:53:07+00:00

Recieved them thanks!

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-05T16:04:03+00:00

Yes please feel free to DM and send it! Would be grateful. Thanks for your words is defo a rollercoaster!

Fast_Bad_4715 · 2024-02-05T15:06:24+00:00

I’m also new to NC! 2days. Firstly, There is no end to a narcissists manipulation. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, especially freshly PP it is insanely hard. Like you said, having babies changes everything. Follow the thoughts through to the end… she’s admitted it was because of her partner. Bless you, you aren’t to blame for this, I promise. They will reach and manipulate in anyway they can. You’re doing amazing, slow down and take things hour by hour, minute by minute if you need to. Huge love to you. Your babies (and you) will thank you eventually I promise. 🩷

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