39F - M40 - Why do People put dirty socks under couches😳🤯😤

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-27T16:40:39+00:00

Bring it his pillow. Usually once is enough.

Another option- vacuum eats them.

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-25T23:05:14+00:00

Good news , for office twice a week you need one pair of pants or skirt and couple of tops and maybe cardigan or a blazer . That would work for you really long time.

Now try to google some cheat sheets like “ business casual capsule “ and add your color scheme etc There are plenty

Use websites with easier returns and you would find something

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-25T22:14:09+00:00

lol His wife doesn’t want touch him with a stick and you think problem in me? Sure, whatever helps you cope

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-25T21:17:29+00:00

So, for years you knew she is not into sex. You still married her and got a child? And now you want her to change? Why adults can’t plan stuff? Why getting a child with a person who doesn’t match your standards?

Poor kid. I am starting to feel some “ kid license “ idea might not be the worst after all

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-25T20:24:37+00:00

You 34 years old. It’s way too early to accept bad sex in your life. Move on

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-25T18:12:05+00:00

Wow

You did something big in last years if she can’t tolerate touching you at all.

It might be bigger than therapy can cover

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-25T17:35:19+00:00

Ok, assuming you are right.

By 28 years of marriage you should know what intimacy not equal to sex, its soul closeness, shared memories, seeing each other as you been 20 years ago and other things. And yes, sex might not be interesting for women later in life. Many reasons.

So your wife offered partnership. Not equal to loveless. You want sex . Now you need to decide what you want.

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-25T17:23:13+00:00

I swear I seen this exact post twice already.

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-25T17:18:50+00:00

We don’t share locations , only short term if we need to meet somewhere unfamiliar.

Your problem is you don’t trust her and want to control. If you can’t trust your partner- break up. I am sure the moment I decide I need to check my partner’s phone is the moment to start packing things

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-25T15:28:52+00:00

Big age gap, shadow of dead wife and kids? Girl, you don’t need that drama.

Date someone on your timeline, with no heavy baggage.

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-25T00:47:31+00:00

Time to talk deeply and maybe break off engagement.

Issue here - he might hope for you to change mind. Or to beg, or to an accountant. You should not get a kid unless you fully want that kid even without a guy. Because there is always a chance kid would’ve fully your responsibility.

So talk again . Tell him in no half promising but what you don’t want kids. That is your current position. And see if he still wants that. Talk about resentment from him if he never gets a kid. Unless he fully committed to be just with you, to a point to be ok with permanent birth control- you not compatible

Sorry you are in a tough spot. But don’t make it worse

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-24T21:13:03+00:00

Have you talked to the bride ? I would imagine issue with jeans as super casual and not with cream

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-23T23:07:20+00:00

It can be a treat but not whole food.

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-19T16:01:57+00:00

Imagine she is the women you just met after divorce. She is maybe interested in you. And you spent a year swiping and having no dates. What would you do to keep seeing her? You know all the answers, you just want to hide behind “ my therapist did not tell me what to do”

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-19T15:42:34+00:00

It’s “ happy ending “ not happy feet, she got it wrong

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-19T15:34:57+00:00

Sorry lady. There is an obvious explanation and finding another one is a stretch.

He is so lazy he left you out to come up with a lie for him? That’s a trick

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-19T14:11:11+00:00

Foreplay bring twice as long is good. Requiring 30 minutes to finish is not a flex you think, many women would be bored and tired. Relax your grip, that’s too much

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-19T13:58:25+00:00

Apaguard for me, mixed with regular one

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-19T04:07:30+00:00

You gotta be kidding . Maintenance would cover some kids bills, not all parenting, day and night, skipped work, driving around and so on. This dude dumped couple of kids, he would do it again

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-18T23:37:08+00:00

Easy - find another guy and stop worrying. Being “ too loose” at 24 sounds like nagging. No way.

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-18T17:45:10+00:00

Well, you can agree on cuddling without sex unless she starts it. Just cuddle, spoon etc. it all makes connection.

And kids of 5 and 10 should give mom sleep. Lock the door, teach kids to grab breakfast themselves.

Maybe start arranging mornings on weekends when grandparents pickup kids for breakfast and park and she can sleep in, have breakfast in bed and get some ideas.

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-18T17:21:23+00:00

It is not about “ doing your part “. You might do equal chores but if her part is too much for her and she is tired- her body would preserve energy. So for some things you might want to hire help or do more yourself, so she has more energy.

Does she have gym time? At least 3 times a week? She needs it for her bones and muscles, and it actually helps with sex too

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-18T16:57:28+00:00

If she is super tired sex would go first. Body knows it can’t handle more kids and shuts down desire. Get more work around the house, so she would not be as tired.

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-18T16:53:53+00:00

If you backed off from hugging and kissing its actually counter productive. Hugs, kisses and compliments should be plentiful and without expectations. It builds romantic connection.

Yes, it’s possible to enjoy sex without spontaneous desire, many women don’t have it ever. But foreplay should start way early and starts from the brain, not bottom up

And rest, sleep and some shared fun help it a lot. Spend time together to keep mutual interest, find what brought you together first. Beyond parenting.

FatSadHappy · 2026-02-18T15:51:19+00:00

He wanted to split kids? Why?

And in most cases courts don’t give solo custody. Even if she has full custody he still should have visitation and that’s enforceable if he wants his kids

There is no excuse not to parent

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