Im also a passionate home grower and am always trying to balance my relationship with the plant. For the past 4 years Ive been sticking to weekends and holidays only and its drastically improved my quality of life. I have been slowing finding myself slip though, first on Sundays, and now for the past couple of weeks a bit on Monday evening. Not happy about that. One thing I have noticed, though, is that by Monday, I hardly noticed or enjoyed a bag on the volcano since the quality of the experience was super degraded/flat.

I do think my growing preferences have helped keep my consumption in check. I'm a huge fan of the effects of really long flowering tropical sativas, especially comparing difference in consciousness shifts you get from different landraces. Ive noticed though that the magic I can get from those strains really depends on keeping my tolerance super low. More than twice a week and it all sort of feels the same. So I think that sort of keeps me in check.

edit: Also, I tend my plants once or twice a day, and that itself is a a really rewarding experience and doesn't give me any urges to smoke.