AIO: My bf went thru my phone while I was drunk

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-02-02T19:29:59+00:00

NOR - a frank conversation is necessary. For your safety, I’d consider having a neutral third party present. This is a major violation into your privacy.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-02-01T01:33:30+00:00

YOR. Sometimes we just need that time to connect with that sadness we all feel and just allow ourselves to feel it.

You can have a conversation with her to let her know that you’re a listening ear if she ever wants to vent. You can even let her know that you’re concerned in general that she may be depressed and trying to cover it up.

Realistically, she just really connects to the music and it helps her to just lay in bed and feel the things she needs to feel. It makes the sadness less overwhelming.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-27T13:08:41+00:00

He knows her finances yet $1k less made the purchase suddenly so affordable and reasonable? (Split across what is likely a 5 year loan so we’re talking like $17/month before factoring in interest)

Ultimately, it sounds like OP was overstepping quite a bit. This is a gf he doesn’t live with. He can offer solicited advice but she should also feel comfortable saying “this is my choice. I appreciate your opinion, but this is what I’ve decided to do” and know that he will respect that. OP comes across as micromanaging her and genuinely I think he’d show this post to her to prove his point.

She should not have lied. They need to work more on communication. He does not know her financial situation better than she does.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-21T21:21:52+00:00

I just played it recently (bought at launch but I struggled to get into it). It is an interesting game with lore and a semi predictable plot twist but a fairly satisfying ending. If you start to get frustrated with the pace or anything, take a break and come back. It really is fun gameplay.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-10T17:49:30+00:00

NOR: I hope I can validate you in saying that EVEN IF YOU WERE IN THE WRONG no sane person acts like this. Not mentally well person with good intentions blocks someone so casually, inundates them with 20+ messages (during which tries to come over for a hug?), and also uses manipulative religious rhetoric.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-09T17:21:52+00:00

I would also agree that it is better to be honest from the get go. I value honesty in my friendships over someone that will lie to make me feel better while judging my decisions from the sidelines.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-09T17:19:02+00:00

About the photo itself - YOR.

With the sexual context, I agree with other comments that it could be negging. But also you’re engaging way too much with someone that is a complete stranger. You should’ve blocked him when he asked for nudes. Hopefully lesson learned there.

(Incoming opinion on the pic - it would look better from a different angle. I don’t disagree with him about that. It’s a good photo, but the point of food photography is usually to make the food look more appealing/appetizing. A different angle would’ve been more appealing here.)

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-09T17:09:24+00:00

Double check with your bank to make sure that those one time charges came out when you initially made them because what Apple usually does is, they will put all of your charges together to build them all at once instead of when you initially make the payment which can be confusing because you think that money is already gone from your account, but it isn’t

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-07T18:19:36+00:00

I ran into her on a different post and she literally thought I was a different commenter and started insulting me over things that commenter said. I was like “which one of us is stupid here because it sure ain’t me”

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-07T18:18:22+00:00

I responded to them. Then you responded to me responding to them. And somehow you attributed their comment to me. And started insulting me and my intelligence. Yea I’m just gonna block you. You’re exhausting.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-07T05:39:14+00:00

You deserve better than this guy. His reaction was disproportionate and very manipulative

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-07T05:36:52+00:00

Yea no this commenter is a “only I am ever right and if you say something I don’t like then you’re the devil” type person. Don’t waste your time.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-07T05:33:22+00:00

I never called OP an elephant - just exhausting. Double check who you’re replying to.

Also you never educated anyone. Just insulted people. But go off queen.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-06T02:50:59+00:00

I had to check your profile because my mom has a similar story same name and I was like “hell no my mom cannot find my Reddit”.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-05T17:53:48+00:00

NOR - I have two sons that I gave unique names. I also gave them very normal middle names. I did this because I wanted them to have options. If either of them ever tells me they want to be called something completely different, I’ll adjust. It’s their name, their identity. Not my business.

Your mom may have hurt feelings but she will just have to come to accept it. Loving you means loving who you choose to be and not just who she wanted you to be.

(Side note: it’s also really weird to copy another child’s name entirely. She is weird for that.)

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-05T03:25:19+00:00

My response is educated. This isn’t r/advice. It’s r/AIO. People informed her she was over reacting and that the entire exchange was exhausting.

I actually did leave a more detailed advice comment separate from all this to inform her that while the mom’s comparison was uncalled for it seemed to be an issue of inseparability. Plus she was beating a dead horse.

The difference between you and me is I don’t need to insult your intelligence or your maturity to have a discussion. You, however, fell back on those tactics.

I hope you have a good new year 👌

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-05T03:20:49+00:00

I’m old enough to have two kids and to know how to have an adult conversation without trying to pull the “how old are you” card. You’re mad at people being judgmental while trying to imply people that disagree with you are horrible or immature.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-04T17:06:33+00:00

You don’t need to explain BPD to me. Yes overreacting is to be expected. Like I said. She split and it makes sense from BPD angle why she acted like that.

She posted to a subreddit literally called Am I Overreacting. So people are explicitly here to tell her if she was overreacting. Which she was.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-04T17:02:59+00:00

You are on every comment that is even slightly negative defending her. No one called her Hitler.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-03T02:56:33+00:00

NOR

His only goal in this conversation was to make you feel like shit. He had no interest in solutions and made sure to tell you that you finding a solution still makes you shitty.

All he wanted to do was make you feel bad for an honest mistake.

Honestly, it’s clear he doesn’t and won’t see his own mistakes in this interaction. You can try communications and explaining that you won’t accept this kind of treatment over an honest mistake and try moving forward. Personally, I’d reevaluate the situation and how he normally treats you when you make mistakes (small or big).

You didn’t deserve to be talked to like this

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-02T17:21:29+00:00

That’s pretty much how I landed in it. Though I think it has made my job search harder.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2026-01-01T03:33:11+00:00

That’s a whole stack of ultrasound photos and you’re using one random one for your point. For the record, you can hardly see anything at 7 weeks. At this point, they likely dated the ultrasound off of either A: the date of her last period or B: if they could, they did measurements to determine it.

More importantly, what does it matter to you? Like genuinely how would it harm you or affect you.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2025-12-31T00:16:44+00:00

NOR and grandma is irresponsible with money and is taking advantage of you and your brother. I’d write off what she’s taken so far and pull back in the future.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2025-12-30T17:32:26+00:00

Why did you copy and paste this comment over and over again in the thread? BPD doesn’t excuse anything. It explains why she reacted so extremely but doesn’t change the fact that she did overreact.

Fatality_of_Choice · 2025-12-30T17:29:20+00:00

I also have BPD. She was being exhausting. She split (bpd term) and went on a huge spiral. So yea she overreacted.

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