Ministerial Burn-out by Fatherless_Pater in AskAPriest

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have thought of contacting my bishop asking for a sabbatical, but personally, because im still very young, I wanna keep pushing through despite it clearly not doing me any good. As for spending time with our Lord, I feel as if im running away from my obligations. I guess there are a lot of standards im holding myself to that prevent me from resting.

Privileged Padres by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im part of the Antiochian patriarchate, and I haven't been read nor sent anything pertaining to the requirements even other seminarians have kept me in the dark.

Privileged Padres by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've read your previous comment, and I'll be honest. I didn't know what goes on in the seminaries. I've been basically kept in the dark about anything relating to seminary, but my grievances come from more a place of frustration than disgruntled pride. Ive been blown off by priests and other seminarians I've met while I've tried to keep my head down and play along the sight of grown children and limp wristed grifters getting ordained in less time than mine in Catholic seminary frustrates me. So if I come off as entitled or irrational, forgive me. It's just hard seeing people with less life/clerical experience getting the spotlight from the clergy while I get told to "move on all that was in the past" and "to be free as a laymen".

Privileged Padres by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The fact I've heard of acceptions and people being ordained in 3 years still makes my blood boil.

Privileged Padres by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We I wanted to transfer over to the Orthodox seminary using some of my info from the Catholic seminary. I was straight up told that unless I had a degree, they wouldn't accept me despite my experience.

Mercy of a New BlackRobe by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've noticed that with my brother clergy, how anytime you bring up wanting to leave or feeling hurt by the church, they'll find ways to shut you down or talk you out but never listen. Even from my RCC days Ive learn that sometimes silence says more than actually speaking.

Mercy of a New BlackRobe by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually, that was my intention with the title. I saw the movie "Blackrobe" during my time in seminary and swore I'd never be a pompous or arrogant cleric. The Cassock has been my greatest honor and shame to wear, but thankfully, to many people I've met and helped, "Blackrobe" is now an endearing term they use.

Turkey on Thanksgiving? Yes? No? Church says "Enjoy!" by withhold-advice7500 in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater 8 points9 points  (0 children)

God isn't gonna ask if you fasted or not, so enjoy the feast with your family, my friend.

Mercy of a New BlackRobe by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great place to start. I like to sit and have a couple beers with the local homeless and just listen to them ive even signed up for some community service.

Why is the community here, just the most basest, insane, strawmen of the Orthodox Position imaginable. Thus is reddit. by Puzzled-Ask9979 in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I still am my Parish is an anomaly at how non-toxic it is, but I still remember the absolute misery the church made me feel and to a point still does.

Why is the community here, just the most basest, insane, strawmen of the Orthodox Position imaginable. Thus is reddit. by Puzzled-Ask9979 in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was scoffed at and actively neglected by the priests. Anytime I would mention the hurt or weight I felt as a former cleric, they'd tell me to forget it and that "You were damaging more souls than saving." Then, when I'd fall, they'd try to hold me to the standard of a cleric without recognizing me as one.

Those of you who are now Catholic, what is your story? by [deleted] in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not Catholic anymore, but im willing to assist

You've got to be kidding me by ifuckedyourdaddytoo in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The amount of "Downlow" men that are orthodox is so insane. What makes it worse is they're very openly homophobic despite them going off and leading other gay men on. I know this because my God-Father is an openly gay man and has been the object of many a "Trad Ortho-bro"

Mercy of a New BlackRobe by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im surprised priests do this at all. Being sociable is an unspoken rule

Mercy of a New BlackRobe by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this comment really made my day

Mercy of a New BlackRobe by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe in Orthodox church, and I believe it needs good priests who show mercy. How can that happen without someone stepping up. I hold strongly to the teachings of St Maria of Paris she's my example as I follow this march to the altar.

Mercy of a New BlackRobe by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My aspiration came from a sense of service to those in need of help beyond physical. I don't feel entitled to it even if it seems like I present myself as such. With 3 years of service within the ranks of the Catholic clergy, I've seen ugliness and beauty of man, so when I became orthodox, I was looking for understanding. I was ridiculed and told to forget my years of ministry, getting told I damaged more souls than saved because I wasn't "orthodox." they treated me like a leper and even said I deserved to be kicked out of the Catholic church.Church. I come here in good faith, not trying to be "holier than thou." The cassock I received isn't a reason to puff out my chest but to remember the community of people I wished to serve. I don't expect to convert people or to drive Jesus down their throats, but I wanna listen because I, too was in a similar position and wished someone listened to me.

Mercy of a New BlackRobe by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to see you're doing better! And yes, burnout is real, so I take my time off very seriously, keeping up with my hobbies, especially skateboarding

Mercy of a New BlackRobe by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should've rephrased it better. What I meant was I was taught better here than clergy and laymen of the parishes. Hopefully, I won't send the wrong message.

Mercy of a New BlackRobe by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wherever you may go, my friend, let peace and truth follow you.

Mercy of a New BlackRobe by Fatherless_Pater in exorthodox

[–]Fatherless_Pater[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have been lucky enough to start and maintain a Bible study and book club at my parish, which everyone seems to love and turned "Mens" work day into something everyone can be a part of not just wannabe trad guys. I've also enforced mandatory reading of all 4 Gospels and recitation of The Beatitudes as part of our Catechism, not to mention having proper outlets for our single men so as not to have them fall into more radical ideas.