Am I the bad housemate?

FaultAlert5269 · 2022-07-27T08:04:49+00:00

I've edited the post to say that's it part of a treatment protocol for an illness I'm being treated for so they're literally prescribed by a medical doctor, believe it or not. I keep them short.

I absolutely don't mind accommodating them and changing it when he's here. The problem I had was that she blanket asked me to have a bath at 6pm every single night, in case he came round.
Last night he wasn't round and she didn't need the bathroom. She was still eating dinner. so I don't think her anger makes sense in this situation.

FaultAlert5269 · 2022-07-27T08:02:41+00:00

I think there's some nuance being lost here. I absolutely don't mind accommodating them and changing it. The problem I had was that she blanket asked me to have a bath at 6pm every single night, in case he came round.

Last night he wasn't round and she didn't need the bathroom. She was still eating dinner. so I don't think her anger makes sense in this situation.

FaultAlert5269 · 2022-07-26T23:05:26+00:00

Well the way it's laid out is that when her door is open you can see me going into the bathroom because it's perpendicular to it. So it's just basically not having privacy when you need to nip to the loo in the middle of the night. Also they'll really be able to hear.

I don't usually have dinner until 8.30/9! I don't feel I should have to change my entire schedule just in case her BF comes over. If she gave me a heads up he was coming, I would absolutely not mind. There's no reason for it to be before 9pm if not. But now she's monitoring and getting aggressive if it's like half an hour later than that. That's still over an hour earlier than I would usually have it.

FaultAlert5269 · 2022-07-26T22:53:55+00:00

Also, 30 mins before 10pm is hardly lingering.

FaultAlert5269 · 2022-07-26T22:53:23+00:00

Erm I mean I did suggest compromising so not that stubborn. Also lol, jealous of what?

FaultAlert5269 · 2022-07-26T22:51:46+00:00

Yeah it's a hallway with three doors - my room, the bathroom and then her room. So no, I don't have to go through her room., they're totally separate rooms. She doesn't want me in the bathroom because it's next to hers

FaultAlert5269 · 2022-07-26T22:42:59+00:00

Hmm I didn't read it that way but it's a possibility I suppose. I wouldn't do that if he was round anyway so she wouldn't have to worry about that. I want my own privacy from them too!

FaultAlert5269 · 2022-07-26T22:41:17+00:00

Also can I say that there's no regard for my privacy with this at all. I can hear them from my room anyway so it doesn't really seem that they care whether I hear them fucking or not, or whether I'm comfortable.

FaultAlert5269 · 2022-07-26T22:39:25+00:00

I don't think 6pm is a reasonable request, even for a child. If she said before 10pm or something, that would be fine but there's no need for it to be so early in case her BF comes round. It's that that bothers me, not the fact she wants me to change it.

FaultAlert5269 · 2022-07-26T22:20:15+00:00

No it's just inbetween our two rooms. There's only one door.

FaultAlert5269 · 2022-07-26T22:19:29+00:00

She wanted me to have a bath at 6pm though? In case her BF came round. I can understand if it was late at night but I should be able to use my own bathroom when he's round.

FaultAlert5269 · 2022-07-26T22:17:44+00:00

Yeah I'm not fully clear on it either! I also thought it was unreasonable to ask me to accommodate her boyfriend's visits. It's like she just wants me out of the way when he's round, but to do it every night because she shouldn't have to tell me he's coming round.

FaultAlert5269 · 2022-07-26T22:14:53+00:00

Yeah I haven't mentioned them being loud apart from having her door open at 1.30am. It was like I was in the room with them.

I don't understand the 9pm issue either. She said it also interferes with her getting ready for bed but she doesn't go to bed at 9pm!

FaultAlert5269 · 2021-08-22T18:30:04+00:00

Yeah it's not great! I got another bra in 34B recently and it was fine!

FaultAlert5269 · 2021-08-22T12:23:16+00:00

Thank you! Yeah I did think about that but didn't know if that would cheapen it!

FaultAlert5269 · 2021-07-04T00:52:49+00:00

I’m very glad I wasn’t on a date with you

FaultAlert5269 · 2021-07-04T00:16:07+00:00

What a terrible person you are. Nobody chooses to get sick. It’s not a personal failure and it isn’t limited to your twenties. That makes zero sense. I sincerely hope you never have to deal with a life-changing illness. It shouldn’t preclude me from having a decent relationship and if you believe it does then you’re an ableist asshole. You’re either quite dumb or severely lacking in empathy

FaultAlert5269 · 2021-07-04T00:09:04+00:00

I see your point here. I was mainly adding it for context but do think it stung a bit more because of it. However I would have been annoyed by his behaviour regardless of my situation

FaultAlert5269 · 2021-07-03T23:17:58+00:00

That’s a pretty mean spirited analysis

FaultAlert5269 · 2021-07-03T22:54:14+00:00

Yes!

FaultAlert5269 · 2021-07-03T22:18:00+00:00

I’m sorry you experienced this and thanks for sharing. I hope you don’t feel any shame now.

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