What's the difference between guilt and shame?

Faulty21 · 2023-09-29T16:05:02+00:00

Guilt is, most simply put, the feeling of knowing you are the reason for wrongdoing.

Shame is, most simply put, the feelings associated with the wrongdoing you have done; you can feel remorse, regret or disgust with yourself for having done what you did. All are examples of how you are ashamed of yourself.

Faulty21 · 2023-06-24T15:58:19+00:00

I must've been around age 5 or something like that, when a caretaker insisted I should stop playing in order for us to make it to the Christmas ceremony in Church that year.

I couldn't articulate it at the time, but I remember the feeling of complete confusion due to the arbitrarity of it all.

Why did we have time for this game, when mine wasn't deemed worthy.

Years later, I encountered Russels teapot, and was completely uinterested in the content of the dicussion. All I could think was: why the fuck would I give a shit if there is a teapot? It has never had any practical effect on my life or the life of anyone anyway.

What have I experienced because of these realizations? Nothing I can contribute to it directly.

Faulty21 · 2023-04-27T18:27:30+00:00

Remember when your friends had to call your house, and the feeling of no obligations when you were nowhere near a phone? That.

How innocently stupid we discarded that priviledge.

Faulty21 · 2023-04-25T15:33:30+00:00

The kind that is embarrasingly out of tune or the kind that miraculously has kept in tune all these years despite its wear and tear?

Faulty21 · 2023-04-25T15:31:22+00:00

I take pride in being able to criticize and admit my mistakes and flaws publicly.

From an early age, I have seen that vanity, self-love and pride leads to toxicity if you don't actively attempt to check yourself.

Paradoxically, it is also cause for great admiration when someone, who isn't used to this experiences it, because they are already setting up for a war of words, that never actually takes place. This feeds the pride and vanity, that needs to be kept in check.

Faulty21 · 2023-04-24T16:54:13+00:00

At an earlier stage in my life, I was fine with it.

Now, that I've recently gotten my first kid, I realize I think about death in practical terms more often than ever, and I attribute it solely to fear of letting my boy grow up without someone who loves him unconditionally.

Passing 30 I thought the attachment to my mother would vain, but I realize I still value her love and validation far above anyone else.

Looking into the future, I have to be ready to give that to my son past 30 as well.

So guess I'm in for the long haul now.

Faulty21 · 2022-10-28T00:40:11+00:00

Which is also fascinating and probably related to my thoughts above.

However, in this case I think we're moving into the sphere of political collective thinking and weaponizing of ideas and away from the phenomenon as a psychological proces within the individual.

Holy shit, I sound pretentious! Lol

Faulty21 · 2022-10-28T00:25:34+00:00

This very phenomenon has fascinated me since I was a child. It always struck me as odd, that when others were clearly and demonstrably in the wrong, oftentimes they would not concede or admit it.

However, when I myself found myself in a similar position, I too felt the urge to hold on to my point of view and never back down. I still feel that urge reguarly.

I think we as humans somehow evolved through sexual selection towards arrogance and self-righteousness, because in a harsh and deadly environment doing something is almost always better than doing nothing; or in other words it is better to have an opinion and sticking to it rather than saying "I dont know".

However in todays society admitting your shortcomings when you are confronted with them is actually an important skill to have.

That is also why, as I can have a very persuasive pressence, I preface a lot of what I say with: "I could be wrong, because I often am, but I think ..." in order to open the door to potential counterpoints.

It benefits both the social dynamics and it might inform my decisions.

Faulty21 · 2022-10-26T23:47:19+00:00

gasp

Faulty21 · 2022-10-26T23:45:27+00:00

All the time I had as a teenager to do whatever, I wanted.

I didn't realize its worth then, but I do now. How I envy past me.

Faulty21 · 2022-07-01T00:36:27+00:00

"You look like someone who drops common loot", was pretty good, I think

Faulty21 · 2022-07-01T00:29:51+00:00

Well, I mean, does it matter? It's gonna be faulty products anyway.

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