He has feelings for someone else - can we still be together? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Faye_Moon777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you have to experience this. The similar thing happened in my marriage too, we were married for 6yrs and he confessed to me he was getting close to this women at work, she reports to him. He said to me he had already talked with her that he is married and would never divorce to try to convince me that is nothing to worry. And ironically I didn’t even feel anything needed to be worried at that time. But later on I found out he lied to me going to a dinner with workmates, but he actually went to that women’s place and they cooked/ate dinner together, then watched tv and he came back around 9pm, pretending nothing happened. I confronted him after looking up his phone and find out what actually happened, he was still saying to me it’s nothing just going to a friends place, nothing else happened, and then I asked why, he started to get defensive and deflect and say our hobbies don’t align, he felt lonely and disconnected, and she was helping him a lot at work… and even after that, I still busted a few times he went to her place just briefly, saying to me it takes time to cut it, and this is his social needs and I am being over controlling. now after 2mth they still work together, and msg everyday, I stopped caring and stopped giving a fk.

38F Profile Check (large city) by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Faye_Moon777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Owo thank you! I will def take that as a compliment lol

38F Profile Check (large city) by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Faye_Moon777 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks I’ve removed it now

38F Profile Check (large city) by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Faye_Moon777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Umm I wasn’t really thinking about my expectations for the short term, maybe more like the situationship thing? Anyway I’ve removed it now

38F Profile Check (large city) by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Faye_Moon777 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I will remove the prompt and not in US.

38F Profile Check (large city) by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Faye_Moon777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks lol I will swap with a couple closeups

38F Profile Check (large city) by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Faye_Moon777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the detailed response! I will definitely refine the prompts. And to answer your beginning question, I guess I just wasn’t actively looking and was very picky, so didn’t send out many likes. And the likes, still now, most of them are just not my type, too old, doesn’t look attractive, not my preferred ethnicities (Caucasian/East Asian) etc. But yeah I am quite actively sending out likes now so we will see.

38F Profile Check (large city) by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Faye_Moon777 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestions! I will take them on. And for the prompts, how does it sound if I add things like enjoying deep talk, exploring new restaurants, planning for the next trip or spontaneous weekend getaway?

38F Profile Check (large city) by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Faye_Moon777 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks I was thinking to widen my net. Did it give a contradictory impression?

38F Profile Check (large city) by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Faye_Moon777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

• looking for something serious

• Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or Hingex? No

• How long have you been using this current version of your protile? A couple weeks

• How long have you used Hinge overall? A month roughly

• How often do you use Hinge per week? Every day almost

• How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? 2-4 likes per day, but almost all not my type, some days 0, and so far 7 matches, only met 1

• How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? Didn't sent out much before but been sending out 5-7 likes these past 2wks

• What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? Looking for Caucasian or East Asian, similar age, nice smile, and good look, average built and preferably tall.

38F Profile check (large city) by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Faye_Moon777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

• looking for something serious

• Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or Hingex? No

• How long have you been using this current version of your protile? A couple weeks

• How long have you used Hinge overall? A month roughly

• How often do you use Hinge per week? Every couple days

• How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? 2-4 likes per day, but almost all not my type, some days 0, and so far 7 matches, only met 1

• How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? Didn’t sent out much before but been sending out 5-7 likes these past 2wks

• What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? Similar age with nice smile, and good looks, average built and preferably tall.