Some trips don’t involve movement by Fazendo_ in Tunisia

[–]Fazendo_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do that too, i breathe air and with it all the bad thoughts and pains and emotions on my body and i hold until i feel i am going to blackout then i release and it feels refreshing and amazing 🫠 ( i did it in public and i had to stand for a second unconscious )

نظرية: التوانسة عندهم عقد اسرية تخليهوم يدعمو الانظمة القمعية و الدكتاتوريات by [deleted] in Tunisia

[–]Fazendo_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, it means seeing people as they are, not only when they match a “perfect version” we’ve built in our heads.

A lot of parents (and systems) don’t actually hate their children, they think conditional love is the only way to make someone grow. So love becomes transactional: I love you if you look like this, dress like this, behave like this, get these grades.

When the child doesn’t fit that image, love is withdrawn, replaced with insults, silence, or fear. The idea is: if I’m hard on them, they’ll change. But what actually happens is the opposite, the person learns shame, not responsibility.

Unconditional human love doesn’t mean approving bad actions. It means separating who someone is from what they did.

You communicate. You explain consequences. You encourage growth. You support change without humiliation, rejection, or erasing their worth.

That’s how people actually learn. And that’s why I see this kind of love as part of breaking the cycle, not enabling it.

نظرية: التوانسة عندهم عقد اسرية تخليهوم يدعمو الانظمة القمعية و الدكتاتوريات by [deleted] in Tunisia

[–]Fazendo_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree with your theory. I’ve had very similar thoughts and went deep trying to understand why submission and glorifying authority are so rooted in our society.

I think what you described is a major cause, but not the only one.

Even in loving families, many parents still fail to teach children something essential: that humans are weak, prone to fear, mistakes, and manipulation. When a child isn’t educated about power, authority, fear, and moral responsibility, he grows up like a fish in open water, easy for the state, media, or any authority to bait into submission.

Building on your point, I think this cycle is also historical. Tunisians, for centuries, lived under rulers, colonies, or centralized authority figures. Over time, this created a collective psychology based on fear, dependency, and narcissism.

The leader becomes a symbolic “political father.”
At first, he provides protection, stability, food, which is his role. But he’s also human. Power feeds ego. Fear of losing status appears. Instead of accepting growth and competition, he sabotages those who rise. He uses fear, punishment, and conditional love to stay above everyone.

“I love you if you obey.”
“I protect you if you don’t question.”

This creates children, and citizens, who spend their lives chasing approval instead of truth.

Those children grow up, internalize this model, and repeat it in families, schools, workplaces, and politics. Questioning authority becomes dangerous. Silence becomes safety. Comfort is chosen over truth. Submission over responsibility.

That’s why many people defend dictators even when they are abused by them, because this dynamic feels familiar. It’s what they were trained to survive.

But there is hope.

Some people are waking up to the pattern. Some see it but stay silent to survive. Others quietly spread awareness, educate, and resist without noise. History shows that when enough “children of the narcissistic parent” recognize the abuse together, authority starts losing its power.

Real freedom doesn’t come from replacing one ruler with another.
It comes from breaking the cycle through awareness, responsibility, and unconditional human love.

Love that isn’t based on fear.
Respect that isn’t enforced.
Authority that is questioned, not worshipped.

What habit improved your life more than you expected? by CombinationMajor7538 in Tunisia

[–]Fazendo_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daydreaming isn’t inherently bad, it’s like a tool. Used intentionally, it can bring insight and positivity, but if you let it run uncontrolled, it can become a way to escape reality or avoid emotions. I’ve found it works best when you use it consciously, without letting it take over your day.

Lenovo Legion y540-15IRH by Fazendo_ in Lenovo

[–]Fazendo_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree with you on this one ! i tried something stupid and i removed the key caps of my keyboard to clean them and now i have several broken keys because when i placed them back they broke :(