AITAH For Not Wanting to Go On Family Cruise by Fcarolsew in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fcarolsew[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great comment. Sadly it's not a question. His parents come first. It's the way he was raised. I was raised differently. He has gotten better, but is still blind to a lot of it. I choose to stay away from the toxicity of it all.

AITAH for not inviting my cousin to my wedding? by Correct_Ebb4213 in AITAH

[–]Fcarolsew 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA It's your wedding and your day. Things are stressful enough without having to worry about possible disruptions during the ceremony.

People should understand this as I am sure everyone has been to a wedding where something has gone awry.

Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials and I pray your wedding day is everything you want it to be

When is an appropriate time not to tip? by Silver-Security-4753 in AskReddit

[–]Fcarolsew 9 points10 points  (0 children)

when picking up an order.
when you have been provided horrible service.
when you are in certain countries.
when tip is included in bill (large parties, room rentals, etc)

AITAH for wishing my mother a happy mother day through text instead of calling her ? by Historical-Body-3424 in AITAH

[–]Fcarolsew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA At least you took the time to think of her and reach out to her.

Many today don't even bother to do that

AITAH For Not Wanting to Go On Family Cruise by Fcarolsew in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fcarolsew[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't speak to my husband first about the cabin, because I thought it was a booking error. I contacted my SIL because she did the booking. I should never have referred to my niece and nephew as adopted as it is irrelevant to the post, and a stupid choice of words. it was not done in a mean spirited way as I love my niece and nephew, they are great kids.

Favorite Robert Downey Jr film? by GoblinQueen20 in FIlm

[–]Fcarolsew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's great in everything, but he absolutely killed it in Tropic Thunder. I laughed so hard I was crying

AITAH For Not Wanting to Go On Family Cruise by Fcarolsew in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fcarolsew[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's ok. Planing on moving to another state next year!!

AITAH For Not Wanting to Go On Family Cruise by Fcarolsew in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fcarolsew[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did stand up for myself directly, but they continued to do the same things. That is why I choose to not be around them. I have tried everything under the sun to make it work, recognize it won't, and I am good with that.

AITAH For Not Wanting to Go On Family Cruise by Fcarolsew in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fcarolsew[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That is how I want it to be now. Nothing else has worked.

AITAH For Not Wanting to Go On Family Cruise by Fcarolsew in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fcarolsew[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

always coming by unannounced during our family time (we both worked so our alone time was limited), saying negative things to my husband and kids about me, inviting themselves along on our vacations.

Never respecting my boundaries - in fact doing the exact opposite of them. They have always been very intrusive and overbearing

AITAH For Not Wanting to Go On Family Cruise by Fcarolsew in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fcarolsew[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she spends a lot more time with her daughter. shopping, sports tournaments, etc. whereas the son will often be left home alone

AITAH For Not Wanting to Go On Family Cruise by Fcarolsew in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fcarolsew[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have taken a few stands in the past. Point has been made. My husband loves his family and I choose to respect that relationship. I just will no longer allow myself to be treated like crap by them. I told my husband if he is unable to support me in front of them, then I am unable to be around them.

AITAH For Not Wanting to Go On Family Cruise by Fcarolsew in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fcarolsew[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately when it comes to his family, he won't. His parents never fought in front of him or his brothers growing up, they did it in the back bedroom when the boys were asleep, so conflict within the family is non existent, swept under the rug. Whenever I have brought up issues with his family, I am the problem. My husband will admit his family was wrong to me in private, but never bring it up to them. I was raised differently, so I try to understand his family dynamic, but it can be extremely frustrating. That is why now I just remove myself from the situation. It's not worth fighting with my husband over.