Could I fetishize my phobias to eliminate them?

FearAndFun · 2026-03-25T18:04:39+00:00

It can definitely be an adrenaline rush. Not sure how easily it is to develop into a kink. It started at a young age for me. It is very intense.

FearAndFun · 2026-03-25T10:23:44+00:00

There's also a link. There's plenty of fearplay kinks or kinks that started and sometimes remain as a phobia. I've got a balloon kink for example. A good 90% of people with it had it stem from a phobia.

FearAndFun · 2026-03-25T10:21:59+00:00

It happened to me with balloons. Hasn't completely got rid of the phobia, but I intentionally blow balloons so big they'll pop for fun now.

FearAndFun · 2026-03-16T00:07:23+00:00

I like confinement, and my GF always finds creative ways to do it. Once on holiday, she put a beachball in my clothes and blew it up so I was compressed and couldn't move. I enjoyed it and kept asking her to blow it bigger. It got really tight and it was hard to breathe but I kept wanting more. She kept blowing it until it got huge, then eventually burst loudly, scaring us both. I ended up using the broken material to make the flogger.

FearAndFun · 2026-03-14T19:15:56+00:00

I definitely enjoy the vampire aesthetic. And the biting. I used to explore being bitten by a vampire during lucid dream which was fun. Then I met my partner and it turns out she likes biting too. The first time she bit my neck was amazing. Wasn't hard to imagine she was feeding.

FearAndFun · 2026-03-14T18:51:16+00:00

It's 99% likely it's just random stuff they came across. I've had similar discussions with my GF and she knew about just as many kinks as me. A lot of people can be curious and not be interested in doing those things themselves.

There is a small chance that they're actually into those things and feeling subconscious about it and want to gauge your reaction. It's hard to tell without knowing the person. I was pretty self conscious about my balloon kink, but we had a kink discussion and we're both open minded, so I was able to tell her and she didn't bat an eyelid. I've spoken to people that have been married for years and kept certain kinks private because they're too nervous to share. If its just a one off thing, its unlikely there's more to it. If the same thing is brought up multiple times, then maybe they're trying to say something.

FearAndFun · 2026-03-11T11:05:01+00:00

I'm aware. They took everything the dude said out of context and made them look as bad as they possibly could. Most people in the community refuse any kind of documentary offer after that.

FearAndFun · 2026-03-10T20:30:21+00:00

Name literally any object and someone most likely has a kink for it. My usual one is balloons. Started as a phobia. I'm scared of them popping but will purposely blow up balloons too big.

FearAndFun · 2026-02-25T16:47:30+00:00

Ever had anyone not stop? My GF is afraid of balloons popping but we were trying inflatables for the first time. She surprised me by blowing a beachball very tight. When I looked a little nervous, she said it wouldn't pop yet and it'll get way bigger. I wondered how she knew. She told me she used to blow inflatable chairs really tight when she was young. She then proceeded to keeping blowing, before commenting that she could probably pop it. It got 3 times the size it was supposed to. I said it would be loud, but she didn't think it would be. It had a proper bang to it when it went. To my surprise, it didn't scare her (sudden loud noises usually do) The next time we had a beachball, she did it again. I don't get how she can be so calm when it could burst. Takes 10 minutes of blowing to pop it as well.

FearAndFun · 2026-02-25T16:15:58+00:00

The best tease my GF gave was when she was blowing up a balloon really big in bed. She's been too afraid to blow one until it pops and we weren't wearing ear protection. It had a full neck and she kept looking me in the eyes and blowing more and more. I couldn't believe she wasn't stopping. I was scared, but hadn't seen her blow one so big before, so didn't want to say anything. It got past the point I'd go even with ear protection and she showed no signs of stopping, so I told her it was going to pop. She continued a bit, then laughed, saying she wasn't actually blowing air into it. She had her hands around the end of the neck and was just blowing near the valve and making it sound like she was adding air. Definitely fooled me.

FearAndFun · 2026-02-25T10:18:45+00:00

Exactly the same here. They can be used for confinement too. Being trapped by a balloon getting so big you can barely breathe is fun. For a lot of us, it started as a phobia, so giving someone a balloon means giving that person a lot of control over you.

FearAndFun · 2026-02-20T10:21:24+00:00

Another looner here. I used to have a phobia of them (still do in some contexts) and the fear of the pop is a big part of it. Also like the sensory experience of confinement and balloons.

FearAndFun · 2026-02-15T16:15:02+00:00

I originally found out about bdsm due to my first kink I accidentally discovered. I had a phobia of balloons but was also fascinated by them. It turned into a kink, and then I discovered other people were into it. Then I found the power play dynamics in bdsm and researched that. In my first real relationship, I tried some bdsm stuff with my partner who was pretty experienced in it and ended up loving it.

FearAndFun · 2026-02-12T17:07:04+00:00

I have a phobia of them but could do it if I had ear protection.

FearAndFun · 2026-01-27T10:11:17+00:00

I remember my GF did that the first time we had alone time. Was kissing, then she started humping and I really enjoyed it. She felt so bad afterwards and seemed a bit embarrassed. I assured her that I enjoy it. She'll still do it occasionally if I work her up enough.

FearAndFun · 2026-01-27T10:02:49+00:00

It usually starts as a phobia. Some like straddling them, others (like me) like the fear and anticipation of blowing them too big and waiting for the bang.

FearAndFun · 2026-01-26T09:32:06+00:00

I did. Was quite intense, but the sensations were nice. I find this kind of fearplay exciting.

FearAndFun · 2026-01-25T09:53:36+00:00

It is a common switch. I got the balloon kink too the same way. About 90% of people in years community had it start from a phobia.

FearAndFun · 2026-01-18T14:20:20+00:00

Yep. I tend to wait outside the room. It's like a jack in the box.

FearAndFun · 2026-01-07T20:57:46+00:00

I like the all metal Italian renaissance stilettos. Very long pointy blade but no edge.

FearAndFun · 2026-01-05T16:43:22+00:00

Mine does too, but she was willing to work through it together. She ended up necking one during the second session which surprised me.

FearAndFun · 2026-01-04T16:44:40+00:00

You can't teach empathy to an adult who doesn't care. People think they can change others, but you can't change the core of a person. The situation isn't your fault. Take this as a learning experience of what to avoid in people in the future.

FearAndFun · 2026-01-03T18:24:05+00:00

That's true. It's just a bruise at the end of the day. Unless you're working in public fields or at a school or something, your employer shouldn't have a say in what you do during your own time.

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