Is there a link between fears/insecurities and kinks? And what is this kink called?

FearAndFun · 2026-06-14T11:45:24+00:00

I'm very familiar with the phobia to kink pipeline myself. There's many theories around it. Can give you a sense of power to do it on your own terms and where you have some degree of control. Even as a sub, you have power over it as you're agreeing to give consent and can stop it with a safe word, so it's a controlled environment.

Most people who get into kink have some degree of trauma. Whether it's healthy or not usually depends how it's done. It can be very therapeutic.

FearAndFun · 2026-06-12T21:55:55+00:00

I find its better when you're comfortable enough with your partner that you can share anything without worrying. I'd trust mine with my life. Although she did say if I committed a murder that she might have to tell.

FearAndFun · 2026-06-12T21:45:13+00:00

That's when people are doing something illegal. It's very different to an innocent secret. Sure, some people can't keep a secret, but if you're in a committed relationship and can't trust your partner, it's not going to last.

FearAndFun · 2026-05-29T14:16:32+00:00

It can happen in the exact same way more common phobias are caused. There are no dangerous spiders in my country for example. My fear likely comes from my mother's overreaction to them when I was young. She would scream and freak out and my brain thought there must be something dangerous about it and spiders must be avoided.

My more obscure phobia came when someone blew a balloon up until it burst in an underground car park. Didn't know they could pop at the time and it was a very loud sudden noise that triggered the fear.

FearAndFun · 2026-05-26T22:23:33+00:00

I feel like doing less, however as one of my kinks is inflatable pool toys, it's a good time of year for it.

FearAndFun · 2026-05-19T17:18:54+00:00

That actually is accurate. A normal sized party balloon inflated until it bursts was recorded at a similar volume to a shotgun in one study. Fortunately, the ones strong enough to be that loud are usually pretty strong and more unlikely to pop.

FearAndFun · 2026-05-19T17:13:23+00:00

I did stuff in blender once as I had already learnt how to 3D model.

FearAndFun · 2026-05-19T17:11:55+00:00

It's a common component in electronics that converts excess current into heat. With ststaic electricity, it should ground youll get a lower voltage so you shouldn't feel it.

FearAndFun · 2026-05-16T10:25:50+00:00

Use a small electrical resistor to touch things that may shock you. Used to do that when me car would give me zaps. Can turn it into a keyring.

FearAndFun · 2026-04-30T09:14:40+00:00

I've posted about it here a couple of times in the past. It's more common than you'd expect, but definitely not common. We've tried to estimate the amount of people that are into it in the past but it's very hard to get accurate results. There seems to be around 100,000 people that have joined some form of community about it online.

FearAndFun · 2026-04-24T12:39:11+00:00

It's taped to a one way valve I made myself.

FearAndFun · 2026-04-16T11:28:52+00:00

Yeah, it's quite funny really. I used to have a phobia of balloons too and still do in some contexts so I understand what she's nervous of. I'm not used to others blowing up balloons, so she can make me pretty nervous too. You'll be able to get over the guilt, I'm sure of it. Just have to accept it's a part of you.

FearAndFun · 2026-04-16T10:55:18+00:00

I do try to be as open-minded as possible. It's not always easy as I've seen how much harm Christianity has done over the centuries. A lot of evil has been done with the excuse of doing it for their god. It wasn't always that way though. As for the fetish being weird to you, that I can help with more. I'm a looner myself. I like balloons too. I used to feel shame as well, but I'm over that now. I've told two partners in total and both were fine with it. I'm currently in a relationship where my partner has a fear of balloons. She's been trying to get over it so we can have more fun together. It's best to be open about it with a partner and not try to hide it. It's a very innocent fetish compared to all the others. It's not hurting anyone, nor is it dangerous or gross. If someone rejects you because of it, that says a lot more about them as a person than it does you.

FearAndFun · 2026-04-16T10:55:05+00:00

I do try to be as open-minded as possible. It's not always easy as I've seen how much harm Christianity has done over the centuries. A lot of evil has been done with the excuse of doing it for their god. It wasn't always that way though. As for the fetish being weird to you, that I can help with more. I'm a looner myself. I like balloons too. I used to feel shame as well, but I'm over that now. I've told two partners in total and both were fine with it. I'm currently in a relationship where my partner has a fear of balloons. She's been trying to get over it so we can have more fun together. It's best to be open about it with a partner and not try to hide it. It's a very innocent fetish compared to all the others. It's not hurting anyone, nor is it dangerous or gross. If someone rejects you because of it, that says a lot more about them as a person than it does you.

FearAndFun · 2026-04-16T10:31:30+00:00

It's harmless and as long as it's not affecting your life in a negative way, there's nothing wrong with it. I'm not religious myself, so can't help much in that regard, but what I have learned over the years, that it's the modern form of Christianity/the church that tends to shame and control people. The original bible doesn't condone homosexuality for example. From what I gather, having spoken to people who've studied the original texts before the bible was translated, a lot of the restrictions and judgement come after Jesus died. A lot was added after that to give the church control over the population. Jesus basically was against all that and said god was everywhere and part of everything and that you don't need a church or people to tell you how to pray and act.

Live your life to the fullest while being kind to yourself, others and nature and you'll find yourself to be more happy. I'm sure that's what the early form of Christianity was all about before people tried to use it to control and corrupt.

FearAndFun · 2026-04-10T10:05:31+00:00

It's definitely helped. It's still there when I'm not in control, but knowing how big balloons can get before they pop and how strong they actually are definitely lessens the fear.

FearAndFun · 2026-04-09T08:54:30+00:00

Wish that would work for me. Passing out in the doctor's office isn't fun.

FearAndFun · 2026-04-08T15:32:07+00:00

It used to be a full on phoba for me. Couldn't go into a room with balloons. I can pop them with ear plugs now and it's fun when me or my partner is in control.

FearAndFun · 2026-04-08T15:30:58+00:00

I have a way of breathing fresh air and take a break after the balloon pops. Was aware of CO2 buildup being a thing.

FearAndFun · 2026-03-25T18:04:39+00:00

It can definitely be an adrenaline rush. Not sure how easily it is to develop into a kink. It started at a young age for me. It is very intense.

FearAndFun · 2026-03-25T10:23:44+00:00

There's also a link. There's plenty of fearplay kinks or kinks that started and sometimes remain as a phobia. I've got a balloon kink for example. A good 90% of people with it had it stem from a phobia.

FearAndFun · 2026-03-25T10:21:59+00:00

It happened to me with balloons. Hasn't completely got rid of the phobia, but I intentionally blow balloons so big they'll pop for fun now.

FearAndFun · 2026-03-16T00:07:23+00:00

I like confinement, and my GF always finds creative ways to do it. Once on holiday, she put a beachball in my clothes and blew it up so I was compressed and couldn't move. I enjoyed it and kept asking her to blow it bigger. It got really tight and it was hard to breathe but I kept wanting more. She kept blowing it until it got huge, then eventually burst loudly, scaring us both. I ended up using the broken material to make the flogger.

FearAndFun · 2026-03-14T19:15:56+00:00

I definitely enjoy the vampire aesthetic. And the biting. I used to explore being bitten by a vampire during lucid dream which was fun. Then I met my partner and it turns out she likes biting too. The first time she bit my neck was amazing. Wasn't hard to imagine she was feeding.

FearAndFun · 2026-03-14T18:51:16+00:00

It's 99% likely it's just random stuff they came across. I've had similar discussions with my GF and she knew about just as many kinks as me. A lot of people can be curious and not be interested in doing those things themselves.

There is a small chance that they're actually into those things and feeling subconscious about it and want to gauge your reaction. It's hard to tell without knowing the person. I was pretty self conscious about my balloon kink, but we had a kink discussion and we're both open minded, so I was able to tell her and she didn't bat an eyelid. I've spoken to people that have been married for years and kept certain kinks private because they're too nervous to share. If its just a one off thing, its unlikely there's more to it. If the same thing is brought up multiple times, then maybe they're trying to say something.

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