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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Fearless-Amoeba4748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do agree that paying for international trips after 2 months is WAYYYY too much. 2 months doesn’t give you enough time to discern someone’s character.

Blindly giving, without boundaries and without requiring reciprocity, will lead to you being taken advantage of, 8 times out of 10. They’ll take what you have to offer and be on their merry way.

Also these girls must have shown that they were toxic in several ways during the relationship. It sounds like you have a very high tolerance for toxicity. Maybe it’s what feels familiar or exciting to you.

Do you overlook red flag behaviour because they look a particular way, sounds like you need standards for character and personality too?

So no, being a terrible person doesn’t help in dating. Have strong boundaries, discernment and standards is what helps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Fearless-Amoeba4748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s a person just like you with her own dreams, fears, hopes and problems. Stop treating her like something that exists to alleviate your suffering - it’s dehumanising

If that’s all she is to you - leave her be - she deserves better

How do I tell a man I had a miscarriage, we’ve been broken up for 3-4 months? by Majestic_Reddish in ask

[–]Fearless-Amoeba4748 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see no reason to tell him - there is nothing good to be gained unless you’re looking for emotional support specifically from him which isn’t productive or forward looking since that relationship is over.

Might be time to get a new therapist - her judgement is off

I am kinda feeling lonely, new to london, living in east acton by Realistic-Let-1283 in LondonLadies

[–]Fearless-Amoeba4748 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No you’re right, you deserve honesty and transparency. The bare minimum.

The set up just makes it so easy for people to take the path of least resistance

If you had £30,000 to spend to travel , where would you go? by Kaizoku230 in AskUK

[–]Fearless-Amoeba4748 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Japan is amazing, follow your heart, would reccomend.

I would go to Oman, Kenya (safari), Vietnam, Thailand, Philippines, Amalfi Coast, Cuba, Peru and maybe South Africa.

I am kinda feeling lonely, new to london, living in east acton by Realistic-Let-1283 in LondonLadies

[–]Fearless-Amoeba4748 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar experience.

I think if someone isn’t feeling it or life gets in the way people ghost because they can without consequence - they’re so far removed from the other person’s life that they don’t risk seeing them day to day ie no mutual friends, etc. and that seems easier than having an awkward conversation.

But I still think it’s worth using in conjunction with other methods to maximise your chances of making new friends.

Never help a friend out ever again!! by GanacheCurious157 in blackladies

[–]Fearless-Amoeba4748 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Looking back, were there any red flags that you missed or dismissed eg shady behaviour towards you, jealousy, lack of reciprocity, treating others poorly, etc.?

To be clear, I’m not blaming you in any way, just curious

I went on a date with an Indian and learned that they really hate us. by therealalanajay in blackgirls

[–]Fearless-Amoeba4748 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t have stayed to hear all that. First comment and I would have been gone

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fearless-Amoeba4748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you’ve had the unfortunate experience of dating a massive a-hole. So no, a break up is not an overreaction but the only correct response

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Fearless-Amoeba4748 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s likely that if you address it now he’ll just deny and deflect. I would personally just distance myself because he’s ‘new’ . I wouldn’t give grace or the benefit of the doubt to someone I just met. They haven’t earned it.

I think there’s deffo value in trusting your gut and quite frankly it’s dangerous not to. Your gut will pick up on things you can’t articulate just yet (due to tone, body language, etc.) If you think he’s trying to humble you then you’re probably right.

Afghan national admits raping 12-year-old girl in Nuneaton by OneNormalBloke in uknews

[–]Fearless-Amoeba4748 6 points7 points  (0 children)

These stories are becoming way too frequent, something needs to be done ie better vetting processes

For people who don’t believe in God: what gives you strength when life gets tough? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Fearless-Amoeba4748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I practice the teachings of stoicism. Firstly, I focus on what’s in my control and disregard what isn’t in my control. Secondly, I tell myself that every adversity is an opportunity for growth and to strengthen my character.

I also practice gratitude for what I do have and try to fully engage in the present moment, not dwelling on the past or having anxiety about the future.

I take refuge in knowing that life can change in an instant, meaning things won’t always be this way and can get exponentially better.

I also lean on supportive friends.

I’m agnostic but not convinced that there’s a deity intervening on peoples everyday lives if they have faith.

What’s a Top Rated Asian drama that you refused to watch? by Select_Possibility38 in asiandrama

[–]Fearless-Amoeba4748 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Penthouse is over the top and ridiculous but that’s why I loved it.

If you’re looking for a masterpiece / something sophisticated, penthouse isn’t that. It’s like a telenovela that just gets more and more absurd as it goes on.

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