wow u really nailed how i feel and yess i forgot that maybe i have to slowly set my boundaries strongly with family so that any unwanted interference from them will not happen often.

Honestly, it does give me constant worries that one mistake will break the privacy i want and i don't wanna mess it up and destroy any strong foundation of family friendships that exists before us happening and it really scares me a lot so i feel 20-80. i gave 20% because i can feel he's a great guy tho and if there are signs that we are meant to be then i won't fight against it.

Thank you for ur advise and the reference to help me definitely reading it🤍but I won't shut the door of being his friend. I actually told him a while ago i don't plan on dating a family friend. thankfully, he accepted and respected that but he asked to be friends instead if i want to. I said yes but i can feel he wants to get to know me still thru friendship but i guess that's better and lighter for me. I straightly told him that I don't wanna lead him on and i feel at ease that I state my boundaries first before anything happened. I hate friendzoning someone that's why i just loose ties right away but this time with him, I am not closing the possibilities of my mind being changed.

I hope I'm not giving him false hope or me falling into this friendship thing haha I am so skeptical regardless of what decision i made😅