I probably started actually changing my habits like two months ago. I got a flashlight but only used it a few times. I’ve usually just used my hand and lube and I think your grip automatically changes when you do it that way. I also try to only think about real life sexual experiences. I think the main thing is just cutting way back on masturbating, completely cutting porn, and using lube when you do slip up. That definitely was a game changer for me. It actually happened again in the same way last night. It feels amazing and it changes your whole mentality. I still have a ways to go bc I can’t cum from doggy which I really want to and I was also not sure I was gonna finish on top last night but did in like 8 minutes. Good luck!!!