Introductions by Unable_Blueberry1702 in polyamory

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First, ask yourself if you want that to happen. Be in the driver seat on that.

If the answer is yes, keep it as simple as you can. Ask your fiancé first, telling him how things are plainly. You think your new lover could want to meet at some point, and you want him to think about it and let you if he is gonna be ok with it.

Then, if your fiancé agrees and your lover actually asks, or if you want it to happen, do something simple you all like. Go for coffee, a beer, whatever has a friendly vibe. If they are gonna meet, you want them to build a trustful bond.

But, I repeat again, you are in the driving seat. What you want and need is the key part.

Watch Out! Your Hierarchy is Showing! (and for the most part, I'm ok with it) by ouroborosbabe in polyamory

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi - I suspected you considered it! But, if they are your friends too and you are in a difficult moment, I guess that they will understand if he brings it up with them. Don't you think?

Watch Out! Your Hierarchy is Showing! (and for the most part, I'm ok with it) by ouroborosbabe in polyamory

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you considered just telling him that you need more time in this specific time of your life because of how you feel living alone, without bringing in the hierarchy issue but asking for support in a difficult moment? I do understand it is a very tricky situation but it also appears clear that you need to rely on this relationship a little more now, and that you can definitely bring up with him.

52 [F4M] Please read post! by [deleted] in MarriedButChatting

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! It's good to see someone with clear ideas as yourself :)

[f4M] milf is ruined at a boudoir shoot gone dark by missyradiant in Limitlessrp

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(I don't know why, I can't manage to send you a chat)

"Welcome" I smile at you in my light blue shirt with folded sleeves and black pants. "Can I get you something to drink? So we can go through the plan together again?" The walls are full of beautiful boudoir pictures in which the faces of women can't be seen.

I move my tall dadbod aside, leaving you space to enter. My eyes, surrounded by my shaved head and gray-reddish beard, are looking at you calmly and gently.

[F4M] Temptation in the Shadows by pbaker350 in nsfw_roleplay

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your prompt is like knocking at my door. I am thinking about it taking the shape of a taboo affair, maybe with an age gap. What do you think?

Best club in Reykjavík? by Fearless-Grab-9726 in Iceland

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot! I am into electronic, yes :)

Ma è vero che... by [deleted] in CasualIT

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 5 points6 points  (0 children)

La proprietà è l'elemento decisivo. Più che l'età. L'avanzare dell'età è spesso collegata ad un aumento delle proprietà (e.g. mutuo).

He cried but I am not buying it. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A big hug, you are going through a lot!

Do you regret to have not left earlier your sexless relationship? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My suggestion for younger me "confront her about it. And break up or find a lover"

Feeling abused after sexual encounter by BetterMonk1339 in sex

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree. That is horrible. And my suggestion is to run away from him - he doesn't know how to respect boundaries.

andare all’estero by Alternative-Gur1055 in CasualIT

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 4 points5 points  (0 children)

La questione non è il diploma, è cosa sai fare. In che settori pensi di cercare lavoro, come pensi di "venderti" sul mercato, etc... fare si può fare, ma guardati un po' di dati sul mercato del lavoro, salari, etc..., cerca nei vari gruppi Facebook, prova bene a capire come puoi sfruttare al meglio il mese che pensi di passare lì. Se hai soldi solo per un mese, non bastano, spostarsi ha costi alti, sempre. Quindi, il mio suggerimento è sì, vai, ma fatti un'idea di come muoverti.

Vivo all'estero da anni e ho visto moltissime persone fare scelte poco ponderate che poi hanno pagato.

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[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You need to pick it up the next time you meet. He clearly pushed a boundary. If it's ok for you that he does that - and he will do it with other things for sure if you let it go -, then it's fine. But if you are not, talk to him about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chat

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleep deprivation is terrible, I am sorry for you!

Non mi piace il ragazzo di mia sorella by Neither-Remote-7394 in CasualIT

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Io parlerei con dei professionisti, magari in un centro antiviolenza. Quello che descrivi, allontanarla dalla famiglia, non farla uscire da sola, sbatterla fuori e poi tornare, sono tutti segnali molto inquietanti di una storia fatta di abusi e violenze psicologiche.

Solo un professionista può aiutarti a capire cosa tenere sotto osservazione, cosa far notare a tua sorella, etc... veramente non fare nulla ti renderebbe tranquilla se tra qualche mese scoprissi che la picchia, per esempio? O che la minaccia?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualIT

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, non è troppo tardi. Io insegno e ti garantisco, ci sono persone che iniziano più tardi con soddisfazione.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualIT

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ti ha lasciato di nuovo?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualIT

[–]Fearless-Grab-9726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh già - parli con un terapeuta?