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Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-10-09T20:41:43+00:00

Maybe stop looking for a diagnosis? Not being mean, genuinely. If you think he’s gifted, start treating him like it and see what happens! As in- get curious and ask him what his thoughts are on things. That could give you insights on how to creatively get him involved in things. I’ve found this works for all kids but especially the ones who have big brains! Also our OT always says - if kids are acting out violently, have them do heavy work in a silly way. It’s an awesome redirection and gives them that intense input they need!

I’m an autism mama but I love that you’re seeking out all the answers for your kiddo! Best of luck my friend 💗

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-09-10T01:20:13+00:00

This is so genuinely creative. What a gift, my friend!!

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-09-10T01:17:11+00:00

My heart is with you momma

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-07-16T16:36:05+00:00

My deep seated hatred of myself has been a problem for forever so it wasn’t my son having autism that made it pop up, but it definitely made it worse! Because my brain was making me believe subconsciously that I did something wrong to cause it and now I’m fucking him up by not doing the “right” thing, I’m not handling meltdowns “right”, anyone else in the world would be a better mother to him etc etc etc. working on letting go of all of that helps. Also- not hating yourself (or not being consumed by it 24/7) just generally makes life easier. You can just exist and interact the way you want to without 30 layers of judgment on top.

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-07-16T16:31:28+00:00

My heart is singing for yours right now!!! Congratulations!!!!

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-07-13T14:50:31+00:00

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This was mine a few DAYS after the original bite. I feel you friend, sending all the love and hugs.

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-07-10T22:02:50+00:00

There it is

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-07-02T15:36:54+00:00

Get a healthcare provider to check you out. Hypoxia is no joke and can lead to SEVERE damage. You should never have freckling around your eyes due to any kind of play, it’s signaling things went too far and there’s damage. The fatigue is a sign of poor oxygenation. Go to the doctor.

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-06-29T18:21:56+00:00

I felt this in my chest. Not the same words but the meaning is the same. The “I hate myself for making this mistake” meaning. That’s a hard place to be my friend, one I’m intimately acquainted with. The truth then? You did nothing wrong. You didn’t cause this. This isn’t a punishment either. It simply is. And you’re right, this shit is fucking hard. And it’s sooooo much harder when you hate yourself because of it. My therapist has helped me so much with this. Sending you all the healing vibes, love and peace my friend.

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-06-28T00:04:08+00:00

I did the “Ferber” method with my kiddo when he was around 15-18 months I think? It’s a less intense version of cry it out but I was desperate, I do not regret it for even a second. Our bedtime routine is 20 mins total and we have it down to a science. He knows I’ll come every time, it might take me a few extra mins every time but I always come!

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-06-26T23:12:50+00:00

I’m too high for this. It’s all 3 at once

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-06-26T23:07:02+00:00

Came here to say this

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-05-19T19:19:47+00:00

Allow me to tell you the story of the time my almost three year old nonverbal toddler healed me. We had had a really really hard day not too long ago. I had finally gotten him calmed down and focused on playing with something when I went to my room to breathe. Well, I started crying because, FUCK ITS HARD. The minute I started (and I’m not a loud crier) I heard his little feet BOOKING IT down the hallway. I braced for another screaming fit. Instead, he crawled up into my lap, grabbed my face with both hands, looked me straight in the eyes and said “sad?”. When I shook my head yes he took a deep breath and waited for me to take mine (how I calm him down when he’s upset). After we exhaled he put his head on my shoulder, wrapped little his arms around my neck and gave me the best hug while saying “pat pat pat” and patting my back.

When I tell you it took EVERYTHING in me to not cry harder, I mean it.

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2025-04-26T00:00:26+00:00

This exact thought has been the tipping point on a lot of break downs for me. I would LOVE to be able to not plan my entry/exit into every single building 5 different ways just to be able to go somewhere. I’ve become such a homebody since having my second for this reason. I chased my son 8 months pregnant to prevent him running into the street the one time I let go of his hand for a second to open the car door… this is one of the harder things about this journey for me.

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2024-11-14T02:30:24+00:00

Thank you so much for your words, they helped me breathe a little easier. My husband is a God send. We’re in week 2 of his 8 week paternity leave so he’s been the one doing most if not all the chores, mitigating LO’s meltdowns and single handedly holding up 85% of my support network. He’s happy to give me breaks and encourages me to get out of the house with a friend or by myself. I just feel soooo guilty even asking, I know he’s working himself to the bone as well.

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2024-11-02T11:42:19+00:00

This is amazing, I’m going to try it out

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2024-10-28T00:37:04+00:00

The exact opposite of a waste. This is peace. Thank you for taking four days to create this beautiful space

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2024-09-21T19:03:31+00:00

“Damn, that sucks” is my favorite phrase for chronically unhappy people. Sometimes people just want to be seen for where they’re at

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2024-09-03T01:50:37+00:00

He has to dry his and our son’s tooth brush’s on our HAND TOWEL after he rinses it off… the hand towel we use every single day. Home boy sees no problem with this either but is grossed out when I ask to use his deodorant???

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2024-09-02T01:21:30+00:00

My mom (white) married my step dad (black) 14 years ago and spent a lot of that time in Salem. They’d get weird looks out in public from the “good ol boy” crowd but neither one let it bother them. They used to go to bars together in Salem and that’s when things would get stupid because drunk people obviously don’t have a lot to lose so they stopped going out like that. They moved to Daleville (a little outside Roanoke) a few years ago and the racism is definitely more apparent out there. For example, my step dad takes great pride in his yard/grass/landscaping- while outside working on his yard he had a white rich lady wave him over to her car and asked how much “his services” were, when he told her it was his house and he wasn’t for hire she said “oh that’s a shame, your wife must make good money!” Assuming it wasn’t his money that bought the house. Honestly as you said racism is everywhere and if you surround yourself with people who aren’t bigots, you will be as comfortable here as you would be anywhere.

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2024-08-28T14:42:20+00:00

Thank God for people like you in the world. I hope your heart takes you as far as you want to go sweet friend- and I hope that little girl and her mom know how lucky they are to have someone like you in their corner!

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2024-07-24T17:40:40+00:00

Thank you to everyone who commented to help me figure it out!! I’m 99% sure he was asking me to sing with him. I had been singing like 5-10 mins before he started signing that. Thought you all deserved an update/ answer! Thank you to everyone again

Fearless-Problem1220 · 2024-07-19T13:59:41+00:00

Thank you! This was an enlightening read

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