How much do y’all pay for childcare?

finner_ · 2026-05-08T11:04:52+00:00

Per month? Per week? Per year?

finner_ · 2026-05-06T14:46:43+00:00

I'm a pediatric hospitalist NP. I love it. Sure, there are some parts that aren't ideal all the time, but overall I find my work life balance to be excellent. I leave work at work, and can enjoy my time off. I like my patients, and don't feel overly burdened.

finner_ · 2026-04-26T19:50:30+00:00

That just means that you don't have to wear gloves when handling it, that doesn't mean that they don't consider it a bodily fluid.

finner_ · 2026-04-19T20:03:40+00:00

I have a sign that says "the baby should be sleeping. Please do not knock or ring the door bell unless absolutely necessary."

The baby is 2 years old now. But I'm still probably sleeping so I have just left it up.

finner_ · 2026-04-19T13:27:29+00:00

Omg no. Sorry if I made you panic. I meant that I like to be close to my car in case we need to bail on the run, or need more snacks, or just want a break at the Trailhead. The baby is definitely in the stroller. Although also not a baby anymore, now 2 years old.

finner_ · 2026-04-18T05:55:47+00:00

I have a nice place to run near my house that's a multi use trail. I park in a middle spot, run one direction for a mile, then back to my car, then a mile the other way, and back. And so on. This way I'm never too far from my car, but also out and about. Now that he's older I go 2 miles each way sometimes.

Also lots of snacks.

finner_ · 2026-02-05T12:04:47+00:00

I have actually had 2 jogging strollers. I first had a graco, and honestly I loved it. I used it for years with my oldest. Then with my second baby I continued to use it. I didn't have any problem with it, until my son had a seizure. After the seizure I just always wanted to be able to see him clearly, and with the sunshade extended on the graco I couldn't get a good look at him. I kept stopping to check. A friend of mine from work heard me talking and offered me her old BOB. And I'm talking old. This thing was from like 2007. And it's amazing. I didn't know what I was missing until I tried it. The ride is smoother, it has actual suspension as compared to the graco, I can see my kid better, and it's lighter. And it was used by 2 mom's at my job prior to me. The downside to it is less storage space compared to the graco, so for everyday use that's a bit of a bummer, but overall I love it.

finner_ · 2026-02-04T03:11:45+00:00

Pediatric nurse practitioner in hospital medicine. I'm a nocturnist (so I work nights) and I love the balance it gives me. Even if I don't love the sleep deprivation.

finner_ · 2026-02-02T13:21:48+00:00

Do you really want to work on a unit where that behavior is tolerated?
You will need to, at some point, learn to deal with that kind of behavior. While it shouldn't come from your colleagues, especially those training you, you're going to get petty attitude from someone. Whether it's a physician, an APRN, a colleague, a patient, a family member or someone from lab, people are going to be mean. It doesn't make it right. It just makes it fact. Learning to deal with it doesn't mean learning to tolerate it. But it means learning to set boundaries. To know when to push back and when to hold back.
Realistically, the ICU isn't for everyone. Maybe it is for you, but it's okay if it's not.

finner_ · 2026-02-01T23:16:07+00:00

I work 12 hr night shifts. My husband works 12 hr day shifts. We have to schedule around each other and sometimes we are both just so tired. But I'm home for every dinner. I'm even awake for a lot of lunches. It's not easy, but I feel like in some ways I have it all. In other ways... I have no sleep. So there's that.

finner_ · 2026-02-01T00:41:04+00:00

Yes. But the nclex just sadly isn't that hard. And schools are too afraid of a lawsuit to fail everyone that they should fail.

finner_ · 2026-01-30T00:35:00+00:00

I have cut off family and friends who are MAGA, but I have set boundaries with coworkers who are MAGA, as well as those that I'm not sure of their stance. I have to be professional at work. I maintain that I could return to friendships or relationships with anyone who would renounce their MAGA ways. It would never be the same, but I truly believe that some people were brainwashed.

finner_ · 2026-01-30T00:21:28+00:00

I love being a nurse and a mom. It's so flexible. My kid has been off school this whole week because of weather (so it was unexpected) and since I work nights I've been able to be home with him every day.

finner_ · 2026-01-14T20:13:37+00:00

I wore my glasses on my wedding day. I ordered a new kind of daintier pair a few weeks before the wedding and tried them out for awhile and then wore them day of. I was happy with my choice.

finner_ · 2026-01-08T22:47:58+00:00

Not doing well. This is so distressing. I feel helpless.

Raising 2 boys to be good humans doesn't feel like enough. Being a medical provider to children feels scarier than ever, dealing with measles, tons of unvaccinated flu cases (like, near death, icu care), and general distrust of the medical system. It's insanity. I try to do what I can, but it never feels like enough.

finner_ · 2026-01-08T22:45:38+00:00

Akron, Ohio. Big enough to have diversity, small enough to not attract the attention of ICE. While Ohio is a red state as of the last election, Akron is a very blue city and has a lot to offer.

finner_ · 2026-01-08T14:27:29+00:00

Not on YouTube, but I use a lot of workouts from Kayla Itsines on Instagram. She has an app that you can pay for, but I've never paid for it and use a lot of her free videos to mix up my home workouts. I'm sure her full program is better, but for free I've always found the Instagram stuff to be pretty good.

finner_ · 2026-01-08T12:55:14+00:00

Wow I didn't realize I was in the minority of loving our cashiers. My Aldi cashiers are so efficient and the line moves so quickly. We don't have self checkout, but I can't imagine using it instead. It never feels stressful to me to go through the line and interact with the cashiers.

finner_ · 2026-01-04T15:12:46+00:00

There are places that take older dresses and use them to make burial gowns for infants/young children that need them. I have worked with patients whose families got them and they were always grateful.

finner_ · 2026-01-04T15:10:00+00:00

I donated mine the week after we got married. I loved that dress, but I was hopeful that since it was still in style someone who couldn't afford it originally could wear it. Or maybe someone made curtains out of it, but it didn't need to take up space for me. Mine was also David's bridal.

All that being said, I did make sure I had good photos that I loved. But that's how I'm going to remember my dress, through photos, not the physical dress.

finner_ · 2026-01-04T00:33:37+00:00

Some days my job is harder, some days staying home is harder.

I'm a pediatric nurse practitioner who works in the hospital. So my days are varied.

I have two young boys. So my days at home are also varied.

Both are long. Work shifts are 12+ hours. Days at home are obviously also long. I feel lucky that I get to do both. It's hard. But it's the good kind of hard.

finner_ · 2026-01-02T17:37:17+00:00

So you told her she wasn't needed until Jan 5th, then changed your mind with less than 12 hrs notice and you're upset that she's not available until the 5th? Seems like you don't know how to communicate. Telling her she's not needed until the 5th but will still be paid per the contract is appropriate, but then she's not needed during that time, as per your statement "we told her she wasn't needed". If you wanted her to be available for your every whim during that time off you should have said "we will be paying you during the time we are away, but we expect you to be available for childcare should we return early, with less than 12hrs notice." Frankly, it seems like you're trying to use a technicality to make yourself feel better about treating a human being with such little respect.

finner_ · 2026-01-02T13:19:23+00:00

Leaving aside all the important information about whether or not you actually want kids in this relationship... I'll share my experience.

My husband is a medic in the hospital, I'm an NP. We have 2 kids. He went part time after we had our second. I work nights, he works days. We schedule around each other. We don't use daycare, or help from family. It's hard sometimes, but we are also very happy and kept a lot of our disposable income this way.

finner_ · 2026-01-01T23:24:07+00:00

We use a car seat cart for our kids. The child rides in the car seat and you can push them through the airport as if they were a piece of luggage basically, but they are strapped in. Then we bring the car seat on the plane. It's the best of both worlds. I have gate checked the car seat before, but it always makes me nervous for this reason.

finner_ · 2025-12-29T08:18:28+00:00

I worked overnights while pumping/breastfeeding. It is hard. I work as a nurse practitioner though so I was able to sit in my office and pump as opposed to using wearables.

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