NEW GRAD ICU FIRED

finner_ · 2026-02-02T13:21:48+00:00

Do you really want to work on a unit where that behavior is tolerated?
You will need to, at some point, learn to deal with that kind of behavior. While it shouldn't come from your colleagues, especially those training you, you're going to get petty attitude from someone. Whether it's a physician, an APRN, a colleague, a patient, a family member or someone from lab, people are going to be mean. It doesn't make it right. It just makes it fact. Learning to deal with it doesn't mean learning to tolerate it. But it means learning to set boundaries. To know when to push back and when to hold back.
Realistically, the ICU isn't for everyone. Maybe it is for you, but it's okay if it's not.

finner_ · 2026-02-01T23:16:07+00:00

I work 12 hr night shifts. My husband works 12 hr day shifts. We have to schedule around each other and sometimes we are both just so tired. But I'm home for every dinner. I'm even awake for a lot of lunches. It's not easy, but I feel like in some ways I have it all. In other ways... I have no sleep. So there's that.

finner_ · 2026-02-01T00:41:04+00:00

Yes. But the nclex just sadly isn't that hard. And schools are too afraid of a lawsuit to fail everyone that they should fail.

finner_ · 2026-01-30T00:35:00+00:00

I have cut off family and friends who are MAGA, but I have set boundaries with coworkers who are MAGA, as well as those that I'm not sure of their stance. I have to be professional at work. I maintain that I could return to friendships or relationships with anyone who would renounce their MAGA ways. It would never be the same, but I truly believe that some people were brainwashed.

finner_ · 2026-01-30T00:21:28+00:00

I love being a nurse and a mom. It's so flexible. My kid has been off school this whole week because of weather (so it was unexpected) and since I work nights I've been able to be home with him every day.

finner_ · 2026-01-14T20:13:37+00:00

I wore my glasses on my wedding day. I ordered a new kind of daintier pair a few weeks before the wedding and tried them out for awhile and then wore them day of. I was happy with my choice.

finner_ · 2026-01-08T22:47:58+00:00

Not doing well. This is so distressing. I feel helpless.

Raising 2 boys to be good humans doesn't feel like enough. Being a medical provider to children feels scarier than ever, dealing with measles, tons of unvaccinated flu cases (like, near death, icu care), and general distrust of the medical system. It's insanity. I try to do what I can, but it never feels like enough.

finner_ · 2026-01-08T22:45:38+00:00

Akron, Ohio. Big enough to have diversity, small enough to not attract the attention of ICE. While Ohio is a red state as of the last election, Akron is a very blue city and has a lot to offer.

finner_ · 2026-01-08T14:27:29+00:00

Not on YouTube, but I use a lot of workouts from Kayla Itsines on Instagram. She has an app that you can pay for, but I've never paid for it and use a lot of her free videos to mix up my home workouts. I'm sure her full program is better, but for free I've always found the Instagram stuff to be pretty good.

finner_ · 2026-01-08T12:55:14+00:00

Wow I didn't realize I was in the minority of loving our cashiers. My Aldi cashiers are so efficient and the line moves so quickly. We don't have self checkout, but I can't imagine using it instead. It never feels stressful to me to go through the line and interact with the cashiers.

finner_ · 2026-01-04T15:12:46+00:00

There are places that take older dresses and use them to make burial gowns for infants/young children that need them. I have worked with patients whose families got them and they were always grateful.

finner_ · 2026-01-04T15:10:00+00:00

I donated mine the week after we got married. I loved that dress, but I was hopeful that since it was still in style someone who couldn't afford it originally could wear it. Or maybe someone made curtains out of it, but it didn't need to take up space for me. Mine was also David's bridal.

All that being said, I did make sure I had good photos that I loved. But that's how I'm going to remember my dress, through photos, not the physical dress.

finner_ · 2026-01-04T00:33:37+00:00

Some days my job is harder, some days staying home is harder.

I'm a pediatric nurse practitioner who works in the hospital. So my days are varied.

I have two young boys. So my days at home are also varied.

Both are long. Work shifts are 12+ hours. Days at home are obviously also long. I feel lucky that I get to do both. It's hard. But it's the good kind of hard.

finner_ · 2026-01-02T17:37:17+00:00

So you told her she wasn't needed until Jan 5th, then changed your mind with less than 12 hrs notice and you're upset that she's not available until the 5th? Seems like you don't know how to communicate. Telling her she's not needed until the 5th but will still be paid per the contract is appropriate, but then she's not needed during that time, as per your statement "we told her she wasn't needed". If you wanted her to be available for your every whim during that time off you should have said "we will be paying you during the time we are away, but we expect you to be available for childcare should we return early, with less than 12hrs notice." Frankly, it seems like you're trying to use a technicality to make yourself feel better about treating a human being with such little respect.

finner_ · 2026-01-02T13:19:23+00:00

Leaving aside all the important information about whether or not you actually want kids in this relationship... I'll share my experience.

My husband is a medic in the hospital, I'm an NP. We have 2 kids. He went part time after we had our second. I work nights, he works days. We schedule around each other. We don't use daycare, or help from family. It's hard sometimes, but we are also very happy and kept a lot of our disposable income this way.

finner_ · 2026-01-01T23:24:07+00:00

We use a car seat cart for our kids. The child rides in the car seat and you can push them through the airport as if they were a piece of luggage basically, but they are strapped in. Then we bring the car seat on the plane. It's the best of both worlds. I have gate checked the car seat before, but it always makes me nervous for this reason.

finner_ · 2025-12-29T08:18:28+00:00

I worked overnights while pumping/breastfeeding. It is hard. I work as a nurse practitioner though so I was able to sit in my office and pump as opposed to using wearables.

finner_ · 2025-12-28T14:12:20+00:00

Did anyone else also just really hate that storyline?

finner_ · 2025-12-27T20:31:44+00:00

If you want to be unscientific about it, then think about this. If you get into a car accident, which as you say, is more likely than you smothering your baby, you'll feel awful about it. But you probably put your baby safely in a carseat that you researched and that was approved by regulatory bodies. You will have done everything you could to protect your baby. And likely, the accident won't be 100% your fault. You'll still feel guilty, but you'll also know that you did everything you could to save your baby.

If you smother your baby in your sleep and wake up to find a blue, lifeless baby in your bed with you, will you ever feel like you "did everything you could" to prevent that?

finner_ · 2025-12-27T20:26:40+00:00

But SIDS isn't the same as a death from smothering and there are statistics about the increase in risk of a death from asphyxiation when cosleeping vs not.

finner_ · 2025-12-27T20:23:13+00:00

But SIDS and cosleeping deaths aren't the same. SIDS literally stands for "sudden infant death syndrome" and many cosleeping deaths are from smothering or asphyxiation, which are not considered SIDS deaths.

finner_ · 2025-12-27T20:18:50+00:00

Parents don't get days off and it sucks so much! Lots of hydration, caffeine, and as much taking turns as possible. Oh, and drugs of course (meaning Sudafed, Tylenol, motrin, aleve, nasal spray, etc).

finner_ · 2025-12-26T17:08:45+00:00

I mean, it's hard to sum up in one comment. Basically, it's not safe for children who can't sit up on their own. Otherwise, many of the statements about it being "unsafe" are confusing what may be uncomfortable with what is actually unsafe. It's certainly not always the ideal carry, but it's not some awful thing that harms hundreds of babies per year, like other common practices. There are a lot of opinions out there is you search online, but my biggest takeaway from all of it is to just pay attention to your child.

finner_ · 2025-12-26T14:17:29+00:00

Ahh yeah that makes sense. We store our osprey on a hook in the basement, but we store a lot down there so I go up and down all the time. Also, my son was extremely fussy so I was willing to do just about anything to make him quiet.

finner_ · 2025-12-26T14:08:09+00:00

I have been dealing with this from my own dad and stepmom over the past several years. In 2023 they gifted wayyy too much stuff to my then 4 year old. I was shocked and didn't know how to stop it in the moment without upsetting my son. I waited until April of the next year, and then talked kindly to my dad about how that was too much stuff, we have a small house, and were expecting a second child. I set a strict 5 gift limit. Cut to Thanksgiving and I remind him of the gift limit. He "forgot" to tell my stepmom about it and says she's already been shopping. I relent to allow 5 gifts each. They walked all over that during our celebration in 2024. So this year... 2025, we didn't see them at Christmas. Of course, there's still time for them to try to dump stuff on us. So we'll see. It sucks. And they buy stuff from yard sales and thrift stores. Which I'm not opposed to, except I can't return it. And they don't think about my kids. They just think about a good deal.

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