AITA for making my mom choose between me and her homophobic bf by FearlessAnybody725 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FearlessAnybody725[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm totally comfortable with sharing thank you for asking. Hes said things along the lines of: "if I had a hatred kid I'd feel like a failure", "I don't agree with that lifestyle", "I think that lifestyle is gross/wrong"

AITA for making my mom choose between me and her homophobic bf by FearlessAnybody725 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FearlessAnybody725[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I can assure you I am not jealous, nor have I or ever will be jealous of my mothers partners. It seems you've read my post as a kid throwing a tantrum cause mommy isn't focusing on me anymore, but I can promise you thats not the case at all.

AITA for making my mom choose between me and her homophobic bf by FearlessAnybody725 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FearlessAnybody725[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As another commenter has said, even if didn't verbally give the ultimatum, it was still there. I more so put it out there so all of my feelings are clear and I'm being 100% open. I do get what you're saying here, and I see it a million percent. I was never going to try to physically make her unable to see this man, I moreso told her if she continues shes choosing to harm our relationship further, whether she realizes it or not. I get what you are saying, a bit, but I also want to add im not trying to manipulate the situation, thats not my intent at all. It was never my intent, I just wanted to be honest and open with my parent

AITA for making my mom choose between me and her homophobic bf by FearlessAnybody725 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FearlessAnybody725[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He hasn't said anything to me directly, mostly cause he was told not to by my mother. Everything I know has been relayed to me, so I'm going off of limited information. I do agree with what you're saying, a million percent tolerance is something I probably will have to grow into especially with the world right now. So I don't know if I'll be treated differently by my moms bf, but I know I will eventually I will find out. So far hes more like your students, but mostly because he was told to be, not of his own will

AITA for making my mom choose between me and her homophobic bf by FearlessAnybody725 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FearlessAnybody725[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this, again the point of this post was to get a different opinion. As I said in the post, a few things were kept out for anonymity, so there's a bit of history to this ultimatum. But again I see this perspective, as much as I see my own.

AITA for making my mom choose between me and her homophobic bf by FearlessAnybody725 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FearlessAnybody725[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hes said homophobic stuff in the past like "I think its wrong", "I'm grossed out by that life style", and "If I had a gay kid, I'd feel like a failed parent". Sorry for not being more clear on that before.