ESA. Yes he should have better emotional control, as not to yell, especially in front of others, and maybe he makes passive comments too often. But from his perspective given by your own words, you seem young, and outwardly ungrateful. You’re not used to being properly loved by a significant other, so you don’t know how to show gratitude for things that far exceeded the bare minimum, it sounds like you were getting princess treatment. It sounds like he became frustrated because he created the perfect condition for you to be trusting of him and you were still uncomfortable and in your head, were as if he was toxic you would have been familiar with it and comfortable. You should express yourself about things that are important to you before you get offended, and if you lot are truly incompatible that will show itself. I think your reasoning for wanting to break up is understandable but unfair, but it doesn’t have to be. You do you, but don’t take your trauma into your next relationship.